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BenignPlague -> RE: Permission to join??? (7/26/2006 7:47:44 AM)
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I can see the point of separating the three groups for the sake of discussion. In my humble opinion, Dominants will act differently when around each other than in mixed company, just as a submissive may take charge of a conversation in a way he or she wouldn't with dominants present.
As a switch, I often feel that there is a stigma associated with having the best of both worlds, that because you enjoy both, you are not dominant enough, nor submissive enough, and thus of no use to either pole.
As a switch, however, if I were joining a group that were explicitly formed for the sake of dominants, I'd show up, but I'd leave my submissive hat at home. You can certainly work experiences that you've had into conversation, without compromising your character or expression, however, the emphasis in such a group is on the dominant perspective.
For example, I once attended a Master and Slave group discussion. Now, I don't consider myself a master because I do not have a slave, however, I do consider myself dominant or submissive, depending on the day. Generally, the best groups to be in are ones that will value your input, as long as you remain relevant to the general direction of the conversation.
Social skills are always audience specific.
Adam
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