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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:14:29 AM

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slave had been taking time (on My instructions) to read over and contemplate the conditions I sent him under which he could be reinstated to My service if he so desired.

After reading his posts here, I called him and said that My offer to return was no longer valid, and he could come pick up his things when he's in town next. We were both quite civilized and calm, I ended the call still on a polite note.

My bad for having made the offer in the first place, of course, but he was talking so wildly after I released him that I was afraid he would harm himself... and I must admit, when he is good he is VERY, VERY good! Enough to make one wish that he could overcome the other problems and want to keep giving him chances to do so. Geez, does that sound familiar, anybody??? Classic codep behavior. I gotta watch out for that!

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:19:37 AM

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Now, now... give him a chance! He's an over the road trucker and can only be online when he's not driving. ALso, he's only just found out that I know he's posted here (because I told him). I'm sure he'll be on later to defend himself.

Oh, and he says he did NOT find someone to take him under her wing... he only wrote that "so no one would contact him" ;)

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ORIGINAL: MsWillAdore

Anyone notice that the OP hasn't posted very much and definitely hasn't acknowleged that LadyM blew him clear out of the water? Fuck that guy.... I mean c'mon... he's so distraut that he starts a thread & in one of his last postings he states that someone has taken him under Her wing & that he is at peace now? He was so broken up about the failed relationship, he posted in here, found someone else to help him work out his kinks...etc, in a matter of days? Talk about a fucking LOSER!

Keep your head up LadyM... you are a beautiful woman & someone true..honorable and all that other good stuff will come along.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:33:16 AM

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Dearest Lady Hugs,

Truly, it was NOT that, I promise you! slave is VERY sincere about being submissive (he *believes* that he is) and is indeed very submissive in his thoughts, very efflusive in his speech and so forth. He VERY much wants to be owned and controlled. At least, he sincerely believes that. The problem is that, I *think* (I could be wrong, but I've spent a LOT of time over the last month thinking about it, and trying to find ways and means to work through this with my slave), that he has a fantasy of what such a life would be like. No, I don't mean a "do me" fantasy per se, but it's still a vision of what his life would be like as a slave, and any time reality conflicts with that vision, he rejects it. Also, he has a very high opinion his intelligence (not without reason) and also of himself, and this puts him in the position of knowing "better" than anyone else (his Mistress included), and this is the source of most of the problems we had. In fact, the "straw that broke the camel's back" was his disobeying a direct order, and when I called him on it, was told (in a yelling, accusatory manner) that "you should be grateful you have a genius for a slave!" I may be a first time slave owner, but I'm not taking this from ANYONE, much less my slave! And his emotions, as he himself admits, are very much out of control. Some time ago he talked an endocrinologist into giving him some female hormones... he swears to me he was no longer taking these, but I cannot help but wonder how much of his problems with runaway emotions may be due to these hormones. I was very concerned about this and had planned to explore the issue further with him, except of course, the chance never arose.

I did, and still do, believe that he could be a terrific slave, if he could learn to control his emotions, and cease to think so highly of himself. What he needs is a Mistress to take him all the way down... then build him back up, in essence remodeling him (and he has expressed the desire to be completely remolded). Unfortunately, I am not that Mistress. It's just not my style, and I would not be comfortable with reducing a human being to a mere nothing, even with the best intent. At the least, he needs a very firm, very strict, and very unyielding hand. THAT, I could do. But not 3 days out of the month, with him being thousands of miles elsewhere the rest of the time.

But I never doubted the *sincerity* of what he felt, and what he wanted. Only his ability to be that.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs
I'm sure the mid-Atlantic area, such as the Carolinas and Virginia might need to awaken their guards, as to prevent the fella from putting in a toe hold to the cheap place to sleep scam of a trucker.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:38:23 AM

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Morgynn,

Sis, there is much more to the story and I'll be glad to make you aware of it in email on the other side...

You might want to hear exactly some of the stuff he did have to say just so you don't ever make the mistake of trusting him again.

I think it's also quite interesting that within hours of me saying I would allow him to prove his intentions over time, that he started calling me Mistress and posted that someone had taken him under their wing...

