HarryVanWinkle
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You come to know by experimenting. But, remember there are more choices than just dom/ sub /switch. There's also master, mistress, slave, although really, in my view, those are pretty much interchangeable with dom and sub. These words generally refer to relationship dynamics. Then there are top and bottom. These refer to play dynamics. And by relationship and play, I don't mean to say that one is "real" and the other is "fake." Take, for instance, how I more or less label myself. I'm a submissive bottom/switch. I don't do domination. I do do topping. They can look a lot alike if you see me playing with a masochistic bottom. The major difference is, after I've finished torturing the snot out of her, provided that snot was what she wanted tortured out of her, and the aftercare, if any is done, she and I are back on an equal basis. I'm not her dominant. Get it? Good. Now that I've explained it all, be advised that all sorts of people are going to say that my definitions aren't right. And you know what? They're right. My definitions aren't right.... for them. They're right for me. As for what's right for you, that's what experimenting is for. Try everything that doesn't gross you out. Try everything you think you might like. Then figure out, but don't be in any hurry to do it, what's right for YOU.
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