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RE: Punishment - 3/15/2005 2:38:23 PM

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The wors punishment i got and i did not do anything wrong was my Master leaving me . He pased away

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RE: Punishment - 3/15/2005 7:01:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: willing2serve

I had to bring this thread alive again...Exactly 2 months since this prior post from me, I have certainly grown on my journey to find a slave's heart.... I have now experienced and understood what the worse punishment would be...

After willful disobedience on my part on something that was to my benefit, Sir handed down a punishment... His instructions were that I could orgasm as much as I want as many times that I want...WOW, first thought....what a punishment...way to go...PARTY!....but as the day went on, I realized he was giving me my control back and I was losing his.

To me, the essensce of my peace, my submission, is the control He has in my life and the thought of losing that through disobedience, was worse than being ignored or any physical punishment that I could endure.

So through these lessons I am finding my place, which is in the warmth of His shadowing control. my choice to obey or disobey...my choice of His nurturing control or my own chaotic control.

Still growing and learning on this awesome journey.

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Wow.... i would never have thought of that, but i cannot imagine how hard that would be. It would just make me feel like He didnt' want to bother with me.... <shudders>

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RE: Punishment - 3/15/2005 8:42:06 PM

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It would just make me feel like He didnt' want to bother with me....

You are correct, if this time to think had went on for hours or days, but after a couple of hours to realize how much his control means to me, He talked to me and explained the reason behind the punishment and made sure i completely understood i have choices to obey or disobey, control or no control.

Thank you for your comments.

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RE: Punishment - 3/15/2005 8:45:53 PM

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Rejection.

Being ignored, with certain exceptions (as long as She wants just one quiet alarm clock, ignoring me first thing in the morning means a heavy sleeper like me - who has slept through 2 cats fighting over his face - will not be waking up that day) is not a problem. She has a number of chronic illnesses, a stressful and heavy workload, nearly a 1000mile a week commute, and so needs time when I accept I am simply shut out unless She chooses to tune me in. I accepted that when we were pretending I was vanilla.

On the other hand, rejection, and at the worst dismissal, is terrible. When we were pretending I was vanilla, I became so used to Her saying no to sexual advances (see mention of life stressors to understand why it happened a lot), that my fear of rejection made me not reach for her so much. She stated that made Her feel bad. So, when She accepted my as submissive, I decided my fear of rejection was less important than Her desire for me to reach for Her. The other night, while doing so, She asked if I was horny. Expecting Her to say no to sex, but determined to be honest even though I'd be rejected, I told her I was. She then told me that She was suspicious that it was the sub who tries to take control. Ouch. That was a rejection (of my basic nature) that I wasn't expecting. Truly, it was only through submissive acceptance of Her demand for my reaching for her that I faced my irrational fear of rejection. For Her to basically say that meant I was not submissive almost sent me running for the sharps.

I explained why I'd reached for Her, She understood. She then explained that She was really hurting that night (well, for one thing She always is and for another She is so strong she could hide a heart attack from the Goddess) and so that was why She wasn't interested. That was fair. But truly, a rejection of my basic nature - calling me a liar about who I am, acting as though who I am is filthy or wrong, or threatening to dismiss me - is the surest way to leave me feeling dreadful. Of course, in this case, it was miscommunication and not punishment... but if this were used as punishment... *shudder*

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RE: Punishment - 3/15/2005 9:10:39 PM

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The change in His tone of voice gets to me more than the physical punishment. Sir has found the punishments i hated when i was a child such as writing sentences and standing in a corner and has used them when need be. He always laughs when i tell Him how much i hated them.

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RE: Punishment - 5/1/2005 11:12:27 PM

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I agree with you there totally!! I hate it when someone is mad at me. I would much rather take an 8-hour beating than that!!

The whippings are for when you have been a "good girl".

A look of displeasure followed by turning away, I find is the cruelest cut for most.

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RE: Punishment - 5/2/2005 3:39:14 PM

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having to go to work wearing the 8 inch pad between my legs, held tight by 2 smal girdles every month when it Mistress's time of the month.

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RE: Punishment - 5/5/2005 6:18:34 AM

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The absolute worst and dreaded I'd have to say would be dismissal. As far as punishment to develop a conditioned response that would be slighly different.

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RE: Punishment - 5/9/2005 3:50:09 PM

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Ugh, being ignored and just the simple act of knowing that you've displeased or caused pain... god that just kills me...

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RE: Punishment - 5/9/2005 6:10:06 PM

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This past weekend I was threatened with having to sleep on the floor. YUCK! I know it made me behave in a hurry. That would be horrible. First, knowing that I couldn;t hug and cuddle and feel him next to me. Second, knowing that the same was true for him and it was my fault.

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RE: Punishment - 5/9/2005 7:33:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: aliljaded1

what is the worst punishment you can think of for yourself ?
for me its being ignored. it sends me into a complete and utter depression.

That is exactly me. Its not even mild punishment, it's worse. I adore him, and it's like total rejection.

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RE: Punishment - 5/10/2005 6:19:17 PM

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Hi,

This is actually my first message in Collarme.com so HI! *Waves*
I won't say anything about myself as my profile says it all. I was referred to this site by another sub, so here I am. As is my Mistress, though I am not allowed to give out her name, of course.

I read this thread first, as I was interested to see if other subs see the way I do. It turns out, YES they do! To me, being ignored or told I have disappointed my Mistress is the worst punishment I can receive. If we are in bed she turns her back on me and does not allow me to touch her. I hate that. However, afterwards she always tells me my punishment is over and cuddles me, which is always nice. Also, of course, she always tells me what I've done wrong before punishment.

Anyway, that was my very first post!

See you around.

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RE: Punishment - 5/10/2005 9:12:43 PM

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i think for me the worst punishment would be being ignored, because i crave the touching, cuddling, and closeness that comes from those things which can not be obtained when being ignored. i also would have to say disappointing my Master because that really depresses me and makes me feel like crap.

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 5:31:11 AM

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Heh.. my worst will always be being ignored... I simply can not take it.. the brat in me forces me to get worse and worse until some sort of interaction is given... I once my blasted my Dom for ignoring me.. (mind you.. he had ordered me to be online at a particular time which was not only inconvienient for me but for my mother also, in order to discuss our last time together) I can take a lot of things, but complete lack of contact is something which forces me to "act up". Needless to say the relationship went downhill shortly after, although to be fair I had warned him I had that tendency from the start. So yeah... for me to ignore someone (espeically when not giving a reason for it to start with) is the worst thing one part of the couple can do to another.
Apart from being ignored.. the worst punishment? hehe. I think people here have already given some which I know I could never cope with easily *laughs*

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 5:56:42 AM

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well master
i wnated u to put a collar around my neck staright away from klim(fire place)

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 1:15:33 PM

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well for me it have to be having to wear cotton and not nylon,silk,satin
oh and be made to masturbate first then have to dress up in a cotton maid uniform with no make up or wig. just love my frillys in pink so any thing in grey as well.

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 1:26:19 PM

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Interesting how so many of us subs have the same fears when it comes to being punished. I like that we are alike in that way, offers more support for one another.

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 2:42:16 PM

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It's a fairly universal fear to be alone, to be rejected. I bet if you'd ask doms you'd find they don't want their subs to reject them either and wouldn't enjoy it much.

It just happens that the doms are the ones who get to enforce it temporarily while subs don't have that privilege.

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RE: Punishment - 5/13/2005 3:47:04 PM

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That is a definitely good way of putting it. I never thought about it that way. Thank you for giving me that point of view to ponder.

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