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BabyBrat -> RE: Punishment (11/11/2004 12:07:48 PM)

I'm the same as the majority here, I cannot handle being ignored or dismissed. It plays on my insecurities, I think, and sends me straight into little space. I feel unloved and full of fear. After the period of being ignored Daddy / Syr has to spend time reassuring me that I'm still loved. I can take any amount of physical pain as punishment, I just can't handle mental punishment.



subbiejenn -> RE: Punishment (11/11/2004 8:20:02 PM)

It's funny how Mental Discipline is so much worst then physical *grins*

JMO!!
~jenn



Anubis -> RE: Punishment (11/14/2004 7:30:33 PM)

the worst punishment for me is to be lent out to another Mistress. my desire is to be Hers completely but when i am so unworthy of her attention as to be lent out....



XXXPlayfulXXX -> RE: Punishment (11/16/2004 4:10:48 PM)

My Slave woman told me after her first year that the worst punishment I had given her was a combination of ignoring her and not letting her travel with me for over a month. It meant that she was alone every week and when I was here on the weekends she had no one to speak to.

She also has told me that the second worst punishment has been when I take the dogs to the office on days she has off so that there is noone to talk to or play catch with or go to the park with or do anything fun. Since that was not supposed to be punishment I now leave at least one dog home everyday.



Wolfsbabygirlz -> RE: Punishment (12/5/2004 2:56:22 AM)

greeting to you ....Must say thats mine too ..being ignored makes me feel so small, less than and I hate that. ha My ultimate punishment I stand firm on not ever having my Dom do to me is ..verbal humiliation, degrading me, or showing any disrespect, heck if I wanted that, I'd stay in the vanilla world where thats all you get lol. Ive noticed that many Doms are into doing that, thats just wrong. know what I mean ?
Wolfsbabygirlz =)



proudsub -> RE: Punishment (12/5/2004 9:27:10 AM)

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My ultimate punishment I stand firm on not ever having my Dom do to me is ..verbal humiliation, degrading me, or showing any disrespect, heck if I wanted that, I'd stay in the vanilla world where thats all you get lol. Ive noticed that many Doms are into doing that, thats just wrong. know what I mean ?


That may be wrong for you but not for everyone, many subs/slaves thrive on vebal humiliation.[:)]



aliljaded1 -> RE: Punishment (12/6/2004 7:31:13 AM)

verbal humiliation makes me drippppp in a good way .. its definately being ignored



realophelia -> RE: Punishment (12/6/2004 5:04:22 PM)

quote:

what is the worst punishment you can think of for yourself ?


Abandonment. Or more realistically any kind of decreased contact. Lucky for me, Master hasn't found it necessary to use that sort of punishment to date.

Yours truly,
Ophelia



FelinePersuasion -> RE: Punishment (12/7/2004 2:30:04 AM)

My first master didn't have time for me regularly, we relied on phone email and ims, The phone he did not have at home since he rented so calls were left to whenever.


He chose once not to call or comeonline for a while because "he did not feel like deeling with me" His words not mine.


It was so hurtfull and it messed me up because I had annoyed every one being like stay off the phone I gotta be home don't call Please Andrew's gonna call....... just to have him blow me off.


Ignoreing me is the worst, I can not trust someone who's going to ignore me just becase he's mad or frusterated. How can you trust someone who's time was really limited in the first place( or not i speak of my case* Then wastes one of the only two opertunities he has to call that day because he didn't want to deal with you.


Not dealing with something, is something you do with a mess or abill not a human who needs your contact, even if it is just to call and say how are you, I'm still upset but I needed to check in on you.



That and having to wait three days to hear a verdict to something that had happend in chat on alt once was the worst.


I allowed a want to be so called gorian bait me into saying something rude. I had to wait 3 days to find out my punishment, and I was so worried he was going to dismiss me.

I cried for the three whole days, I didn't even look normal I was so red an puffy an I couldn't breath an I had a headache for all 3 days.

Turns out he ordered me to apologise and to stay out of that room for a week, and not to address or respond to those people again.



feline -> RE: Punishment (12/8/2004 5:07:58 PM)

I plead the 5th. . . . . on the grounds that anything I say can and will be used against me. [;)]

Take care,

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LaMspeach -> RE: Punishment (12/8/2004 7:00:49 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: velvetvixen

Hearing that I have disappointed Master


i have to agree, knowing i have displeased or disappointed my Master in any way is worse then any physical punishement he could ever give me.

I have found that sometimes the physical punishment can be freeing, in that it allows me move pass the infraction and forgive yourself.

