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Shininglight23 -> PA --> CA..impossible? I think not! (1/5/2013 6:36:15 PM)
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With the permission of our very lovely VAChi I'm going to resubmit the positive experiences of me and my Mister. Without CM I would have never met him, and my life would be drastically different. (I'm not sure if any of you read the 1st attempt a couple months back, but it was pulled because he is no longer on this site..hence no username. Just in case you are wondering.)
In March of 2008 I was still relatively new to CM. I got mail from all the usual suspects... wankers, "unusual" people, and people I generally wasn't interested in. I wasn't willing to give up yet, but I was getting frustrated.
One day I logged in and received a genuine..well thought out cmail from someone across the country. I remember thinking "Whoa buddy, this is going nowhere because I live in PA and you're in CA." Against what I thought was my better judgement (it all works out in the end [;)]) we continued communicating rather heavily over the next month.
In the beginning of April I flew to California for a 2 week vacation. The flight was stressful and essentially a nightmare. I literally had to beg the flight attendant to reopen the jet bridge door to let me on the plane in Chicago. (I watched her close it as I was running down the concourse! [sm=gaah.gif]) She let me on and off to CA I was!
I remember getting off the plane in San Jose and seeing his smiling face.. for the first time.. in the flesh. I couldn't stop smiling. My heart was shining and I couldn't help but feel over the moon to be where he was.
We spent the drive back to his house chatting, laughing, and loving every moment. On the ride home.. Mark said something to me that I found true.. even now. Laughing is bonding. For whatever reason.. that stuck, and I'm glad that it did. I applied that in different relationships in my life...sometimes people don't know how to relate... but have a good laugh... and things are generally not as stressful. [sm=lol.gif]
There are moments in my life that I will never forget, and a lot of those moments are from those two weeks I spent with him. We drove down the coast, had picnics, read to each other, and basked in the glow of fresh and new love (or was it lust and infatuation?).
As my "vacation" was coming to an end...we were driving down Highway 1 (every tourist has to drive on Highway 1, right?) and we stopped at a beach to have a meal. I remember thinking how amazing it was because there were no other people and no foot prints. It was as if we were the first people there. (I'm not delusional though.. I know we weren't!) In that moment..eating a salad, playing cards, and drinking in the sunlight.. I realized that I loved him.
Two weeks is a decent amount of time that's gone in the blink of an eye. Next thing I knew... we were at the San Jose's Giants baseball game, and I was leaving in the morning.
I was a sad girl, but I had a job and school and my life was in PA. I had to leave my Stocach.
We communicated regularly after that, but I decided I wasn't ready to make the move. I couldn't leave my family.. my job... add any other excuse you want... I couldn't do it. Now, I chalk it up to being 19 and afraid.
Over the next 4 years we communicated off and on. We would send emails, and birthday cards, but remained distant. I hadn't heard from him in at least 6 months, and he sent me a "last ditch attempt" email. Little did I know that would change my life.
We started communicating regularly again, and I was ready for another visit. This time we discussed a future instead of hiding behind hopes and dreams. Falsehoods of everything being magical and great all the time. We were open and honest about what we wanted and needed from each other.
I came back out to California in April of 2012. I was in California for 1 week, but instead of taking a "vacation" I thought it would be better to live as if I was here full time. I wanted to know what I was "getting into" if I moved. We still had a great time!
In April of 2012 we went to the beach, and shared meals. He loves to read together, and I learned to like it almost as much. We play games and talk about just about everything. (Too much about politics in my opinion!)
This past summer (right after I moved) I had a family emergency with my Mom. I couldn't have asked for a better supporter, lover, or friend. Not only did he encourage me to stay true to who I am (the "fixer" in my family) but he encouraged me and loved me in spite of my bad moods, lack of sleep, and sometimes crappy attitude.
I am so lucky to have this man in my life. Without CM I would have never met him.. I would still be in PA (I'm sure) looking...for a second best option.
I just want to say THANK YOU! to CollarME, and the people who make this site possible. Without you.. I wouldn't be living with the man (who is usually) more than I could ever ask for. [:D]
Allie
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