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Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 3:33:06 PM

yugla

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Here's a thought... If after a decade of trying to use Collar me as a web based dating site to no avail.....

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is it possible to become such a good writer (liar) that reality does not show through in this web based social networking medium and

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is it actually possible for (now over 40) a single male to meet for more than a coffee and let me begin by saying good bye from a first contact on CM?

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How do you negate all the negative that females experience with these on line dating sights?

How?
Where?
In what part of the world?
Would any of that make a difference to use CM as a bona fide dating site, let alone one in the life stlye?

Be Well

RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 4:39:40 PM

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is it possible to become such a good writer (liar) that reality does not show through in this web based social networking medium

Sure it is. Hell, you don't even have to be here for a decade plus. Without having done it myself, I know that I could. What I'd get out of it, though, considering what I'm looking for, would be nothing.

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How do you negate all the negative that females experience with these on line dating sights?

Positivity. Seriously, that's what works for me. I looked at your profile, and it's just not appealing and confusing. Contrast it with my profile...you'll hopefully see a big difference. And it's not because there aren't frustrations; there are, plenty. My messages get ignored, I have exchanges that go nowhere, people attempt to "catfish" me. But you take those frustrations and turn them into jokes; and not crude insensitive jokes. You keep your head up. Surely you've heard the expression "Keep a stiff upper lip"? Don't let the negative turn you negative.

As to the rest of your question, I don't know that I'm qualified to answer anything like that.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 5:25:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: yugla

Here's a thought... If after a decade of trying to use Collar me as a web based dating site to no avail.....

1]
is it possible to become such a good writer (liar) that reality does not show through in this web based social networking medium and

2]
is it actually possible for (now over 40) a single male to meet for more than a coffee and let me begin by saying good bye from a first contact on CM?

3]
How do you negate all the negative that females experience with these on line dating sights?

How?
Where?
In what part of the world?
Would any of that make a difference to use CM as a bona fide dating site, let alone one in the life stlye?

Be Well

I tell them I can fuck for days.

When I can't perform....I just explain to them "I never told you which days".

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 5:46:11 PM

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I'm stealing that joke!

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 6:09:21 PM

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Another possibility, you are way too honest at the outset and the sub/slave in question runs for the hills.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 6:09:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: yugla

Here's a thought... If after a decade of trying to use Collar me as a web based dating site to no avail.....

1]
is it possible to become such a good writer (liar) that reality does not show through in this web based social networking medium and

Yes. Determination doesn't always yield positive results. (Dwelling on that doesn't facilitate things, either.)

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is it actually possible for (now over 40) a single male to meet for more than a coffee and let me begin by saying good bye from a first contact on CM?

Yes. I'm 40. I was approached by my girl last year, and we're still happily together. Age is a relative factor.

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How do you negate all the negative that females experience with these on line dating sights?

How?
Where?
In what part of the world?
Would any of that make a difference to use CM as a bona fide dating site, let alone one in the life stlye?

Be Well

You can't control the negativity other people are subjected to, and you don't decide how they handle it. You can give advice, but that's not always desired or appreciated. Your best bet is to be yourself, and not contribute to the negativity you perceive.

As to the rest: how you use CM, and how it suits you, is something only you can really decide. Do what is right for you.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 6:51:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: yugla

Here's a thought... If after a decade of trying to use Collar me as a web based dating site to no avail.....

1]
is it possible to become such a good writer (liar) that reality does not show through in this web based social networking medium and

2]
is it actually possible for (now over 40) a single male to meet for more than a coffee and let me begin by saying good bye from a first contact on CM?

3]
How do you negate all the negative that females experience with these on line dating sights?

How?
Where?
In what part of the world?
Would any of that make a difference to use CM as a bona fide dating site, let alone one in the life stlye?

Be Well

1. You've been on this site for eight years. I just looked at your profile, and gave up reading after the second paragraph. It's nasty and does NOT reflect reality. You call yourself a lesbian male Dom, and are complaining that your honesty is hurting you?

2. You say you're a single man. Your profile says you're a couple.

3. I've engaged women in conversation. If we click during online conversations, then I move ahead.

Maybe you think you're being clever hy putting all sorts of negative stuff in your profile. I just don't get it.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 7:25:49 PM

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jlf...........Is it really possible to be "too honest"? Having been in a LTR that lacked honesty, to me if someone is less than honest there would be no consideraton given as a potential partner. Just curious.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 7:33:38 PM

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jlf...........Is it really possible to be "too honest"? Having been in a LTR that lacked honesty, to me if someone is less than honest there would be no consideraton given as a potential partner. Just curious.

