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shosho268 -> unsure (1/1/2013 5:39:25 PM)
well i think i would like to be a sub but am not sure what kind and am also a virgin and i dont know if a dom/master would want an untrained virgin

MyHazelLabyrinth -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 5:50:55 PM)
why do you think you want to be a sub? What is it about being a sub that appeals to you? what do you mean by "what kind"? an untrained virgin...wth does that mean? More info required.

shosho268 -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 6:20:29 PM)
im not really sure why it just stands out to me if you get what i mean and i meant like a sub, slave or pet am a virgin and i have never done anything

poise -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 6:53:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shosho268 unsure well i think i would like to be a sub but am not sure what kind and am also a virgin and i dont know if a dom/master would want an untrained virgin quote: ORIGINAL: shosho268 im not really sure why it just stands out to me if you get what i mean and i meant like a sub, slave or pet am a virgin and i have never done anything I think the challenge you offer a potential Dom isn't that you're a virgin, but that you are unsure about the very dynamic itself, and where you could possibly fit into it. This is going to hinder you in your search as well, because you don't know what type of Dominant would suit you best. I highly suggest you put your profile on hide and do lots of reading here, because you will be getting inundated with lots of emails, and not everyone on this site has good intent. You might also get lots of good information from some of the recommended books here. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

DarkSteven -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 7:14:54 PM)
Screw training. If a man wants you (Dom or otherwise), the two of you will have to work to make it mesh. The fact that you have no experience is no better or worse than you having experience that would be different than your man would give you. Be very careful about using the word "training". A lot of unscrupulous men call themselves Doms and use that word to con women into giving them no-commitment play. Let me explain what poise just said about hiding your profile. You're 18, likely gorgeous, and naive. You also think of yourself as damaged goods due to inexperience. You are prime pickings for a manipulative man.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 7:48:52 PM)
I will add my 1cent worth here.Absolutely agree with Poise-before you can ride you need to crawl first..:0)--and not the BDSM kind either..oy!Think of it this way..you are wishing to play tennis, do you start with wimbledon or do you take baby steps to know the art of tennis, time is your friend-take it...learn,question, and then question some more...possibly find other submissives that you respect by looking at their postings and dialogue with them,ask them their thoughts on a subject..then go from there and figure out what is right for you.but always listen to your gut...and take your time, whats the hurry, right? Tempting

shosho268 -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 8:14:44 PM)
thank that all really help

littlewonder -> RE: unsure (1/1/2013 9:32:51 PM)
be you. find someone that wants you as you.

OsideGirl -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 9:20:21 AM)
I'm also going to add that it would probably be a wise move to get out into your local community and find an experienced sub female to be your mentor.

JeffBC -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 11:27:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder be you. find someone that wants you as you. +LIKE

absolutchocolat -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 12:16:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl I'm also going to add that it would probably be a wise move to get out into your local community and find an experienced sub female to be your mentor. Cosign. Or talk to some of the lovely subs on this forum. They're wise and knowledgeable about a range of subjects, both kink and non-kink. ETA: meant to reply to the OP. my bad.

OhRose -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 1:39:49 PM)
You'd be surprised how little "training" means to people, or experience in general. I'm an "untrained virgin" and I get all kinds of messages everyday. It's just about making yourself look appealing on your profile, then finding somebody who's worth spending the time on.

Kana -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 5:23:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder be you. find someone that wants you as you. So he can fuck you raw!

DarkSteven -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 5:59:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl I'm also going to add that it would probably be a wise move to get out into your local community and find an experienced sub female to be your mentor. Brilliant. [sm=agree.gif][sm=goodpost.gif]

SimplyMichael -> RE: unsure (1/2/2013 8:15:30 PM)
Lots and lots of men will want you. The real question is what sort of men...

DesFIP -> RE: unsure (1/3/2013 3:48:46 PM)
It's a relationship. You get to decide what kind of relationship you want. Then don't agree to anything that doesn't fit your needs. You're already pretty good at realizing when a guy is just handing out a line or you wouldn't still be a virgin. Keep those instincts and keep listening to your gut. Any guy worth being with will want you to be comfortable moving forward. The guys who don't care if you're comfortable are the ones not worth bothering with. And make good use of the block and ignore buttons.

BambiBoi -> RE: unsure (1/3/2013 7:38:54 PM)
Just a quick note... I've gathered that virginity is a big deal for some reason, and apparently a bigger deal the longer you keep it? If certain kinds of contact/play/insertion are going to be problematic for you then be sure to tell your top/dominant. Make sure he or she understands. Maybe people, especially the young, eager, dominant men see BDSM as a free ticket to ride, so to speak. To be more vulgar, they see BDSM as a way to get to sex faster because "I said so." Any dominant worth his salt will understand your particular wishes on that topic.

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