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How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocatively kinky CM profile PRIOR to responding?


I spend NO TIME evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  8% (5)
I spend SECONDS evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  21% (12)
I spend MINUTES evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  69% (39)


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 8:21:01 AM   
Pyramus


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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi -- 1/29/2013 4:39:08 AM >
[mod edit to remove oversized picture]


The mods needed to remove the picture I uploaded so here is a muuuuch smaller version of the Firefox context menus I use to find scammed pictures in a split second.



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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 8:48:10 AM   
subinsilicon


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Status: offline 		It seems the amount of time one would expend poring over a profile must by necessity depend on what one were looking for.

On the one hand, I would think an old male geezer wannabe Dom looking for a hot 20-year old submissive will be weeding out 99.9% of the profiles by the methods shown, while a similarly old female geezer Domme looking for a sub slave won't need to weed out more than 1%.

In general, the men will need to throw away far more profiles than the women (such is life).


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 9:03:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cilicia


I thought it funny that women complain in their profiles that men don't read their profiles yet the woman who responded said she doesn't read the profiles.


She doesn't read profiles because she's in a relationship and doesn't contact people on the other side. There's a difference between her and guys that decide that they're the exception and contact you anyway.


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 9:23:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cilicia


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ORIGINAL: Aedonix

The only evaluation i really do other than taking the time to READ a profile is checking the likes and dislikes section..


I thought it funny that women complain in their profiles that men don't read their profiles yet the woman who responded said she doesn't read the profiles.

Then again, I should probably be quiet because my profile picture appears at the left to be a vanilla ice cream cone and I don't look ANYTHING like a vanilla ice cream cone.


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 10:08:12 AM   
ClassAct2006


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Status: offline 		I usually wait for dominant men to contact me. I have not very often contacted a man.

Once they write I look for something that suggests there might be sexual and also life compatibility - someone on my wavelength who would be interesting to talk to as much as submit to.

It does not take very long to read a profile and form a view as to whether or not that person might be interesting and suitable. The brain is the sexist organ of all so if he can entice my brain then that is a very good start.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 11:21:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

It does not take very long to read a profile and form a view as to whether or not that person might be interesting and suitable.



To be clear, finding an interesting profile to read isn't at all the hard part - there are thousands at your fingertips.
The hard part is finding out which of those is actually a truthful profile.

I was curious how much energy people spent figuring out the truth before responding.

It seems, based on the poll results, that most people (75%) take a few minutes to ascertain truth in profiles before responding.
It also appears to matter greatly what you're looking for as the need to verify truth is less in some cases, more in others.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/29/2013 3:13:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Snitch


quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

It does not take very long to read a profile and form a view as to whether or not that person might be interesting and suitable.



To be clear, finding an interesting profile to read isn't at all the hard part - there are thousands at your fingertips.
The hard part is finding out which of those is actually a truthful profile.

I was curious how much energy people spent figuring out the truth before responding.

It seems, based on the poll results, that most people (75%) take a few minutes to ascertain truth in profiles before responding.
It also appears to matter greatly what you're looking for as the need to verify truth is less in some cases, more in others.



I think you have it backwards.

Most people here search based on criteria like age and location.

And then you look through the profiles to see who interests you. I doubt many people -- I know I don't -- are looking that hard for scammers. They're usually obvious to see.

Then you send an email. For most people, you'll be lucky if 1 in 20 of your emails get a response. So no reason to twist your guts when you're sending emails to strangers who probably won't respond. No reason to spend a lot of time and effort upfront "vetting" other than avoiding the obvious scammers who you can spot in 3 seconds. Just let the emails rip and when someone responds you can look at their profile, and unless you are brain damaged (or blinded by your own erection) the way they interact with you should tell you whether they're genuinely.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 2:34:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
They're usually obvious to see.


I think that's the wrong sentiment but I agree that it's a very common misconception.

People think you get colds from being cold. They simply believe their intuition. Or that you can get tetanus from a rusty nail. Again, a misconception that seems perfectly obvious to them but is dead wrong.

Of course, the OBVIOUS ones are obvious to see.

It's the unobvious ones that require further inspection.

And, once you've done that inspection, you'll be apalled at how many unobvious ones are not truthful in the least.

Those are the ones I think the OP is talking about.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 3:53:06 PM   
Cilicia


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ORIGINAL: thracia
Of course, the OBVIOUS ones are obvious to see.


