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What would you do if your Dom requested you take psych ... - 2/8/2013 11:00:07 AM

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Its come up recently as I've been going through long term depression.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:04:38 AM

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Its come up recently as I've been going through long term depression.

Did you speak to him about why he wanted you to go off your medication?

Did you speak to your doctor about going off your medication and the possible risks?

When you went off your medication did you implement anything else to help with your depression (diet, exercise, or alternative herbal treatment)?

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:16:41 AM

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It matters much, much more what your doctor thinks about medication. :P

Depending on how severe your depression is, it may be taking a tremendous toll on your relationship, and your life. I would recommend seeing a counselor, or a psychiatrist to discuss your problems.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:21:31 AM

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The last time I was on medication for it was before I met him. I explained to him that it really negatively effected my sex drive and more importantly it seemed to make the depression worse. The loss of the highs as well as the lows in my life made me feel empty and as though things were pointless.

When I stopped the medication years ago it was against my doctors advice.

I have implemented a few lifestyle changes since then, mainly in the form of diet and exercise. But as anyone who has suffered from depression knows it can be hard to make yourself get out of bed, take a shower, and eat. Let alone get yourself outside to the gym or even a walk.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:26:18 AM

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My question to you is how come you aren't being treated for your depression; what is it about the idea of medication that disturbs you?

This has kind of happened to me and I listened to Him.
He cares about my well being, and that is important to me, and I don't like it either when my depression causes spillage into the relationship or onto Him.

It is no different btw than His being concerned for my health b/c I have diabetes or am hypothyroid or when I had Shingles or a gallbladder emergency last year.
Severe depression is a physical illness.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:32:55 AM

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The last time I was on medication for it was before I met him. I explained to him that it really negatively effected my sex drive and more importantly it seemed to make the depression worse. The loss of the highs as well as the lows in my life made me feel empty and as though things were pointless.

When I stopped the medication years ago it was against my doctors advice.

I have implemented a few lifestyle changes since then, mainly in the form of diet and exercise. But as anyone who has suffered from depression knows it can be hard to make yourself get out of bed, take a shower, and eat. Let alone get yourself outside to the gym or even a walk.

You know, since you were last on medication, there are probably some new ones.
And highs and lows make it sound like you could have a bipolar disorder, but that is something to discuss with a doctor.
Counseling + medication might be able for you to have a life that doesn't seem pointless.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 11:44:13 AM

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I don't mean a bi polar high and low. Well, I do but its bi polar 2 so my highs are kind of just...me functioning on a normal level.

What I meant though was that I didn't feel as depressed on the medications, but I never felt happy either. It was just an empty feeling. You're right, there are a lot of new meds. I hadn't considered that.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 12:57:42 PM

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Master never requested that I take meds but he is adamant about me taking care of myself. So being that I was going through another bad bout of my depression I went back to my doctor and she suggested meds.

So now at this point, if I decided to go off them then Master would be pissed and would force me to see my doctor again to see what she thinks.

Since it sounds like you have depression, it sounds like he cares about you and wants you to take care of yourself.

Why would you not do this for the man who apparently loves and cares for you in this way that he wants you to be happy and healthy?

Make an appointment with a doctor today.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 1:09:56 PM

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Sock account? I'd totally get that if you didn't want folks to know who you are.

The location on this account says Arizona, so you blew My first thought out of the water. If you are not really there and you would happen to be somewhere in the country that is a lot dimmer and greyer by February, you may want to have you vitamin D level checked. Low vitamin D for women can make depression a lot worse and so can seasonal affective disorder. Both of which can make you a little crazy. (Please don't anybody be offended by that. It really can wig a person out.)

No matter what kind of depression you are dealing with, it is darn near a golden rule that the people around you will notices the changes about you in a different way than you will. Depression can be a progressive condition which means you become accustomed to it for yourself in degrees and may not have a grasp on it's extent the way somebody looking from the outside in can.

Please take this as seriously as you would a physical condition.

