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ServiceBoy89 -> How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 11:07:29 AM)
If he is a total newbie-arrogant,proud,undisciplined,knowledgeable and strong personality what are you gonna do?Are you gonna give up and choose someone already obedient or will try to mold this new guy?What will be more interesting for you?And if you actually tried to breaking him to a slavery how are you gonna do it?Is it important to know his weaknesses and so on or you do it to a certain path?What are the risks for this guy to severe harmful effects if it is done incorrectly or incompletely?

BitaTruble -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 11:32:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89 If he is a total newbie-arrogant,proud,undisciplined,knowledgeable and strong personality what are you gonna do? Spend five minutes with him turning him into a compliant, quivering bowl of jello. Yes, I'm that good at what I do. You see, I, too, am arrogant, proud, knowledgeable and have a strong personality.. the difference is that I'm very disciplined and have tons of experience. It's a no-brainer. Your hypothectical newbie doesn't stand a chance. [;)]

peppermint -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 11:35:14 AM)
Why would anyone want to break their toys?

LadyPact -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 12:02:49 PM)
At this stage in My life, I honestly don't have an interest in a submissive that doesn't actually want to submit. For Me, this isn't about 'breaking' anybody. You either want to be in this kind of a relationship or you don't. When a person does, that's great. When they don't, they can take their arrogant, non-disciplined selves right down the road.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 12:19:34 PM)
~FRing it~ Got to agree with Lady Pact on this one. Either the submissive wants to submit or they don't. If they do, great...I can work with that. If they don't or they are hung up on this stupid ass "I must be broken" mentality, I just don't have time for that.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 12:31:02 PM)
This: quote: Spend five minutes with him turning him into a compliant, quivering bowl of jello. Yes, I'm that good at what I do. You see, I, too, am arrogant, proud, knowledgeable and have a strong personality.. the difference is that I'm very disciplined and have tons of experience. It's a no-brainer. Your hypothectical newbie doesn't stand a chance. And this: quote: At this stage in My life, I honestly don't have an interest in a submissive that doesn't actually want to submit. For Me, this isn't about 'breaking' anybody. You either want to be in this kind of a relationship or you don't. When a person does, that's great. When they don't, they can take their arrogant, non-disciplined selves right down the road. I like a brattier sub than most, and am willing to spend the necessary time and energy to get far enough into their head they are more than willing to submit. The person has to want me in there, though. If they give me any indication they don't, I'm gone. I won't engage in an actual struggle over who's in control.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 12:39:48 PM)
OP, based on your profile, you want to be a sex slave. You also don't particularly interested in non-sexual service, considering that you've got "housework" listed under "hates". Now think about that for a second... women get sex offered to them all the time. Dominant women get offered sex even more often than non-Dominant women already get it offered, because they're a smaller demographic with more contenders for their attention. So why on Earth would a Dominant woman want to take the time to "break you in" as a sex slave, when she's got hundreds of willing bodies already waiting to fulfill her ever sexual whim? It won't even be more interesting to "break in" the new guy because of the supposed challenge involved, because if she wants to be more challenged, she can just pick one of the guys willing, and up the intensity level with him to a point where there is more challenge provided. If she's looking for challenge, she has no need to start off with a guy who isn't obedient. Now, if you actually have more to offer than mere sexual slavery. If you're a service submissive willing to accommodate a Dominant's life in every aspect for their own pleasure, then you MAY actually be able to find a woman willing to work with you on a few rough edges, and who won't just expect blank obedience to the nth degree from day one... but that doesn't mean she'll put up with deliberate disobedience to have the "challenge of breaking you in" and it will also mean she'll be expecting a whole lot more from you than for you to be a mere sex toy chained to her bed...