That ^^^^

Everyone thinks they're a genius because they can spot the obvious ones but they don't realize they're fooled almost all the time with the non obvious ones.

Just goes to show, everyone thinks they're smarter than they really are.

That's why advertising works.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 6:37:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cilicia


quote:

ORIGINAL: Aedonix

The only evaluation i really do other than taking the time to READ a profile is checking the likes and dislikes section..


I thought it funny that women complain in their profiles that men don't read their profiles yet the woman who responded said she doesn't read the profiles.

Then again, I should probably be quiet because my profile picture appears at the left to be a vanilla ice cream cone and I don't look ANYTHING like a vanilla ice cream cone.


When I said I don't read profiles, it means I don't read them because I never go flipping through them to find someone and write to them. I never, ever do the first move. It's just not me. I don't read their profile unless I decide to continue to write back to the person because I feel some kind of interest in the person. At that point, I will read it so that we can dig a little further to see if we even want to bother to meet.


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 6:44:40 PM   
littlewonder


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ORIGINAL: Snitch


quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

It does not take very long to read a profile and form a view as to whether or not that person might be interesting and suitable.



To be clear, finding an interesting profile to read isn't at all the hard part - there are thousands at your fingertips.
The hard part is finding out which of those is actually a truthful profile.

I was curious how much energy people spent figuring out the truth before responding.

It seems, based on the poll results, that most people (75%) take a few minutes to ascertain truth in profiles before responding.
It also appears to matter greatly what you're looking for as the need to verify truth is less in some cases, more in others.


I never assumes it is fake or true. I talked to the person to decide if we were compatible. That's all, that's it. I mean really...if you can't take the time to just talk to a person in casual conversation and get to know them, then I doubt any amount of time here will ever get you very far. You don't need to sit and tear apart a profile to find out if someone is interesting or not. In real life, do you look at the person for hours and then go the courthouse to see if you can find their arrest photo so you can decide if they are "fake" or real?

I just gotta wonder about people who seem to have such suspicions of everyone. It reminds me of the people who sit in front of their door inside their homes with a shotgun just waiting for the door to open. lol

ETA: in all my years of dating, online and off, for the past ohhh...twentysomething or more years, I've yet to find a scammer who wasn't obvious. Maybe it's because I grew up on the wrong side of the tracks, grew up with scammers, con-men, violence, brutish type lifestyle...I dunno but it's never, ever, once been difficult for me.

Now finding out someone is incompatible with you over a period of time, yeah...now that can sometimes be difficult but I also believe we choose to ignore the problems because we want with all our power for our fantasy to be real and we can't live finding out it's not real.



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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 7:01:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't stand with a shotgun at my door but I've been lied to before so I don't believe ANYTHING in the profile until I meet the person at my door (shotgun is in the closet). :)

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 7:08:53 PM   
Etruscano


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Status: offline 		I keep a separate browser for opening up collarme and collarmefakes at the same time.
Then, when I find a profile that I like, I run a search on the collarmefakes site.
The tineye page of collarme fakes is never wrong so I don't even bother to look it up in google afterward as I can see the picture and all the sites its on from that one search.
If it doesn't show up on the tineye page of collarme fakes, then I bother to read the profile.





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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 7:17:01 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 1/30/2013 7:28:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		An intentionally provocative profile is a turn off.

I am more impressed by honest representations of the actual person.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 2/25/2013 8:09:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
I am more impressed by honest representations of the actual person.


That!

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 2/25/2013 4:08:23 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Seems like a lot of work just to say "hey, wanna meet up for a cup of coffee?"

Yeah-you just gotta ask every day for two years

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 2/25/2013 4:11:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I ticked the "minutes" option but realized that most of the time I am getting messages from people that are not "real" per se. And the only reason I say that is because they ask me to join a porn site to verify my age hahaha. awesome?

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 2/25/2013 4:54:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not "on the market" for a slave. If I were my answer would be the same as LW's..."none".

The kind of profiles which attract me just don't have those sorts of flags (and a whole lot more). They read like normal, sane, well-balanced human beings trying to find a partner. More, I can pretty much guarantee that anyone who had a model's body and professional photography would be a crappy match for me even if it was really them.

Then, we get to LW's other post.. "Seems like a lot of work just to have a cup of coffee".

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 2/25/2013 6:41:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Seems like a lot of work just to say "hey, wanna meet up for a cup of coffee?"

Yeah-you just gotta ask every day for two years


Sheesh. Wait two years to get to know someone and they remind you of it everyday.

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