ETA - To answer your original question, you are darn right I've ordered (that's right, ordered, not asked) clip to get his ass to the doc to check his meds in the past.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 3:52:49 PM

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Depression is a problematic disorder. Especially if you are suffering from any form of bipolar. I am a rapid cycler, going from hypomaniac to depressed in moments. I am on an even keel at this time, taking a mood stabilizer. I also take Geodon to help with the PTSD. Mom keeps an eye on me and we remind each other to take our pills (I take mine at 7 to 8 pm every evening).

See your doctor and they should be able to recommend a p-doc if not a mood stabilizer.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 4:31:18 PM

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If you have someone that cares about you, telling you to takes meds, take notice and go to your doctor. I'm really good at spotting my warning signs now, but I never used to be. Those around me were always the first to notice. Don't ignore it, 90% of the time, it will just get worse if ignored.

I know it can be hard to find the right antidepressant that suits you. I tried about 3 before I was put onto one that worked for me. We're all different and there are different types of AD's. If its not making any difference after 1-2 months at the max, go back to your doctor. It might require a different dosage or another type of AD. There's no easy way of working out the best one or the dosage, so it's trial and error to start with. Once you find the right one, it will make an enormous difference at getting you stable. However don't expect miracles either, depending on the type of depression you have, it may take a while. You may also need extra help, such as counselling, or cognitive behavioural therapy etc.

You said the meds left you not depressed but not happy either. That means they did actually work, but maybe you just needed your dosage increased to give you that little bit more of a lift, without sending you hyper. Tell the doctor everything about how you feel, and listen to their advice. It's not easy to know if you're doing the right thing when you suffer from this illness, so listen to experts and anything you disagree with, talk it through with them, they will only want the best thing for you too.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 4:35:41 PM

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It's actually not surprising that the meds didn't work. They were a first attempt. My ex needed two years of tweaking for her meds to work properly twenty years ago. My stepson's meds needed only a few months of tweaking.

Don't give up. Keep at it.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 7:29:45 PM

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I would then talk to my dr, and if I had one my pych dr or therapist. And I'd take into factor why I am so depressed all the time. Causes and effects, and then if I felt I couldn't cope I'd probably go on pych meds.

I am on them already, and sometimes I stop taking them and I am fine for about 7 months with no other help or management whatso ever, and then the second to last time I did that I kinda went around the bend and had a really bad and serious mental health crisis.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 8:11:01 PM

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I will tell you a little story of what not being vigilant enough with your mental health. And I am not gonna make a sock account to tell it because I don't give a flip what people think.
I have been suffereing from Major Depressive Disorder (First Diagnosis) for over 10 years now. I have been on every pill in the rainbow always just going to a med doc. Many years later they changed my meds based on the fact that I felt empty I ended up in a Mania worse than I have ever had this was because I wasn't telling my doc that I was have the mini cycling of bipolar II.
Me being smart again 3 years ago adjusted my own meds. I ended up in a locked psych unit on suicide watch. Not because I was really suicidal but because my behavior had become so erractic and paranoid I thought that my own BF was stealing my truck with me in it(example). They adjusted my meds and all was well until 3 months ago.
The winter blues started whivh happend every year so no big deal right? Then life hit at the same time. I had not had a major med review in over 2 years and was on a low dose of lithium and a low dose of anti-depresant. I was lax in not making my doctor realise how I was really feeling which is the same as not going all together. So 4 days ago I had a major break.
I have been in the hospital locked in a psych unit under suicide watch for the past three days. I got a major med overhaul no more lithium more recent modern drugs.
The moral of the story don't let the depression or bipolar or any other label prevent you from getting the help you need if your loved ones are telling you to get help do it. My kids begged me this time.
Being mentally ill has such a stigma these days it's pathetic the news doesn't help blaming evertything on it and not explaining that not all of us go and shoot people. I still have a moral compass I still love I still cry (more than I like), I still can care for my children I just need an oil change now and then and have to be more honest with my docs. Because the docs at the VA are good and care (most) they just can't read minds. And the last bit of advice don't get psych meds from your regular doc and if you are not happy with the doc you get then change to the next one. We don't have that luxury in the VA system but you can still pick your doc to a point.

