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MyrnaM -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (6/30/2013 5:08:27 PM)

Thank you angelikaJ.



AWingedGuardian -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/1/2013 12:28:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SaintEccentric

I'm new but I know this is what I want. On my search to find a master I am afraid I will pick the wrong one or get trained improperly. and advice?



How many times does one echo an echo? On that note, how many times does it carry on? Well I'm adding another echo.

Even so, one of the primary concerns is whether or not you can learn to trust this person. As others have said, take it as dating. You will need to get to know one another first. I say this as I would consider simply diving into a relationship where you allow someone to beat on you with a flog or a whip to be...rather unhealthy. Perhaps they are a sadist, and you're not quite the masochist? Even worse? They then don't make a compromise to suit your limits and demand you meet their expectations.

I find that the Lifestyle is nothing without the trust that accompanies D/s interactions. BDSM can be lovely and incorporated, but isn't always necessary. As such, "training" will differ depending on the individual training you. Get to know them first as a person and dive into the kink later; by that point I'd hope you'd have established a good sense of communication. Without a firm ability to communicate to one another, you stand the chance of a bad experience when the both of you do things that neither enjoy.

...and there I go rambling again. Let's pass the "Talking Stick", shall we?



crazyml -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/2/2013 7:25:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DOM68005

IF I were to agree to meet you, it would be a public place like Denny's.



Denny's eh?




chatterbox24 -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/2/2013 7:35:42 AM)

FIrst off what would be a good dom to you?


a loving asshole, or just an asshole who doesn't care, just his pleasure?


Sorry doms I couldn't resist. I am feisty today.



kliensendelbach -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/7/2013 3:48:16 PM)

Everybody has an inner voice. That something that keeps telling us what to or not to do. If you stop thinking about what you want for a minute, something will tell you who to trust. By the way, something is never wrong.



MyWay1954 -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/8/2013 5:52:56 PM)

Acknowledge mutual interests then back off and go nilla a bit , get to know the person.
And trust your gut, it doesn't lie. The mind will over think and talk you into things but the gut never lies.



Kana -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/9/2013 3:53:27 AM)


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ORIGINAL: SaintEccentric

I'm new but I know this is what I want. On my search to find a master I am afraid I will pick the wrong one or get trained improperly. and advice?

I have a friend who likes to say, "Men are like blue jeans-you keep trying them on until you find that pair that fits perfectly."



Apocalypso -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/9/2013 7:21:06 AM)

Just keep in mind that BDSM and common sense are not mutually exclusive, despite what some seem to believe to the contrary.



SaintEccentric -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/16/2013 6:13:09 PM)

thanks for all the advice



splatterpunk -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/16/2013 6:14:42 PM)

hire a private investigator to check him out. magnum pi is a good choice so is spenser for hire but if they're not available there are always plenty in the yellow pages good luck ;)



lobster123 -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/16/2013 10:47:48 PM)

Hey. You sort of make a blind choice over the net. You only get to and feel the experience once there. Get someone that is trusted. This also won't say that you found what your looking for. There are some really fake doms there iv seem at action so they do exist. A man is a man and ads like one. Im a Dom but unfortunately blunt for some. I don't like liars. Listen. Try and gain some experience. Try a few. Compare the difference. Only you know who's right for you.
Good luck. Message me if you need assistance



lobster123 -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/16/2013 10:53:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: splatterpunk

hire a private investigator to check him out. magnum pi is a good choice so is spenser for hire but if they're not available there are always plenty in the yellow pages good luck ;)

Half of the private investigators are amateur online trained idiots. A certificate with no tools. Real investigators have access to government databases recent photos, location through GPS. Personal hackers, all equipment to listen in. All rubbish mate. Standard person could do that stuff.



lobster123 -> RE: how to safely pick a dom? (7/16/2013 10:57:00 PM)

If you have to go through a private investigator at all times then your one scared person. Do you jump when the phone rings ? Sorry joking if you have a iPhone before you see them send your location to software that has a timer that will call or SMS your friends or family your in danger. You l be fine.



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