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24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/26/2006 3:42:12 AM

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Mistresses,

Is your slave(s) kept collared every hour of every day? If so, what are the benefits of this practice?

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/26/2006 4:49:32 AM

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I'll answer this question, not for the OP specifically, but for anyone who is new and might benefit from the answer...

nomi wears my training collar in the form of a ring that she never takes off... I wear an identical ring as a bond between she and I.

cubby wears a leather collar 24/7 unless he is at a job that has a dress code. In that case, I remove it every morning and return it to it's place every evening. Dianna Vesta suggested the Eternity Collar and cubby and I have decided that we will be getting one for him. (I've been planning a formal ceremony for a long time, but life had other plans - we will be rectifying that very soon) Once that collar is in place, it will never come off except for a medical emergency.

As for why they wear them 24/7... Because we love each other and want the reminder of our special lives together. (I know-I know, it's more lifestyle to say that it reminds them of their place... but honestly, nomi and cubby KNEW their place before they ever met me - when they met me, they finally knew their heart, which is loads different.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/26/2006 10:09:26 AM

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Mistresses,

Is your slave(s) kept collared every hour of every day? If so, what are the benefits of this practice?

Fox used to but as he deals with his past and gets stronger himself we've uncovered some things that make it difficult.

He wears his collar a few hours every day.

The collar is just symbol afterall though an important one to me.

I had to decide, was 6 years of good service and love worth more than a collar? Fox is worth more to me than his wearing a collar 24/7.

Instead we are weighing options of other symbols he can wear 24/7 and how we can make them special for us.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/26/2006 11:34:41 AM

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a 24x7 collar.

24" by 7" or what?

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/26/2006 11:43:16 AM

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Dear abeautifullife, Ladies and Gentlemen;

The 'real' collar is around the heart, the mind and the spirit. A physical collar is a symbol to which others can acknowledge the status one is in.

The 'real' collar is only as good as the 'real intent'-- Only the person who seeks a collar and or wears the collar knows the total truth of how genuine the collar is honored, respected, understood and it's meaning. The one placing it upon a person's neck is placing real 'in good faith' intent in that individual, can only opperate with good faith as the person who wears such can choose to wear it honorably or dishonorably.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/27/2006 4:38:18 PM

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24x7 Collar; Yes or No?

yes.
Actually I have three kinds of Collars, One for training to become a slave, One for short term slavery contracts
and one for longterm slavery contracts.
The benifit is showing My Ownership of another human being who chooses to be totally My posession which differs from someone who chooses to marry another but all the same if I were to have married each and put a wedding ring on thier fingers it would hold close to equal value in My eyes My collars.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/27/2006 7:47:41 PM

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Is your slave(s) kept collared every hour of every day?

No, but it's My fondest wish....

If so, what are the benefits of this practice?

It would make Me deliriously happy....

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/27/2006 8:10:22 PM

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Unless he's got a job where jewelry and other adornments would put him in physical harm, he is in it 24/7, around the clock. In the case of one of my formers, a police officer, his cock was pierced by me as his mark of ownership since his wearing a collar or chain around his neck would have put him in harm's way (i.e. a perp could grab it in a fight, etc.)

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/29/2006 12:14:32 AM

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We have four types of collars in our household.

1. We have embroidered collars that we use for scenes, one for each Domme. After we have discussed and set boundaries, the Domme who is scening with the sub/slave places it around his/her neck and leaves it on for the duration of the scene. It is removed at the end.

2. We have leash collars to which we attach chain leashes. These are just for clubs or for show, generally.

3. We also keep our collared submissive in a collar for permanent wear. It's upgraded with each milestone. Currently it is a simply velvet rope around her neck. Later we will add a pendant, then embroidery.

4. For subs who have made the six months mark, we give them very fancy, hand embroidered collars. This is to be worn only for special occassions.

So, yes, our submissives must wear collars 24/7, but is usually an honor, not a chore. The public collar is tasteful and discreet, though, and is nothing that a vanilla person would recognize beyond being pretty jewelry.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/30/2006 8:27:30 AM

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Collars come in two types - symbolic and utilitarian. A symbolic collar is really just like a wedding ring. It signifies your love and devotion to the one who put it on you. A utilitarian one is used to discipline, to restrain, and as a very convenient place to attach a leash too! Sometimes the two types of collars are combined and serve both functions.

