HisPet21
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Telling him you are disappointed or dissatisfied will make you sound ungrateful, and quite frankly, disrespectful. Try telling him what you want, and letting him decide if you will get it or not. Saying you 'need' something is placing a condition on your relationship, and yes, that is topping from the bottom. OMG, there is so much wrong with this, I don't even know where to start! If you are in a relationship in which both parties are committed to each others' happiness, communicating one's desires, goals, and needs is absolutely essential. Sometimes, unfortunately, that means explaining to your partner that you are disappointed or dissatisfied. Being honest with your dom about your feelings is actually a sign of respect (IMHO), because it demonstrates your trust in his leadership, allows you to acknowledge his caring nature, and gives him the chance to have an impact on your life. My dom is the calmest f*cking guy you will ever meet. I've seen his car hit by a f*cking bus, and he didn't even bat an eyelash. Just dealt with it and then took me out as per our evening plans, like a boss. It is hard to make him angry. On the few occasions he's been mad at me, it's usually because I hid something from him (the reason doesn't even matter), and didn't give him the chance to problem solve with me. He's king of the castle, but how can he rule if the issues aren't laid out for him? Now, sharing feelings isn't disrespectful, but the way in which you share your feelings can be. So, be polite & respectful, and use positive language like "I appreciate where this is going, but I have some ideas as to how we could improve it." Treat the issue as an opportunity to better the relationship and take on a problem solving mentality (rather than a "This sucks, it's a problem" attitude) and you are good to go.
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