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ARIES83 -> Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 3:44:17 PM)

I don't know if everyone has one, a code of ethics,
a behavioural compass, rules of thumb? something
they have developed, been taught or learned...
A guide to help them stay on track as far as who
they want to be.

Words of wisdom that have sunk in to really effect
the actions you take or your decision making
process?

I think most of us will have something like this,
although we might call it something different, and
I'm sure no two are alike.

Do you have personal guidelines that you try live
by? What are they?

-Aries



SinFix -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 3:51:58 PM)

Mine are pretty straight forward...

Do unto others as you would have done unto you..
pay it forward...
take personal responsibility for my part/actions in things
do my best to listen/understand anothers view
that we are all equals, treat everybody the same



needlesandpins -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 3:55:13 PM)

i do, and i've brought my son up by those too. to know right from wrong, and to make the right choices even if it is at our own expence. to not let others drag us down the wrong path, but to stand our ground for what is right. to look out for others, and help where we can. to share what we have when we can. to not judge someone on what others say, but to make up our own mind based on how that person is with us. general stuff like that really.

needles



Kaliko -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 3:59:16 PM)

I try to remove any expectation that others will act as I would in a given situation. It doesn't always work, of course. I'm only human. But I do try, and I like that I can feel myself get better at it. I believe that hurt and disappointment - and judgement - come when someone does something differently than what we would do. Entering into any type of interaction - whether it's a long-term romance or a one-minute dialogue with the cashier - I try to remove expectations of their behavior. In my own little world, this helps me to be a better version of myself. I'm constantly trying to improve on it.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 4:01:25 PM)

I live by A True Dom�s Credo



JeffBC -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 4:48:48 PM)

In broad brush strokes mine is easy to describe.

I want people to be at least slightly better off, happier, whatever for having met me than not. I monitor my relationships regularly for that. Like always with me I'm interested in actual results rather than vague hypotheticals so I measure.

That's how I measure myself and everyone else. When I hear some freaky relationship on here that's the yardstick I use... "is it generating smiles?"



Level -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 5:00:10 PM)

If I can look at myself in the mirror, and if I can sleep well at night, those are my benchmarks.



TheBoyDownBelow -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 5:09:00 PM)

Simple: Do no harm. But that is work in progress, the learning never ends. After all we are all human.



JeffBC -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 5:15:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheBoyDownBelow
Simple: Do no harm.

That made me think for a moment so I'll amend my statement...

I want people to be at least slightly better off, happier, whatever for having met me than not unless I specifically do not want that. I'm also fine with conflict and when I do get into a conflict I like to win which inevitably will result in "doing harm". I'm good with that.



stellauk -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 7:12:52 PM)

If you want to make someone happy show some kindness and compassion.

If you want to be happy show some kindness and compassion.

It doesn't matter how much kindness and compassion is wasted, because it costs you nothing to begin with.



Aylee -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 7:18:06 PM)

When you choose an action, you choose the consequences of that action.

Also the corollary of this axiom: when you desire a consequence you had damned well better take the action that will create it.

Cordelia Vorkosigan



Kirata -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 7:21:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

Do you have personal guidelines that you try live by? What are they?

I'm sure I'd find I have a set of them, if I thought about it, but for something that pulls them all together I'd go with this:

I would choose so to live that I might be willing that I should live that life a thousand times, even forever. I would choose so to live that I might stand boldly with my deed without regret throughout eternity. ~Misk

K.



littlewonder -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 10:05:13 PM)

Yes I do. I have very strict morals and values and I live by them every single day to the best of my abilities.

My morals and values are simply to live in a way that pleases God and Master.



saundrakitty -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/29/2012 10:30:48 PM)

Yes i have to say that even i have a person code of conduct that helps to center the person who i am or who I will be in the future. First and foremost is that i will walk the way the lord meant me to on his journey as he know better the way i should go. Second when with my master I should always respect his wishes and needs, as He is tiring to make me stronger on my journey through life. Third is also to try to do no harm, unless its to some one whose harmed a kid ( then ALL bets are off- and He or She will Lose ). Fourth never judge least you be judged ( and I struggle with this one some times- after all I am Human) and that their rights to be respected should be a given- until they prove they are not to be trusted by their own deeds and action- and not by false information given by other.



NuevaVida -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/30/2012 8:13:54 PM)

My personal code of conduct is to contribute positivity out into the universe. Do my intentions come from a loving place, or not? Is the intention behind my words to make someone feel good or bad? If the former in both cases, then I'm on the right path. One area I work on is one of the Four Agreements: "Be impeccable with your word."



LadyPact -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/30/2012 8:29:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83
Do you have personal guidelines that you try live
by? What are they?

-Aries
Yes, I do. Of course, like most people, I sometimes fail in My aspirations. At the same time, I am way harder on Myself than I am on others.
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TheHeretic -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/30/2012 9:06:04 PM)

I'm a decent sort, and a pretty nice guy under normal circumstances, but if we bring it all the way down to the bottom line, it is, "don't get caught, and don't go to the emergency room alone."



FollowingStars -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/30/2012 9:24:23 PM)

FR

Everyone is human, so everyone misses the mark on occasion, but I have certain standards I try hard to meet. I think I manage fairly well, but I'm always working on improving.

1) never deflect onto someone else responsibility for an act if the responsibility is mine. Personal accountability is a very big deal to me.

2) whenever possible, if it doesn't harm myself or others, give help to those that need it.

3) say 'I'm sorry' as often as necessary, with sincerity and the intent to make amends. Pride standing in the way of an apology is just adding insult to injury. Nothing heals when pride takes precedence over justice and kindness.

I'm sure I have others, but those are the three that came to mind first.



RemoteUser -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/30/2012 9:30:51 PM)

I like to accept people as they are, and encourage them in their endeavours, but the only time it's worth controlling is when that control is given. Then, I take it very, very seriously.

I also like to show by example what I want or expect, so I stick to my word; live what I preach; and accept my shortcomings for what they are.

Simplicity makes life run smoother. [8D]



Silentrunner26 -> RE: Personal code of conduct. (12/31/2012 3:23:07 AM)

Help when and where you can . It may not pay forward but at least I tried .
Answer any question as honest as I can . Getting harder in my old age to remember the lies .
When asked for help give it if not have a damn good reason other than I don't want to .
Always remember the one who asked for help and I turned my back on .
Mever let it happen again .



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