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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/19/2006 6:01:55 PM   
daddysprop247


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Relative to D/s and M/s relationships, I would like to know where you derive your greatest personal satisfaction.  Over the years I have known many people who seemed to need attention and/or affection to drive them, but in more recent years I have seen that there are certainly those who have a greater need for a sense of accomplishment or approval.

When assigned a non-sexual task, where is your motivation?

Are these "a's" (attention, affection, accomplishment, approval) qualitative terms in submission on whatever level you are at or desire to go?


His pleasure is my motivation. i don't serve Him in order to get attention or affection or any of the "a's"...i serve Him because it is my whole purpose in life to serve and please Him. also, as a slave it's not as if i have a choice in the matter.

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/19/2006 8:16:21 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I thought it was a thread on the A's (Oakland A's), too. :)

I do what I do for him because he wants it done.  My reward is knowing he doesn't have to deal with whatever it is I have just done for him.  I don't get to do a lot of the daily mundane stuff because of our distance, but I have researched things for him like getting broadband service for his upcoming UK trip and making sure he has a GSM phone that will work overseas, as well as learning the costs to talk, text message, and transmit data.  I have sent him choices of hotels for some of his travels and the ammenities each has, and the distance from his destination.   And sometimes when with him and he is working I lay at his feet and massage them for hours so he can feel good.

My motivation is to know he is content and pleased, overall.  It is knowing he is served well. 

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/20/2006 3:47:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
I'm about as opposite to this mindset as you can get. ::laughs:: If I'm in the middle of laundry, which has to be done, period.. and Himself wants me to stop to get him a glass of ice tea while he's watching tv, I'm thrilled because that's doing something 'for' him.. not doing something just because it needs to be done. For me, that would be a perk.. getting to serve him even though he's quite capable of doing it for himself. The laundry can always wait ... it'll be there after he gets his ice tea.

Celeste


I have to agree with this Celeste.  Most of my service to my Lord is indirect and so when I get the opportunity to do things directly for him it is very satisfying.  When we are together both he and alandra make sure that I get to do as many things as possible, getting his drink, serving his food, putting his shoes or jacket on, getting his clothes...  all the little things that I don't get to do when we are apart.

To answer the OP, I am internally motivated to perform whatever task he wants done.  I don't often need an external reward or validation to feel satisfied.

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/20/2006 4:11:08 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

...When assigned a non-sexual task, where is your motivation?


fulfilling the obligation made to Master when she became His slave---to obey and to please Him in all things---no "a's" necessary.

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/20/2006 5:53:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Love, devotion, seeing my owners happy and well cared for, the satisfaction of knowing whatever it was got done in the correct manner and on time.

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/20/2006 6:16:53 AM   
catize


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  (attention, affection, accomplishment, approval)   


I am not a sainted selfless slave; I freely admit that if I didn't get just as much as I give, I wouldn't do it.
Attention, yes, I need and crave it and I enjoy finding ways to get his positive attention
Affection; I can't imagine serving a cold aloof Master
Accomplishment; yes I like feeling the satisfaction of a job well done
Approval; a much better goal than seeking his displeasure!  And if he can let me know that he is unhappy about something then I don't think it should be a problem for him to let me know when I have pleased him.
It is, after all, about both of us feeling fulfilled; how else would I be motivated to acquire the skills to serve him? 

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/20/2006 6:34:30 AM   
wild1cfl


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx


When assigned a non-sexual task, where is your motivation?

Are these "a's" (attention, affection, accomplishment, approval) qualitative terms in submission on whatever level you are at or desire to go?


Speaking as a Dominant who does a lot of domestic training for other Dominant's slaves adn submissives, most of the motivation comes from a sense of accomplishment and approval from their Master. When they get that approval there is often positive attention given to them as well as affection. We work along these premises when doing the training. We teach and then when they do a job well we give them positive attention and approval, they have a sense of accomplishment and we also give them affection. So in my book you have hit the mark.
Now as far as the qualitative levels, the more a slave or submissive does well in their training or daily tasks the more aproval they get and the more the sense of accomplishment. We rarely have to go to a disciplinary state with a submissive or slave unless they just are not cut out for this type of service.  

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/28/2006 3:54:32 PM   
lanwolf


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Status: offline 		This is kind of an interesting thread and i have to say i agree with a mix of things. The sense of accomplishment and the approval for a job well done is a great feeling and can motivate me to even a higher level how ever it is not always needed. The pat on the head and good boy once in awhile is a great thing but i feel it might not have the powerful effect it can have if i got it 10 times a day. The main drive for me on doing normal every day tasks is a feeling of usefulness that i am able to make There life easier by doing these tasks and in a way a feeling that i am wanted. Its an honor right now being unowned to be called by a local DOm to mow His lawn i have worth and value to One out there do i expect to get told good job every time no.....though i do get the odd beating, exersize and a chance to work out in the sun and tan so hey W/who really wins?

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RE: Submissives, slaves, and the 'A's - 6/28/2006 4:36:09 PM   
litleone8620


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Relative to D/s and M/s relationships, I would like to know where you derive your greatest personal satisfaction.  Over the years I have known many people who seemed to need attention and/or affection to drive them, but in more recent years I have seen that there are certainly those who have a greater need for a sense of accomplishment or approval.

When assigned a non-sexual task, where is your motivation?

Are these "a's" (attention, affection, accomplishment, approval) qualitative terms in submission on whatever level you are at or desire to go?


I derive my own personal satisfaction from the approval of my dominant. Knowing that i've done a good job and pleased him means everything to me.

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