alhamdullilah
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I know my lack of sleep is taking a toll on my ability to be clear, yet I absolutely appreciate your replies. It would help a little to explain that the discussion of collaring has been going on for some time and he very recently expressed that he is feeling that it is about time to do so. I think I am suffering from a little confusion due to my Gorean background. He isn't high protocol... at least not right now. I can't read him - never could. Just when I'm thinking he's not interested in protocol for example, he'll do something I wouldn't have imagined. It's one of the things I love about him, incidentally. My understanding is that he likes to build up slowly. His intention seems to be to increase the intensity of the dynamic, if that makes sense (again, lack of sleep hindering my ability to be clear, I'm afraid.) I figure that even though begging his collar is kind of a left-over from my Gorean background, he'll appreciate the act of submission, which is quite genuine, and the unabashed expression of my desire for him. As an independent woman, I've found it difficult to be as expressive in that respect. Being out of the lifestyle for a while really threw me for a loop (anybody know the origin of that expression, incidentally?) Sorry, sidetracked myself. I gather from the responses, though, that non-Goreans don't generally do such things..? I mean, a sub/slave would not beg a collar of a Dominant even with the knowledge that he was considering, if not preparing to do that, whereas a kajira would beg a collar in part to demonstrate her desperation and desire? I wonder if there are not others out there who end up overlapping, essentially creating their own definition and protocols, some perhaps similar to Gorean, though they espouse a TPE dynamic. I'm sure there must be. There are definitely some very major differences between the various lifestyle dynamics. I only know that once he has collared me, his expectations are going to increase dramatically. This he's made reference to on a few occasions. Thank you so much for your replies. It takes time to bother with such things so I really appreciate your time and input! Something just occurred to me while I was thinking how much more comfortable I am with what I'm accustomed to... that's the submissive he fell in love with. Perhaps, even if I don't identify as Gorean now, I should do what I'm used to doing..? ~llilah
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At any given time, it would seem that what's on my mind is heavier on one side than on the other, entirely explaining my mental imbalance.
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