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BossyShoeBitch -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 4:48:54 PM)
LOL. Care to explain Kana?

Kana -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 5:42:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch LOL. Care to explain Kana? I'd think it's pretty straightforward :-)

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 6:18:59 PM)
Ohhh!! LOL.

JeffBC -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 6:27:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Love:It's such a nice lever. Lord knows I think that. Casual observation would seem to indicate it's one of the strongest of human motivators... easily enough to get someone to lay down their own life.

LanceHughes -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 7:54:22 PM)
Twice now, I've told a potential slave, "Do NOT fall in love with me." The response, "Too late, Sir." LOL! One man and I had a power dynamic going and about six days into it, I said the "L word" first and he responded, "I was hoping that was the case, Sir. I didn't know exactly how to tell you that I love you, too." Another slave and I .... power dynamic only. So...... quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl The correct answer is......<ba bum bum> It depends. BUT.... come to think of it, never did I fall in love w/o reciprocation. Not sure what that would look like.... Pretty sure that wouldn't "work" given the power dynamic. {see Kana as quoted below - post 21} quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Love:It's such a nice lever.

littlewonder -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 8:01:50 PM)
in my relationships the whole love thing just organically happened. There was no waiting and being nervous that the other won't reciprocate, there was no one wayness. I just said it when I felt like it and it always was right because there was just that connection that I knew when the time was right and when it wasn't.

NuevaVida -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 8:31:35 PM)
~ Fast Reply ~ Some years ago I made a commitment to myself to live an honest life. So when I was kinda seeing a man who I was really growing fond of, after having spent an amazing weekend together connecting on all sorts of life levels, I told him I thought I was starting to love him. I didn't say "I love you" or "I'm falling in love with you." I said "I think I'm starting to feel some love for you." In my world, love is a wonderful thing, so if I love somebody I tell them. The last thing I want to do is stifle myself from expressing love. And that's part of my living an honest life. So he asked what if he doesn't love me back? I said it didn't matter. I thought he was a really cool man and I loved hanging out with him, laughing, talking, singing (yep, we laughed and sang together), just enjoying. He asked me several questions about what I expected back, if I loved him...it really freaked him out. And then we parted company and I didn't hear from him for ohhhh....about 6 months or so, when he shot me an IM to say hello and he's sorry he disappeared. Yeah, I had kinda moved on by then lol. So he apparently wasn't ready/didn't want to be loved. And he vanished. I was OK with that. A little ego wounded at first, but...meh. It was a risk I was willing to take. So when I met the Mister, I still kept my commitment to myself. I figured he could accept or reject my love - that was up to him and not within my control. And if he rejected it and moved on, then so be it. I'd rather live honestly in my relationship, and to me, that means expressing what I feel. Turns out, though, I didn't want to love him, and I didn't want him to love me. I just didn't want to go there. But....we did. And we tell each other all the time that we love each other. So yeah, it really just depends on the person. Some want love. Some do not. Some are afraid of it. Some already have it.

asianfetish24 -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 8:50:10 PM)
Thanks everyone for your input, much appreciated. Do I love him, like nueva posting above I'm starting to fall for him. Am I there yet, time will let me know. I did manage to gather up the courage and shoot him an email about how I felt about him and he read my email in front of me. I'm not one who wears my heart on my sleeve so expressing myself like I did took a lot. Again thanks everyone

SunTzuSwe -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 4:39:44 AM)
I would be very happy to hear that from a sub. Emotions are important to me and I like a long term relationship to be loving.

SoulcatcherXXX -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 12:13:07 PM)
As others said, it depends on the person. I would personally love to hear news like that. It's been my experience that it is quite a bit more risky in terms of maintaining a strong relationship over time when the Master falls in love with the slave than the other way round. A Master in love with a slave, especially if the Master is new, often can lead to an unwillingness to mete out proper discipline, or maybe a better way to say it is that the slave might be allowed to get away with certain things that normally wouldn't fly at all. The Master might no longer like the idea of punishing the slave hard, for instance, and let some mistakes slide. That's almost always a mistake and in my experience usually leads to the slave deciding the Master is no longer strong enough to handle her...and so she leaves him. But as I said, I had great luck and really enjoyed things when I owned a slave who was in love with me. Good luck!!!

OsideGirl -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 12:20:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoulcatcherXXX As others said, it depends on the person. I would personally love to hear news like that. It's been my experience that it is quite a bit more risky in terms of maintaining a strong relationship over time when the Master falls in love with the slave than the other way round. A Master in love with a slave, especially if the Master is new, often can lead to an unwillingness to mete out proper discipline, or maybe a better way to say it is that the slave might be allowed to get away with certain things that normally wouldn't fly at all. The Master might no longer like the idea of punishing the slave hard, for instance, and let some mistakes slide. That's almost always a mistake and in my experience usually leads to the slave deciding the Master is no longer strong enough to handle her...and so she leaves him. But as I said, I had great luck and really enjoyed things when I owned a slave who was in love with me. Good luck!!! And this post basically assumes that everyone has a punishment dynamic.

ATEXEN -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 1:43:24 PM)
Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either.

lizi -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 1:49:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. Bullshit. If you read the thread there were quite a few people who said they welcome love in their D/s relationships and said the relationships flourish with it.

OsideGirl -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 1:52:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. Gee, I guess I'll have to tell Master that our 13 year marriage is a farce because some guy on the internet thinks it undermines the entire relationship and causes hard feelings.

Kana -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 3:50:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. I'm not exactly sure if love would undermind a relationship, but it sure as hell won't undermine one. :-)

searching4mysir -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 5:22:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. I'll have to tell Master that some random stranger on the Internet thinks we've doing it wrong these past two years. I'm sure he'll get a huge chuckle out of that one.

littlewonder -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 7:06:33 PM)
Yeah over 7 years and still doing it wrong. Geez, I just can't seem to get it right. [8\|]

sexyred1 -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 8:07:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. That qualifies as one of the dumbest sentences, ever.

LafayetteLady -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 11:04:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ATEXEN Having a Master and slave in love either way is not good and would undermind the entire relationship and eventually cause hard feelings with either. Well, for a married guy, I can see how that would happen, considering it would mean that the s-type would have expectations that are simply never going to happen. But since your profile reads like some fantasy BDSM novel, I'm not surprised you lack the knowledge.

LafayetteLady -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/4/2013 11:06:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asianfetish24 Thanks everyone for your input, much appreciated. Do I love him, like nueva posting above I'm starting to fall for him. Am I there yet, time will let me know. I did manage to gather up the courage and shoot him an email about how I felt about him and he read my email in front of me. I'm not one who wears my heart on my sleeve so expressing myself like I did took a lot. Again thanks everyone Ok, I have to ask....Is this all over the internet, or have you met this person and have a face to face relationship> And yes, it does make a difference.

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