ChatteParfaitt
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Joined: 3/22/2011 From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana Status: offline
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I'm a dual natured person, a volatile person, a person who can switch mood on a dime for sure. That I switched my mood does not switch my orientation with those I'm involved with. I'm still a sub to my dom, and a dom to my sub. How does that work? Well, they both know what kind of person I am. Neither expects me to play a particular role all the time, since that's not me. So if the dom experiences me being less than sub, he knows how to trigger a more sub response in me if he wants or needs it. If he doesn't, he doesn't care. As I said, it's who I am. The sub knows I am not a 24/7 dominant personality. I am *his* dom though, and I know how to get a sub response from him if I want/need it. With all that out of the way, yes, I know couples who seem to be able to switch back and forth effortlessly at the drop of a hat. And they don't seem to be just role playing, they're switching. I think a lot of newbies like the idea of switching (in more a role play sense), and that's good for them. It's a great way to learn who and what you are. Since some people make assumptions, like, I'm male I must be dom, w/o ever trying the other side. Is that for everyone? No. Some know they are mostly sub or mostly dom and would never feel comfortable in the other role. Others are like me, they switch with different people, not with the same person. To each they own.
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