~sigh~ one reason I tend to "slow the bus down" in order to observe... Time is always your friend sis, always... the players will tire and look elsewhere for someone who won't make them prove themselves... leaving the sincere ones who EXPECT to prove themselves...

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:49:24 AM

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When I first found this thread, I was inclined to see red and start steaming at the ears. But my sense of humor was able to right itself fairly quickly, and I was see to take his posts for what they were worth... just par for the course, and part of the reason I released him in the first place.

And, of course, it just adds emphasis to my most recent lesson in Look Before You Leap <guilty grin>

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ORIGINAL: Calandra
Sis, there is much more to the story and I'll be glad to make you aware of it in email on the other side...

You might want to hear exactly some of the stuff he did have to say just so you don't ever make the mistake of trusting him again.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:51:14 AM

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Ladies with all due respect, we have indeed seen there are two sides, and LadyM represented Hers very well as have You Calandra--it is now time IMHEO to adjourn to your private emails for further discussion, to continue here could become a public he said/She said and tarnish sterling reputations.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:58:19 AM

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yes, MA'AM <snappy salute>

LOL.

Can I have a nice hot tea and a biscuit instead? :)

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it is now time IMHEO to adjourn to your private emails for further discussion, to continue here could become a public he said/She said and tarnish sterling reputations.

Cigars and brandy are being served in the Library.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 8:58:48 AM

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~smiles~

Already in a dialogue with Morgynn, but thank you...

Please, anyone who might be interested in the OP... Look before you leap!

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 9:07:19 AM

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*snort* You wish.

LOL! <shakes head and laughs>

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 9:09:34 AM

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Dear Lucky Albatross, Ma'am,

I am very very sorry for being sassy with you. No I do not like tthis at all, Ma'am, I do not even like this Ma'am. Please forgive me Ma'am, pretty please?

Not that anyone asked me this, but this is exactly the kind of slave/submissive I do not care for. I like them with spunk :)

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 9:24:29 AM

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*chuckle*

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 4:53:37 PM

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Call Me cynical, but I think you know exactly what you want and who you are; both of which are pretty clearly apparrent in this 'bait' post.
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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 5:31:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

Now, now... give him a chance! He's an over the road trucker and can only be online when he's not driving. ALso, he's only just found out that I know he's posted here (because I told him). I'm sure he'll be on later to defend himself.

Oh, and he says he did NOT find someone to take him under her wing... he only wrote that "so no one would contact him" ;)

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ORIGINAL: MsWillAdore

Anyone notice that the OP hasn't posted very much and definitely hasn't acknowleged that LadyM blew him clear out of the water? Fuck that guy.... I mean c'mon... he's so distraut that he starts a thread & in one of his last postings he states that someone has taken him under Her wing & that he is at peace now? He was so broken up about the failed relationship, he posted in here, found someone else to help him work out his kinks...etc, in a matter of days? Talk about a fucking LOSER!

Keep your head up LadyM... you are a beautiful woman & someone true..honorable and all that other good stuff will come along.

He responded via private email to my sarcastic post which was to make a point and was ready to hand himself over, including his camaro (? some car, I don't know) and mother's china set. The guy is a kook chasing a fantasy and willing to hand over anything (empty promise) to ANYONE. He doesn't know me from adam.

STAY AWAY!

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 5:51:28 PM

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I guess in a way, its really amazing there aren't more of these stories. I can certainly understand metaphorically why we say and feel things when in in the height of passion/lust/love or infatuatiton like, "I wanna be owned by you!" But when it comes down to it, we've all gotta stop and think a moment when someone we hardly know says in a "lucid" moment, "I wanna be your slave!" Oh really?
I think human beings jump into live-in relationships too quickly. Me included. So don't think I'm throwing stones.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 7:33:33 PM

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No, no, he's really quite sincere! And it's a totally HOT car, all black with leather interiors and a T-tope. Totally cool. He will totally give you EVERYTHING. Of course, he comes with it, but if you're better prepared to deal with him than I was/am (or ever will be), it's a great deal. Or if you're in it just for the money/material goods, it's also a great deal. GO FOR IT!

