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how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 6:22:27 PM

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How should a gay master/slave- boyfriend relationship work? I'm the master of the relationship. What I'm wondering is how do you treat your slave? How do you make things work out as a relationship but keep him a slave to. Should I treat him like my bf and during sex treat him as my slave or should he be my slave at all times? I don't want to run him off. Thank u so much,MasterScott.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 6:27:51 PM

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All due respect and I honestly am not being sarcastic or snarky when asking this, but why are you asking other people who arent in your relationship how you should conduct your relationship? Its your relationship, my friend. Do it your way because you should be doing what you feel is right for you, not what people who dont really know you think is best for you. This honestly should have been things that you and your boyfriend should have talked about when you established your relationship. I do wish you the best and congratulations on your new relationship.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 6:29:20 PM

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You'll find those answers in your partner, not here.
Discuss this with him during some casual time.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 6:30:52 PM

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This really comes down to what the two of you want in this relationship. There isn't any set style or best-for-everyone way to M/s relationships.

Best would be to do some thinking on what you want, have him do the same, then have a sit-down talk about how those compare and what direction sounds best to go in. Take the amount of control sounds like the best course of action at first for you two, then adjust as you go and find what works for you.

While we are a differently-sexed couple, Chael is always my sub/slave all the time. We're very much a loving, sexing couple while at the same time being master and slave all the time, not just in the bedroom.

Other partners I have had very vanilla romance/sex/friendship relationships with and only limited power over them.

And some I've had little to no friendship or vanilla attachment at all to and they were purely servants.

You have to figure out what you want and how to get there. Other folks can help with tips and ideas on getting to the goal or relationship you two decide on, but we can't tell you what sort of relationship, itself, will suit you and your boyfriend.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 7:35:42 PM

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Your profile says you've been a Master for a year.

Any Master would know the answer to your question. Ask yourself.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/24/2012 7:39:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: Master4b0yWV
How should a gay master/slave- boyfriend relationship work?

Not gay myself but most of what I'm going to say ought to translate anyway.

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What I'm wondering is how do you treat your slave?

Treat her? I treat her like the most fucking awesome person on the face of the planet.

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How do you make things work out as a relationship but keep him a slave to.

Those are one and the same. She stays my slave because I've shown that I can run the relationship well.

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Should I treat him like my bf and during sex treat him as my slave or should he be my slave at all times?

Up to you. The first of those is called "bottom" although more and more "slave" is coming to mean anything at all anyway. Why don't you treat him in the way which works for you and he both?

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I don't want to run him off. Thank u so much,MasterScott.

Why are you worried about "running him off"? Look... you're the boss. Don't be an asshat. All will work out well.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/25/2012 7:26:31 AM

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How do you want to treat him?
How does he want to be treated?
Do those circles overlap?

Do you want to just be bf/partners, and have fun and games in the bedroom?
Do you want to micromanage every part of his life?
Somewhere in between?
Is love involved anywhere?

No one here knows the answer to any of those. I have no way of knowing whether you are compatible or whether your sex kinks complement each other or whether your relationship dynamic needs complement each other. These are the things you both have to determine for yourselves and then whether there is a fit between you.

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RE: how to treat ur gay slave/boyfriend - 12/25/2012 1:42:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Master4b0yWV

How should a gay master/slave- boyfriend relationship work? I'm the master of the relationship. What I'm wondering is how do you treat your slave? How do you make things work out as a relationship but keep him a slave to. Should I treat him like my bf and during sex treat him as my slave or should he be my slave at all times? I don't want to run him off. Thank u so much,MasterScott.

The answer is simple: Read the official rule book that everyone involved in BDSM is issued. It has the right answer to everything. You never have to decide anything for yourself.

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