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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/11/2004 6:01:09 PM

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pelican drinking

That's a new one to me, what is pelican drinking?

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/12/2004 9:55:34 AM

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i wanted to say thanks mostly kindly for all the responses...I sent Master all the replies and we had a nice talk about it all everyone helped a great deal ...wishing everyone a great day

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/15/2004 10:04:26 AM

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In brief, I think the decision (and opportunity) to ask questions, discuss issues, etc, is something that should be discussed up front - not just in Ds relationships, but in all relationships.

Obviously some situations aren't negotiable - "HEY GET THE HELL OUT!!! (As I am running for the door - I would usually mention on the way that the kitchen is on fire.)

Obviously some situations should definately be negotiable "I've decided you are going to have eight children"

Somewhere in between is the line - and it should be drawn by both people. I agree with most of the others so far, that I prefer as much feedback as possible, and if there's a situation I don't want feedback, then a nice red ball with leather straps should do the job.

In the end, you can voice your concerns about communication, and hope it changes his views. I would mention be very careful with someone who appears to have no interest in your questions - it can be one of the red flags that suggest possible abuse.

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/15/2004 10:25:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: honeybee462002

i wanted to say thanks mostly kindly for all the responses...I sent Master all the replies and we had a nice talk about it all everyone helped a great deal ...wishing everyone a great day

As a relative newbie here, I continue to be impressed with the quality of many the contributions - and of the postive effects this forum seems to be having in people's lives. It's great that the various responses helped bring you and your Master to a place of deeper dialogue.

Best wishes -

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/15/2004 11:39:22 PM

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i have a question for Masters ..when a sub/slave has issues with something that Master wishes her to do..Do you feel she has a right to voice her opinion or question it? Yes ultimately Masters word is final but should He take the time to listen and let His express themselves to Him?

This one is an easy one... the answer is "yes" and "yes".

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/16/2004 4:35:31 PM

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My sub is always allowed to express her feelings about an order or how the order is to be carried out. Sometimes I dont like it, but endure it, other times it enlightens and adds to the scene. Who would want a 2x4 for a sub!!!

Now if subbie is just being bold or bratty and doesnt seem to like anything on a particular occasion, well we know the difference dont we fellow doms (dommes), and we all know that punishment will follow very closely. Boy do I like those days.

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RE: Expressing Feelings to Master - 11/16/2004 7:08:19 PM

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Dear honeybee462002,

I believe a Master should always listen to what his slave/sub has to say. Masters word is final but without open communication and understanding their is no relationship, Dominant, submissive or otherwise.

You should always be able to speak to your Master. There is a fine line between open communication and questioning your Masters instructions, be sure not to cross the line. Be very polite and request you be allowed to speak about an issue, a good Master will hear you out.

Keep in mind you may not like the answer...

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