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
He responded via private email to my sarcastic post which was to make a point and was ready to hand himself over, including his camaro (? some car, I don't know) and mother's china set. The guy is a kook chasing a fantasy and willing to hand over anything (empty promise) to ANYONE. He doesn't know me from adam.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 7:47:35 PM

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There probably are more of these stories... we just don't hear them. I mean, who wants to stand up and admit, yes, I did something stupid and took on this slave that I didn't really know, just because he was begging so nice and was cute as a bug. I mean, talk about doing something dumb, who wants to put it out there for everyone to know how naive you were, right?

I see it as a learning experience... unfortunate, but there it is. I deserved what I got for being so stupid, and now I'm reaping maybe a little more than I deserved, but it's a good lesson on not rushing into something! In the meantime, I got much cheered up by a trip to the local dungeon this evening where we had a BBQ cookout and potluck :)

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ORIGINAL: sophia37
I guess in a way, its really amazing there aren't more of these stories. I can certainly understand metaphorically why we say and feel things when in in the height of passion/lust/love or infatuatiton like, "I wanna be owned by you!" But when it comes down to it, we've all gotta stop and think a moment when someone we hardly know says in a "lucid" moment, "I wanna be your slave!" Oh really?
I think human beings jump into live-in relationships too quickly. Me included. So don't think I'm throwing stones.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 10:11:31 PM

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Yes, this was very much a mistake on my part. Of course, I did not run into this chatroom to start any kind of dissing of anyone else, or identify who the other party was, nor will I do so now. That is not in accordance with guidelines on this site, nor proper online etiquette. But I digress from the most important thing to remember: once again, a proper investigation into the person you are going to be spending time with is very important, and certainly much time should be spent in getting as much information about that person in advance as it is possible. And to all the persons here who amuse theirselves by finding fault with others, an old adage is appropriate: "If you can't think of anything nice to say, then maybe you shouldn't say anything at all"!

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/24/2006 11:27:44 PM

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Yes, this was very much a mistake on my part. Of course, I did not run into this chatroom to start any kind of dissing of anyone else, or identify who the other party was, nor will I do so now. That is not in accordance with guidelines on this site, nor proper online etiquette. But I digress from the most important thing to remember: once again, a proper investigation into the person you are going to be spending time with is very important, and certainly much time should be spent in getting as much information about that person in advance as it is possible. And to all the persons here who amuse theirselves by finding fault with others, an old adage is appropriate: "If you can't think of anything nice to say, then maybe you shouldn't say anything at all"!

I've got an old adage for you too... "if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is"
Jeeze... you know, this is an opportunity to learn something, but I can tell you aren't interested in learning... you want someone to fill your fantasies and nothing more...

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/25/2006 4:45:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsWillAdore

Anyone notice that the OP hasn't posted very much and definitely hasn't acknowleged that LadyM blew him clear out of the water? Fuck that guy.... I mean c'mon... he's so distraut that he starts a thread & in one of his last postings he states that someone has taken him under Her wing & that he is at peace now? He was so broken up about the failed relationship, he posted in here, found someone else to help him work out his kinks...etc, in a matter of days? Talk about a fucking LOSER!

Keep your head up LadyM... you are a beautiful woman & someone true..honorable and all that other good stuff will come along.

Foul mouthed woman, if I had a bar of soap....Lady Morgynn is a sympathy slut, trying all she can to gain your attention, she succeeded. I bet you thought the fake fruit in the bowl was real when you were young.

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RE: I don't know what I should do now... - 6/25/2006 5:05:54 AM

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Oh my... was that intended to hurt my feelings? I didn't think that the fake fruit in the bowl was real when I was little... I just KNEW there had to be other uses for it besides sitting on YOUR mother's table. (My mom has too much class to use such things.) Foul mouthed woman? Bar of soap? Is that your Dom side speaking? LadyM being a sympathy slut? Looks to me like you are the OP on this thread & were the one looking for sympathy. Even if she is... who cares? I think she would need a little sympathy after having to deal with you.

All of his posts and the private email he sent me, just shows that he has no respect for anyone. Least of all, himself. May I have your camaro AND the china, please... oh pretty please? The camaro would look great in my driveway/garage & the china would look lovely inside my dining room hutch! However, if you are attached to those things, meaning that you come with them... forget it pal! Go audition for the next season of "Who wants to be the next soap star?"

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