I wish you luck and give yourself a bubble bath and a hug.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/8/2013 8:14:30 PM

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Bipolars feeling empty is a sign that the dosage is wrong. Frequently it signals the fact that you're cycling.

It's not a reason to go off the meds. It is a reason to go back to your psychiatrist and ask for some changes. And explain the symptoms that you're having and don't like.

If you're bipolar type II then try lamictal. With a side of Seroquel XR. It can make a huge difference. And they don't suppress either libido or the ability to orgasm.

Oh and he hasn't just told me to go the doctor, he's dragged me in kicking and screaming. And when his depression hit really hard about 8 years ago, I was the one telling him it was time to go on the meds. He suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder really bad. He ran out of D III a month or so ago and was really feeling bad. Got another bottle at the store and in two weeks was a lot better.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/9/2013 3:48:53 AM

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Thanks for the input. A lot of you are right, I am lucky to have someone who cares so much. I have sucha hard time figuring out what is real and not, about my behavior and all. I don't see the problems that he must and as I've been with a depressed partner before I know it can be draining. I thought I was hiding it well.

One last issue I have with it is how it will be paid for. I don't have insurance and the medications are expensive. I worry that I'll start taking something and at some point be unable to afford a refill on the prescription and that can be really bad. And its something I don't feel he takes seriously enough, or he thinks the risk isn't worth considering as he'll be there to take care of it. It just makes me nervous.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/9/2013 5:28:29 AM

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Your local community mental health clinic will be able to tell you about the pharmacological companies who offer free medicine - not just samples, but for a whole year or more... through Patient Assistance Programs. Or, you could google the specific company who produces the drug you seek. They also have instructions on how to apply to their programs.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/9/2013 6:18:59 AM

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When I was living in Johnson county and Jefferson Parish, the local MHMR people arranged for my meds to be free. All I had to do was show up for my appointments.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/9/2013 1:02:26 PM

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One last issue I have with it is how it will be paid for. I don't have insurance and the medications are expensive. I worry that I'll start taking something and at some point be unable to afford a refill on the prescription and that can be really bad. And its something I don't feel he takes seriously enough, or he thinks the risk isn't worth considering as he'll be there to take care of it. It just makes me nervous.

I'm someone with bipolar II as well.

First, it takes a long time to find the right meds, sometimes. I'm stable on my mix, but it took me probably 3 years of trial and error to figure out what works.

That said, I also lack health insurance. There are 2 major options, and 1 thing to think about. The thing to think about-- talking to your doctor about the fact that you can't afford highly expensive medication. They are usually willing to try things with generic equivalents before things that are on-brand only.

If that doesn't work though (for example, I'm on Abilify because risperidone doesn't work for me), there are 2 things you can do. One is see if the company does subsidies. I know Astrazeneca has some options, that might help out. If that doesn't work, consider ordering from Canada. I use CheapoDrugs and Northwest Pharmacy to order mine. My Abilify is 60c a pill as opposed to $1.50 a pill. It's totally legit, and all it requires is your doctor either giving you a prescription to mail in or calling in the approval.

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RE: What would you do if your Dom requested you take ps... - 2/9/2013 2:06:04 PM

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Thanks for the input. A lot of you are right, I am lucky to have someone who cares so much. I have sucha hard time figuring out what is real and not, about my behavior and all. I don't see the problems that he must and as I've been with a depressed partner before I know it can be draining. I thought I was hiding it well.

One last issue I have with it is how it will be paid for. I don't have insurance and the medications are expensive. I worry that I'll start taking something and at some point be unable to afford a refill on the prescription and that can be really bad. And its something I don't feel he takes seriously enough, or he thinks the risk isn't worth considering as he'll be there to take care of it. It just makes me nervous.

The 2 things I bolded, are big red flags that you need help.
When you don't really know what your behavior is, and can't tell if you are behaving normally or not, then you probably aren't.
Hiding it... if you feel you have to hide it, it means you are in way over your head (and as an aside, are engaging in deceit, never a good thing for a healthy relationship).

As for paying for them, there are resources available.
I understand the panic involved at the thought of the expense, but it is not based in reality.

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