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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/10/2013 9:08:55 PM

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When you take someone anally when laying on your back and getting them to sit on your cock, its going to go in a lot deeper.

You know, I'd never even considered that position before. I was wondering if it was even possible.

YEP!! It's possible alright!

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"There's no one position that's inherently more Dominant or submissive, at least not in my mind."

"I also know some positions offer more power and control."

Speaking of "positions", I wish you'd pick which side of the fence you're coming from.

I have no problem whatsoever making both statements. Sure some positions offer more power and control, but it depends on what you do with it too, how you use it.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/10/2013 9:53:43 PM

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While I've never have had one used on me in any hole, I do look forward to it.

I think for the domme it is the subjugation of the receiver. She is using a toy on you and you love it.

When I finally do get one, I fantasize how it will leave available my other holes for better things. that's how we should all think.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/11/2013 5:12:50 AM

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Power is in the mind, if I could strap on a pussy, I could fuck a woman with a strap on and be in control.

Huh? Fuck a woman with your strap-on pussy? Or a man? Or a woman who's wearing her own strap-on dick? 'Cause the latter sounds a bit too convoluted with all that plastic/rubber/straps involved. And that, well, she's a woman and you're a man with (presumably) bits that complement naturally. Or the real fucking is with my mind...? A little help, please.

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I can be on my knees going down on a woman and still be in control.

I know what you mean in general. I've used an analogy of a blowjob. That absolutely the woman giving it can be the one in full control. But in a D/s sense, it's partly because she can be in control that I prefer the vulnerability AAkasha speaks of.

And I'll emphasise that by having her naked, kneeling and hands bound behind etc and rather than receiving a bj, it becomes about me fucking her mouth. And tapping out tunes on her face while she tries to comply with an order to "get on it". And eye to "eye" contact, and generally exploring her face and ears etc with "it".... It's all good.

And I've been told by subs (after) about how she could've given me a much better bj if her hands were free. Makes for better technique etc. I'd agree in terms of physical sensation (and I still enjoy such a vanilla-esque bj) but in terms of power and control, the sub(s) were still learning the definition of "better".

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/11/2013 5:17:47 AM

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Hello, As a dominatrix... I do get a lot of pleasure from it... not physical though.... mental....
It gives me immense power over the slave, and also helps in our relationship if the slave wishes to be feminized.
On the other hand I don't feel any stimulation from this act.
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/11/2013 2:34:26 PM

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When my wife and I were playing she would use a strap on on me but also had a small butterfly against her. She would cum 6 times before my one.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/11/2013 4:41:30 PM

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I would think if it hurts, it's good for the pet.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/12/2013 3:26:22 AM

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I'll be happy to discuss it with you when we have a free exchange about our sex lives.

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Ok, I'll make it simple for you. I enjoy the sense of power and control I have when taking the girl from behind. That'd be doggy sex but I don't indulge in anal - never much cared for it. And I've always been the "pitcher", not the "catcher" - or doer, not the doee....

So, do you use your strapon, doggy style? And if so, not any particular sense of "power and control" over the doee compared to other positions? I'll assume your partners have been male, which would limit many positions/styles but elaborate if you desire.

As to whether you've been the doee, consider that optional to answer, too.

Let's see...., you raised; I called and put my cards on the table - the ones most relevant to the topic at hand....

Take your time (I s'pose)....

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/12/2013 7:04:01 AM

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Sorry, Focus. I hadn't been back to the thread. This isn't exactly the game that has the greatest portion of My attention. (Raise, call, poker, get it?)

Yes. Every sexual partner I have ever had has been male. I'm straight and have always been so. I also happen to be short, so that has a bearing. My length is not in the knee to hip area, so that also has to be taken into account. Like a number of shorter women with taller partners, doggie can tend to be the one that causes the most, ummmm, slipping out. Some of that can be remedied with the proper model and a well fitting harness but just like flesh and blood, it's not a perfect science.

I actually tend to prefer positions where that happens less, so doggie isn't really My go to. You would have to be more specific if you wanted to talk about positions that you can do that I can't. Spooning works. Face to face works. Male on top works. Depending on the height of certain pieces of furniture, that works. That's just mechanics. Really not that difficult.

Positions and such just don't have that much of an impact. The same act can have two different vibes. If MP is on top or I'm on top is the last thing we think about because we don't have a power dynamic. A person being submissive to Me changes the whole thing.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/12/2013 2:15:33 PM

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Sorry, Focus. I hadn't been back to the thread. This isn't exactly the game that has the greatest portion of My attention. (Raise, call, poker, get it?)

Yes. Every sexual partner I have ever had has been male. I'm straight and have always been so. I also happen to be short, so that has a bearing. My length is not in the knee to hip area, so that also has to be taken into account. Like a number of shorter women with taller partners, doggie can tend to be the one that causes the most, ummmm, slipping out. Some of that can be remedied with the proper model and a well fitting harness but just like flesh and blood, it's not a perfect science.

I actually tend to prefer positions where that happens less, so doggie isn't really My go to. You would have to be more specific if you wanted to talk about positions that you can do that I can't. Spooning works. Face to face works. Male on top works. Depending on the height of certain pieces of furniture, that works. That's just mechanics. Really not that difficult.

Positions and such just don't have that much of an impact. The same act can have two different vibes. If MP is on top or I'm on top is the last thing we think about because we don't have a power dynamic. A person being submissive to Me changes the whole thing.

Hmmmm, way to grab the bull by the horns....

