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ORIGINAL: SacredDepravity

Yup...a big dick, cock, rod, crotch lizard...whatever colorful euphemism you'd like to use. I don't know what the biggest one on record is...though not opposed to seeing for myself *blush*, but anyway...

I am no babe in the woods and got the basics like taking it slow, warming up, using lube, etc. I guess I am just wondering what I can conceivably expect as far as making it work the first time. I am a little...befuddlled...embarrassed...to ask this question for reasons all my own, but hope there are some handy answers out there. Thanks

SD

I'm going to ASSume you are talking about anal sex, with someone whose penis is larger than average. Ask what the guy is into so you'll be prepared, lol, cuz I've known some guys who were into having sex after infusing their sac with saline and then using a penis pump to suck it up into their penis, making the girth OMG. Also, I saw pix at Fet of someone who injected his penis with collagen...

Some guys might not want you to stretch yourself in advance because either they like to do this themselves as part of foreplay or...they like to cause pain with anal. Personally, I don't like to bring pain into orifice play (unless it's figging, but I rarely do that and won't mix it with strapon time).

Find out how big (girth) you want to go...and start small, working your way up. Get dildos in graduated sizes, the bigger...might be good to find those jelly things with suction cups at the base...stick it to the shower wall or to the top of a toilet seat, lol. We skipped the butt plugs for stretching, and just used one during play so I had something else to hold the Hitachi onto.

When trying to go to a bigger size, it helps to lube up with Crisco, press the dildo against the opening...and don't ram it home, lol. Instead, press a Hitachi against the dildo and let it relax the muscle. I had bo make a harness for himself that would pin another Hitachi in place on the underside of his penis; I can turn it on and of however I wish and it leaves my hands free so I can flog him, put on clamps, or whatever. Having someone walk around with a butt plug inside for an hour before anal sex sounds so boring to me (though it may be more practical), and I prefer to have stretching mixed with masturbation or as part of scene time.

For larger girths, the anus would loosen up faster than the rectum, so take it slow. It took us a month or more before the larger sizes were able to fit. Keep in mind that I had to stop whenever the mucus on the dildo started showing a little pink because I didn't want it to get to get red with blood streaks. It was a bit difficult for him because I kept stopping right when he was begging me NOT to stop, lol.

My boy needs to stretch himself two times per week, with the jelly dildo stuck to the toilet seat lid, so that when I take my Dick Rambone strapon to him...it doesn't hurt. This works better for us than those huge butt plugs. Someone else I knew, years ago, used those so he wouldn't tighten back up but it gave him cramps after the first half hour.

Doing this to my boy...didn't cause more than micro cuts on the anus sometimes, when the skin stretched a little too far. Not enough to draw any blood. I was careful and took it slow...he had a wonderful time...except when we tried out lubes that burned the H out of him, lol. Both of us are sensitive to some additives and had to learn by trial and error what worked for us. I even react (vaginally) to the slippery stuff that comes on condoms that do not have spermicide, and bo reacted to powder that was on latex gloves. We get latex gloves from Sam's now and these don't give us any problems.

Oh, we use an injection thingy to put silicone lube up his butt, in addition to using Crisco on the dildo. I tried using other oils first, like mineral oil and even olive oil. When pulling out, these would gush out and I'd mop it up with a hand towel. After a while, these towels smelled like a cross between motor oil and a salad idea gone bad...and no amount of washing would get the smell out. The oils (about 2-4 oz) gave him a great feeling, lit up more nerves when I was...ah...thrusting, lol, but in the end we got tired of ruining towels. He made the mistake of washing these with the ones we used after the shower, making everything stink of "motor oil", and I made him buy a new set of black towels and retire the old ones to floor towel use only. Never to be mixed together in the washer/dryer again.

Btw, while we were using the olive oil several times per week...his HDL/LDL (?) improved, lol.

If you are talking about taking a big one vaginally, I'm the wrong one to ask. My vag was messed up from birth till I was about 8 years old. I kept growing together and needed to be cut open repeatedly (I have scar tissue), as well as hormones applied topically. I have a big problem with big dicks...sex always hurts until I've adjusted to the size. If I don't have sex several times per week, I shrink and become very tight again. Guys love it but it gives me a negative association with sex, yanno? Also, past chemos made me start menopause, so my tissues are thinner and drier, easier to injure. Someone at CM recommended some kind of bead insert that is a wonderful lube, much better than the KY types that would dry out and become akin to Super Glue within ten minutes.

Anyway, I wish you good luck and a great time. If it's anal...well, my slave's ex-wives used to have anal orgasms. When I do bo...strapon sex drives him deeply into subspace and he stays there for usually six hours. If he naps during this time, he's still spacing when he wakes up. I hope you experience some of this lovely stuff for yourself.

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ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

What drugs are you suggesting ARIES???

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I have a lot of scar tissue and still had no problems with a guy nicknamed "Hoss".

He just went slow at first.