ServiceBoy89 -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 12:46:43 PM)
UllrsIshtar this thread is not for me but for my friend.He want to be under dominant woman control but is a newbie and is scared from the unknown. About me and my kinky sex roleplay I found a dominant woman here.And we are moving slowly .[;)]

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 2:21:56 PM)
I agree with everyone who commented before Me. What subs keep forgetting is that Dommes get BOMBARDED by messages from men BEGGING to submit to Us. We don't need to waste our time on an arrogant male who is trying to BAIT....and that is what it is called, BAITING...trying to manipulate the Dominant into commiting violence, possibly breaking the law. Injuries can happen, and I think many injuries are probably derived from this "you'll have to break me" situation. The Dominant is responsible for the safety of the submissive and therefore should avoid this situation. It's just another form of Topping from the bottom, and most of us with any experience at all won't fall for it. Dominants certainly don't tolerate someone else's attempt at manipulation. While a playful rebellion once in awhile might keep things interesting for some, a sub with an unwillingness to yield is not much fun, especially if every interaction begins with, "You'll have to MAKE me!" and the question of "NON-Consensual" comes into the dynamic---NOT GOOD! Although I enjoy a sub who presents Me with challenges, insubordination is not one of the ones I ENJOY. I certainly am not going to stop everything to put on a special performance to "prove Myself" to him so he'll "reward" Me with his submission. Everything would halt while I had to deal with his attitude if I put up with that sort of thing. It interferes with the flow of Productivity, and prevents us reaching our goals. Why waste time dealing with ATTITUDE when something beautiful could be achieved, TOGETHER? Footnote here: I believe subs who "require" they be "broken" by a dominant really haven't come to grips with their own urge to submit. Perhaps they are ASHAMED and think there is something wrong with their urges....just as some with Bi urges won't do Bi unless "forced". They prefer someone else to "make them do it", therefore the shame they feel is diverted away from them: "She/He MADE me do it." A submissive with experience knows he can get far more attention from a Dominant by submitting than by arguing. It's a win-win for both involved, so why fight it? --MM

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 2:23:56 PM)
...oops, duplicate post, LOL.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 6:44:24 PM)
This....... quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint Why would anyone want to break their toys? and this too...... quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact At this stage in My life, I honestly don't have an interest in a submissive that doesn't actually want to submit. For Me, this isn't about 'breaking' anybody. You either want to be in this kind of a relationship or you don't. When a person does, that's great. When they don't, they can take their arrogant, non-disciplined selves right down the road. NBMG

MadamAsianDom -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 8:19:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl This....... quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint Why would anyone want to break their toys? and this too...... quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact At this stage in My life, I honestly don't have an interest in a submissive that doesn't actually want to submit. For Me, this isn't about 'breaking' anybody. You either want to be in this kind of a relationship or you don't. When a person does, that's great. When they don't, they can take their arrogant, non-disciplined selves right down the road. NBMG As with NiceButMeanGirl, I agree with both of the above quotes. Just reading the thread title, before even clicking it, I was thinking to myself that I've never understood why some use the term "break" in the first place. And having read the original post, it made even less sense. I have better things to do with my time than "break" someone in order to "make" them submit. Now, someone who is new, and needs to be trained in the basics (i.e. ettiquette, protocols, glossary) and has never experienced any of the various types of activities I enjoy - that is something else entirely. I have no problem whatsoever in teaching / training someone. But they have to have the desire to learn, just as they have to already have the desire to submit. If they don't, I really can't be bothered to waste my time.

RumpusParable -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 10:32:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89 If he is a total newbie-arrogant,proud,undisciplined,knowledgeable and strong personality what are you gonna do?Are you gonna give up and choose someone already obedient or will try to mold this new guy?What will be more interesting for you?And if you actually tried to breaking him to a slavery how are you gonna do it?Is it important to know his weaknesses and so on or you do it to a certain path?What are the risks for this guy to severe harmful effects if it is done incorrectly or incompletely? I like a strong, proud, and knowledgeable partner. But the kind of guy you describe and what would be needed just sounds like an annoying asshole, to me... not someone I'd want to spend time with whether submissive, dominant or vanilla. I prefer spending time with someone I like who is intelligent, confident, and capable who likes me taking the lead, who is open and happy for me to teach them what I want and like.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/29/2013 11:13:09 PM)
Arrogant bastards are a dime a dozen. Sweet, sensitive submissive men who comprehend what the word service means are rare gems.

Level -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/30/2013 5:00:39 AM)
I coat a wall with Elmers glue. Then I hurl the obstinate vic, errr, submissive against said wall, and proceed to throw darts at them until they yield. Now, how to get them down...[>:] This works for either masters or mistresses.

ManinLevis2013 -> RE: How dominant woman breaking a new slave/swich parthner? (3/31/2013 7:05:13 PM)
I'm new to this and particularly like tall SSBBWs. How would you introduce or train me on my first session?

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