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littlewonder -> RE: Are "Dom" and "Bully" mutually exclusive? (1/9/2013 9:30:08 PM)
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Same answer as I gave to Athena's. I don't necessarily equate the two. When I see others calling a Dom a bully I always think that they really don't know the entire story. We only have on side. I also think that what some see as bullying, others see as just a normal part of their relationship. I can't tell you how many times I've seen on here where a Dom did something that everyone else sees as bullying but for Master and I, it's completely normal and just a part of our relationship. There is a context to every story and we don't know both sides. Again, I think people get too wrapped up in their emotions and automatically give a reply from their past experiences.
ETA: I see others saying bullying is dominating someone with fear. I don't necessarily see that as true. There have been times when Master uses fear to dominate me. He's a sadist, so of course he will! Yeah, there are times I'm scared to death of what he will do to me, but I'm his slave. I agreed to this. This is who we are. I still love him. I'm not afraid of him as a person though....only at times when his actions make me want to scream and run. This is where my trust in him comes in, where I know in the end he's not going to kill me. Yeah, I may hurt, I may be left with permanent scars, I may be left with bruises everywhere, etc...but I'm still going to be alive and functioning.
So what that says to me is it all comes down to one simple word.....trust.
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