Ignoring me would be right up there. Master has never ignored me and i think it would be more harmful then good. Arent we suppose to learn from punishment? How can we learn if we are ignored and not told what is wrong? Giving a time out to be able to think things though and get our thoughts together is different. ( sorry i'm rambling)

peach



krikket -> RE: Punishment (12/10/2004 11:10:49 AM)

Wow, lots of agreement here..and i'll add one more to the pot. Just *that* look in his eyes, knowing i'd disappointed him and then being pointedly ignored, was about that worst thing that happened to me. While i was always harder on myself that he was, it still absolutely devistated me and threw me into a tail spin. The word depression didn't begin to cover all the feelings it gave me. Even now, years later, when i remember *those* times i hang my head in shame, and wish i could go back to change that particular incident. (i would have much rather be spanked, but then he knew i liked that, so wasn't a snow balls chance in hell i'd get *that*..lol).

i have to wonder if i'll ever stop "beating" myself up over the times i messed up. :(




histrblmkr -> RE: Punishment (1/15/2005 12:59:42 PM)

Know that I have displeased Master is punishment in itself. Master will sometimes go to be alone for awhile when he is displeased with me so that he can think things out and that has to be the worse time of all. I would rather he just beat me and get it over with. He will never totally ignore me though, we both feel that could be damaging to me and the relationship.
linda



nella -> RE: Punishment (1/15/2005 1:44:54 PM)

I think it depends, hard physical punishment can be bad, but being not talked to for long periods is worce.



cynnacent1 -> RE: Punishment (1/15/2005 3:40:43 PM)

#1. Simply knowing i have displeased/disappointed Him.
#2. The possibility of dismissal/an ending of the relationship we share.
#3.The withholding of His attention from me, aka 'ignored'.
#4. Being at the receiving end of a particular braided leather belt which He owns.

i have required punishment twice thus far. The first time involved #1, & #3. The second time involved an outright choice of disobedience where the punishment resulted in #1, #2, #3, & #4. The offense that brought about all four punishments is NOT one i will ever commit again.

¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)



slavedesires -> RE: Punishment (1/15/2005 3:53:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: aliljaded1

what is the worst punishment you can think of for yourself ?
for me its being ignored. it sends me into a complete and utter depression.



But i didn't think of it, He did ! [:@]
i agree, ignoring and silence has been the ultimate torture of my sensitive complex soul, mind, spirit and heart.
shy



willing2serve -> RE: Punishment (1/15/2005 4:26:48 PM)

I certainly am in agreement with most...being ignored, not feeling his attention is the worse punishment, but in the past, I have built up defensive walls with this punishment so in actuality could hurt the relationship instead of adjusting behavior.

I would have to say the "tone" of his voice make me react more than a look, but the look is a close second.

The punishment that does the least for me is spanking, I've tried to focus on the intent of the spanking to feel the punishment aspect..but it didnt work...I still enjoyed..

I do consider myself a creative person, but I have been asked to create my own punishment and if it was not fitting or harsh enough for the crime, then the Dom would decide....Boy, those are the times your mind goes blank...

So for me, still working on what the perfect punishment would be.

PS. this is adding a pet peeve, but I cant stand when a Dominant ask "what punishment do you like?" duh huh.....should I like it? What Dom 101 handbook did they read? They certainly missed the point!

Respectfully,
Willing1serve1



willing2serve -> RE: Punishment (3/15/2005 10:01:59 AM)

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So for me, still working on what the perfect punishment would be.


I had to bring this thread alive again...Exactly 2 months since this prior post from me, I have certainly grown on my journey to find a slave's heart.... I have now experienced and understood what the worse punishment would be...

After willful disobedience on my part on something that was to my benefit, Sir handed down a punishment... His instructions were that I could orgasm as much as I want as many times that I want...WOW, first thought....what a punishment...way to go...PARTY!....but as the day went on, I realized he was giving me my control back and I was losing his.

To me, the essensce of my peace, my submission, is the control He has in my life and the thought of losing that through disobedience, was worse than being ignored or any physical punishment that I could endure.

So through these lessons I am finding my place, which is in the warmth of His shadowing control. my choice to obey or disobey...my choice of His nurturing control or my own chaotic control.

Still growing and learning on this awesome journey.

Respectfully,
Willing2serve1



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Punishment (3/15/2005 11:11:30 AM)

Losing the privilege of obedience is harsh, I'm glad it's fulfilling its intended purpose in training your behavior. Try and think long-term, it works out for the best.



MasterzKitten -> RE: Punishment (3/15/2005 1:21:51 PM)

my Master hasnt yet had the need to truly punish me, but i know that i would absolutely kill me if He totally ignored for for any period of time.
One time during play, i couldnt do something He wanted. It physically just hurt more then i could bear, so He stopped and tried to calm me down because i just starting bawling because i couldnt do what He wanted and felt like i had disappointed Him. It took Him some time to reassure me He wasnt disappointed and He was actually proud that i tried so hard even though i knew i couldnt do it.
Okay, that kinda went off another way, but the point of that was, that if He told me i disappointed Him, it would kill me even more than me just thinking i had when i really hadnt.



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