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JeffBC -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 4:13:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ccc3333
Prior to meeting... she says she never ever gives out her picture ever prior to meeting.... for "identity reasons" this sounds like a conartist.
It doesn't to me. You are entitled to your desires, process and needs. But they are not mine.
I don't bond with boobs. I bond with people. I also don't leap into relationships because my primary relationship is the most important thing in the world to me by far. So for me, by the time I want to meet with someone I've already decided I like them as a human being. I think they are honest and honorable. why would I assume they are lying about their physical characteristics? And if they are, so what? It's good for me to know that right now, eh?
Just to point out how far this goes people all the time are surprised by the fact that I have never even looked at their photos. Some times people that I have considered friends for multiple years I still haven't looked. Why would I? I don't need to know what someone looks like to like them. I've been chatting in private with a young domme here and she has a SMOKING HOT avatar picture (that is really her I'd bet a bajillion dollars). And note my confidence that despite how smoking hot that photo is that I know it's real. I'd be utterly stunned if I found out that weren't true. The reason I know that is that I've already sized her up as a human first. Had I not, I wouldn't be wasting my time with her.
Anyway, we've been chatting back and forth about her profile. So I've gone into it several times to review it in-depth. She just made an assumption that I, of course, knew what some of her kinks were. I don't. It wasn't listed in the text I was reading or else I was not interested in the list o' kink so it's not even in my brain. I never looked at her "likes" section. Nor do I even have a clue if she's got a profile photo shown. I know there's that photo I see when I open up the cmail. That's it.
That's what I mean when I say I bond with people not boobs. My interaction with her or anyone else is about the human I'm interacting with. The body doesn't even get into the picture until much, much later and my standards there aren't complex... something roughly HWP works. If she'd lie about such a basic and simple thing then I need to review my own spidey sense because it failed me.
So no, it wouldn't phase me one bit if a woman didn't want to send a pic. Matter of fact, the only reason I could even think to ask for one would be to help identify her when we met and that's not a very strong reason. I most likely would not have even thought to ask for one.
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