You've done what I thought impossible and surprised me. lol I did intentionally phrase my "call" such that you could simply give a (two-part) 'yes or no' answer - and still wasn't expecting anymore than the usual indignant spray in return. So kudos for.....well..., disappointing me. lol

Me, well my 9 year history of posting at CM says I can talk all day and in depth and detail about D/s power and control dynamics. But not so much about the intimacies of sex acts. So I'm gonna disappoint you there.

However - to break it down into two general categories of making love vs primal fucking....

In making love, I prefer mostly face to face. In a D/s sense, my favourite position has become that where she's on top (facing me) because it also appeals to my warped sense of humour. That is that I've yet to make love with a sub who was comfortable being on top. Their natural instinct is to wanna roll off and be overwhelmed by my greater size on top of them. So it becomes about power and control (mental AND physical), anyway - with humour (for me).

As for primal fucking where she's pretty much reduced to service meat, yeah, as I've stated before, doggie sex is a favourite. Or if I want her seeing my (apparently) cold and pitiless eyes as I do her, then I'll be standing and have her pinned down on a convenient bench or table etc.

I don't think the power and control element ever goes away, now. Even if it is vanilla love-making, I still wanna be able to see her eyes. So (probably like most men?), lights ON, 'cause I like to see everything.

Focus.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/12/2013 4:04:43 PM

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I don't blame you for not connecting the dots. I have My own reasons for not doing the same. I'm actually more comfortable with not associating the exact act with the exact partner due to those concerns. The vanilla part of the sex life can be easier at times because I don't have to have the same level of concern.

While I think the original was more geared to physical sensation, there is also mood and headspace to consider. Mood, as you were saying, Focus, covers that territory that runs the scale of making love to wild fucking. To Me, that's not a D/s thing and is still enjoyed just as much by some folks who would still call it vanilla sex. The strap on sex isn't necessarily confined to those of us who are D/s either. It may be considered a little on the wilder side by some, but not especially D/s. It certainly isn't positions or orifices. Again, maybe wilder than some folks would care to indulge, but not especially D/s related. What remains is headspace.

When this thread started, I was almost tempted to say "this ain't your Grandma's strap on". (Not meaning you in particular, Focus. Even with the understanding that this isn't your area.) Designs have changed. Harnesses have improved. There's educational resources available to make the most of the experience for the female. Good placement of butterfly vibes. A lot of people don't consider these things and just think 'well you don't have sensation through the plastic' and think because of that, the woman can't obtain orgasm or pleasure. (Plastic isn't entirely accurate, but the expression is being used due to the word choice that comes up.) Nothing could be further from the truth. It's really not the same as manually manipulating a dildo by hand, for example. There really is genital stimulation for the woman and a lot of people don't understand that.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/13/2013 3:25:03 AM

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I love using strap-ons. It takes me to a new high. The visual, the sounds, his vulnerability.... Mmmmm, pegging is beautiful, indeed. What strap-on does for me as a Domme? Gets me super horny

In my past vanilla sexual encounters, I've made men wear strap-ons too. Well, if I wanted to be penetrated by a man, he will have to wear a strap-on. Why? BECAUSE IT'S 100% EFFECTIVE in preventing pregnancy WHILE lowering my chance of cervical cancer and HPV. Haha. Lets not forget about lowering my chances of encountering sexual transmitted diseases also. And frankly, I'm bi. One of the joys of being with women is sexing all week long, all month, all year long....hell, even a decade! without worrying about, "OH SHIT, I hope that condom didn't break" or "Please, please god. Let me get my period". Ah...the joys.

And quite frankly, I should be able to do that with a man too.

By the way....I use pressure points to physically dominate a guy and take him down, or to hold him still. I've always done this with my brothers when we played, so it took nothing to transfer this into BDSM.

Peace!

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/13/2013 3:44:35 AM

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By the way, that wasn't toward LittleWonder. That was a mistake. Sigh...got to get the hang of using this forum's reply. lol

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/13/2013 9:47:51 AM

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no problem for me. I rarely ever look to see who is responding to who. I assume who someone is responding to with what they write.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/13/2013 2:39:43 PM

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There really is genital stimulation for the woman and a lot of people don't understand that.

This is the surprising conclusion.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/13/2013 2:58:00 PM

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There really is genital stimulation for the woman and a lot of people don't understand that.

This is the surprising conclusion.

Yes, it certainly surprise me at first but, OMG, is there ever!!

It all depends on the "device"

that's used and the placement of the harness.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/22/2013 1:27:50 AM

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Found this in a Domme's profile that kind'a covers, visually, what a Top gets out of strapon play:
http://skirtingonthe-surface.tumblr.com/post/21861231691

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/25/2013 8:39:09 AM

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Now that we know what a Domme gets from a strapon, it's videos like this that make me wonder what the sub gets from the strapon?
http://www.rednowtube.com/german-mistress-fuck-her-slave-652049.html?cat=Strapon

Do subs have lower instances of hemorrhoids, for example?

(I think I'll open a separate thread on this since it's the opposite topic.)

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 2/28/2013 9:24:01 AM

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By the way....I use pressure points to physically dominate a guy and take him down, or to hold him still. I've always done this with my brothers when we played, so it took nothing to transfer this into BDSM.

Peace!

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I just discovered this post from January and I'm excited that you use pressure points in BDSM play. Pressure points are fascinating especially when used by a dominant woman.

Maybe you'd like to have a look at my question. It would be a honor for me to read your opinion. Perhaps you may tell us about some of your experiences in submitting a guy by these techniques.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 2/28/2013 9:54:25 AM

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'Cause extreme discomfort for the guy?

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