Well as soon as I say I am on meds for PTSD and bipolar disorder, the exchange of messages seems to stop and I find myself blocked.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 7:36:14 PM

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Now I see what you are saying jlf. I've gotten the same thing when I mention my kidney transplant. I didn't put 2 and 2 together in that sense.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 7:45:03 PM

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Now I see what you are saying jlf. I've gotten the same thing when I mention my kidney transplant. I didn't put 2 and 2 together in that sense.

I just feel that is better to tell them I am crazy, so that if they decide to get into a relationship with me, and join me here, they wont be surprised to find me sitting in the corner having a conversation with my left big toe.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 1/31/2013 10:35:41 PM

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Dude, no one likes negativity. Cheer up. Throw out some positive vibes and fix your profile. If you can't even do that then you're screwed and you will never find someone on here.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 1:53:17 AM

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I got to the second paragraph ...people probably think your crazy.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 2:25:39 AM

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I tell them I can fuck for days.

When I can't perform....I just explain to them "I never told you which days".

That is OMG good, thanks for starting my morning off with a smile.

P.S. - I so stealing that line!!!!

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 9:41:26 AM

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I don't look at many profiles for review, but after repeated bleating and beating of the same tired drum, I had to see for Myself just exactly what was at the root of such miserable failure.

In a word........

Dude! How can you possibly think you will have success with the kind of textual vomiting being displayed? I thought this was a simple matter of a male *not* having the sense to change a pic from a couple to a single guy. That profile isn't a case of shooting yourself in the foot. You literally amputated yourself at both of the knees.

I can no longer take your complaints about the site seriously. No rational human being would think themselves attractive to the opposite sex with that profile.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 9:47:37 AM

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OP, your profile qualifies as one of the top 10 worst profiles, ever. I have no time to go into detail, which I am sure would not be taken well.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 9:51:04 AM

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Dear OP, you have that rare combination of negativity and illiteracy that almost guarantees noone will want anything to do with you except a fellow illiterate.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 9:56:20 AM

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Well as soon as I say I am on meds for PTSD and bipolar disorder, the exchange of messages seems to stop and I find myself blocked.

I also have PTSD, and am quite honest about it. I want to let potential partners/palyarounds know, not only out of honesty, but so they know there are a few "do not's" with me. Same results lol. Oh well. Be well, jlf1961

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 10:14:33 AM

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Dear OP, you have that rare combination of negativity and illiteracy that almost guarantees noone will want anything to do with you except a fellow illiterate.

I have to agree with that 110%.

I got to the rant of the 2nd paragraph and really had to force myself to read the 2013 bit - that huge block of rambling text that was sooo hard to read.
And how can someone be sooo illiterate as to use so many of the wrong words (eg: 'sight' when they mean 'site'). Jeeez!
I gave up after that.

So I glanced at the profile details...
A Lesbian Male aged 99?????
A Bi transexual over 7ft tall, weighing in at 1487lbs and again aged 99???
And looking for just about anyone/everyone?

Jeez... I didn't bother to look at anything else - it was nauseating!
Even if I was really desperate, I would give this one a mile-wide miss.

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RE: Here's a thought... - 2/1/2013 11:36:22 AM

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jlf...........Is it really possible to be "too honest"? Having been in a LTR that lacked honesty, to me if someone is less than honest there would be no consideraton given as a potential partner. Just curious.

Well as soon as I say I am on meds for PTSD and bipolar disorder, the exchange of messages seems to stop and I find myself blocked.

I have honestly never had this experience.
When I tell people I am am diagnosed with both PTSD and biopolar disorder.

The closest was when my ex decided to tell his family (parents and grandmother) without my consent or being able to even speak to them. So because they had no interaction / relationship with me they made their judgement about me and my ability to deal with my disorders off pure fear and lack of knowledge.

Now I have had a guy end contact with me because he wanted me to "pass" for a caucasian and I refused. *shrugs*

I have had a guy end contact with me because he found out both of my children are bi-racial. *shrugs*

I have even had a few tell me if I wanted to be with them I had to stop doing fetish videos and pro sessions. Eh... I didn't keep him around long. Although I do have have a teaching degree, at this point in my life I don't want to teach I want to be my own boss, run my own businesses and do my videos and fetish modeling.

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