And, as others have said, its not always practical (or even desired) to have your collar around the neck at all times. If you and your sub truly desire to have that sort of connection and are in a situation where it's not possible to do the normaly thing, you have plenty of alternatives. You can pierce the genitals with rings, or a nipple(s), you can use a tattoo, or a ring, or even a piece of jewelry or clothing. Basically anything that works can be used.

But ultimately the physical collar pales in comparison to the one worn around their heart and soul. THAT one is the most important one, and while never seen, it is the strongest you will ever have.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 6/30/2006 10:36:16 AM

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I consider a collar akin to a wedding ring, and I have never placed a collar on a pet to this day for that reason.

That said, for the playmates whom I've had relationships lasting years in duration, I've always given them something special to signify what We had together...usually in the form of a discreet ring, cuff, etc. This was more as an expression of mutual dedication, and it brought them comfort and happiness to look at it and wear it daily, feeling I was always with them.

When I commit to a long-term relationship, I would likely design and make matching rings or something similar. The appeal of the full-time formal collar has lessened for Me through these last few years...

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/6/2006 12:43:20 AM

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Interesting, that sounds sad Thea. The collar for Me has strenthened thru the years actually and has become quite a celebration as I have matured.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/6/2006 12:57:52 AM

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Dear abeautifullife, Ladies and Gentlemen;

The 'real' collar is around the heart, the mind and the spirit. A physical collar is a symbol to which others can acknowledge the status one is in.

The 'real' collar is only as good as the 'real intent'-- Only the person who seeks a collar and or wears the collar knows the total truth of how genuine the collar is honored, respected, understood and it's meaning. The one placing it upon a person's neck is placing real 'in good faith' intent in that individual, can only opperate with good faith as the person who wears such can choose to wear it honorably or dishonorably.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

I really like that answer LadyHugs.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/6/2006 4:55:46 AM

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runs up and gives proud a hug.............. hey you!!! I miss you thread jerker! !kiss!

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/6/2006 1:12:42 PM

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Calandra -
I so love your answer. I feel the same way with My submissive...although she was completely new to the scene and has a hard time with it from time to time - expected given her newbie status...My training collar on her is to remind her that I love her and W/we share a life bound by love and respect. Quite frankly, to be sentimential if it were, I could not imagine My life without her.

I've been told that the peril of having a submissive or slave is falling in love with them. I do not agree. Since I entered this life 6 years ago My main goal has been to find a sub/slave that I can be in love with and visa versa. I still punish her, correct her, challenge her, push her, love her, compliment her, respect her and use her body as I wish...all in the name of love.

At heart a sadistic dominant romantic! :-)
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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/7/2006 4:55:21 PM

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I sure wish i could find someone in the lifestyle like MstsOrlando....all I've run across are doms who want just a slave and not a love interest. Kind of giving up on finding it...but reading these posts makes me think I should hold on till I find one....and maybe get a collar of my own from that person. I also agree that the collar is a symbol of a deeper connection....

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/7/2006 7:55:42 PM

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quote:

Is your slave(s) kept collared every hour of every day? If so, what are the benefits of this practice?

I think the real question being asked here is, "Do you have your slave wear a collar every hour of every day."

I am collared, but I do not wear an actual collar except on rare occasions. The collar, to us, is a symbol of my being collared, but being collared is an emotional and spiritual commitment that doesn't require physical evidence to make it so.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/8/2006 8:40:48 AM

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My sub has several public collars W/we choose for her to wear, when it's play time, I have more utilitarian choices, such as heavy collars for leashes, etc.

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RE: 24x7 Collar; Yes or No? - 7/8/2006 11:32:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear abeautifullife, Ladies and Gentlemen;

The 'real' collar is around the heart, the mind and the spirit. A physical collar is a symbol to which others can acknowledge the status one is in.

The 'real' collar is only as good as the 'real intent'-- Only the person who seeks a collar and or wears the collar knows the total truth of how genuine the collar is honored, respected, understood and it's meaning. The one placing it upon a person's neck is placing real 'in good faith' intent in that individual, can only opperate with good faith as the person who wears such can choose to wear it honorably or dishonorably.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

As usual LadyHugs comes up with a great answer.

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