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Flavors of D/s and specific activities - 6/13/2013 9:56:32 PM

Whiplashsmile4

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A good submissive friend which I've known for years pulled a sneak attack and showed up for a visit.
At least she called while I was in the middle of work to let me know that she'd be there in like 5 hours.
I knew without any doubt it's was going turn into a full blown kinky hookup. LOL

Anyways, this has happened to me twice now. Where I was in the middle of things with somebody
and they pulled out the "DADDY" word. GGggrrrr... Don't call me that! That's a private protected
reserved area.

I really don't consider myself to be a Daddy Dom. I've been in this head space a couple of times
though. It's a little different place emotionally for me. Also, unless I'm drawn to somebody that
way... the whole Daddy/little girl thing does not cut it for me.

There's somebody here in town where I live, we hooked up one night and she pulled out the "Daddy"
word on me. That really threw my head space in 2.5 seconds flat.

I'm comfortable with SIR, MASTER...hell lovingly being called "ASSHOLE" is way way more acceptable.

What's a little uncomfortable for me to admit. Is that some crazy random hookup which turned bad
I had a few weeks ago. I was feeling this Daddy/little girl spark for (brought out the softer side of
SEARS per se). We had stepped out of the shower, and I was toweling her ass down. She was
standing there saying how good it felt. That she had had not had that in years, since she was a kid.

Keep in mind this is the same girl that I had slapped, choked, fucked, did some nasty watersports
with, spit down her throat and spit all over her face even. Even took my flogger to. Yeah, called
her a fucking slut, dirty fucking slut and all the typical stuff. However I also took the washable
markers and instead of writing vulgar stuff all over her body. I used her as a coloring book..
filling in an uncolored Tat on her lower back.

I rather much enjoyed the growing headspace which I was feeling for this crazy. In some ways
did not want to give it up. However, very very much needed to eject this one. I'm sitting here
finding myself still longing to spend time with her though. So yeah, It makes me a bit of an
emotional masochist to even be feeling this way. Even more so considering this was not an
established relationship. Grrrrrrr...

I'm rather confused at the moment. I have this protected head space that not anybody can
get at. Protected Area. Yet, at the same time. When I'm feeling that spark, I'm into it.
Regardless of how long I've known or not known them.

I've also discovered that I have a certain desire for specific sets of activities are connected
with it. Like watersports for example.

I'm a little puzzled by all this.

I'm kind of interested if anybody has gone through similar experiences?
Discovered certain connections with activities to specific Flavors of D/s involved?
Also if anybody understands different head spaces associated with D/s as well?

It's not like I have any control over this head space stuff either. I just roll with
the spark which is or is not there.

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RE: Flavors of D/s and specific activities - 6/13/2013 10:27:51 PM

BambiBoi

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I guess that's the risk of not negotiating first...

I switch, but I have a similar story. To spare you all the sticky details, I was bottoming and the top kept calling me "stupid" during a bout of humiliation play. In general, totally acceptable by me. I try to be humble, but it was difficult for me to imagine any topic in which I am "stupid" by comparison. I lost interest. Another time, I was bottoming with a play mate who also sort of switches. She slapped me. Being slapped in the face does not put me into sub space. It brings out the wolf. I instantly switched and we had a sexy wrestle for dominance. Thought it ended well, it is another example of a sudden and jarring shift.

It is regrettable when the moment is ruined because of a fleeting remark. I've tried to roll with the punches so to speak. "Daddy? Silly girl, you'll find no quarter here. Try again and this time... Realize you are warm flesh." (That sounds a wee bit daemonic, maybe "Daddy? No no no, you ask MASTER whether you can suck cock to get out of trouble." She'll get the point and you get the idea). Reset the expectation without the communication ruining the mood. Unless, of course, it's a deal breaker. She might be needing that kind of play, in which case compromise might be hard on the fly.

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RE: Flavors of D/s and specific activities - 6/14/2013 2:18:50 PM

Kana

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quote:

Even took my flogger to

Oh, you savage brute you.

I jest Whip-it's good to see you posting again

quote:

I'm kind of interested if anybody has gone through similar experiences?
Discovered certain connections with activities to specific Flavors of D/s involved?
Also if anybody understands different head spaces associated with D/s as well?

I don't discover connections with activities.
I discover connections with people while undergoing activities.
Which makes all the difference in the world. For lots of reasons, but mostly because it brings me to one of the key things in BDSM for moi and mine: What I've loved with one person I sometimes don't enjoy at all with another.

That said, moving on to your topic: I shift moods on her all the time. Sometimes she's an it. Sometimes she's my snuggly mouse. each has it's own flavor. Each has it's own headspace.

There are times I feel protective of her (kinda the same way I feel about my cats-sshhhhh, don't tell her)or proud of her and it's a real warm fuzzy feeling. Othertimes, she's just a hunk of meat that I'm enjoying her scream and moan.

Neither contradict each other.
She mine to do with as I will. Part of which means, nobody gets to hurt her but me.
Plus, it's real fun to fuck with her head this way.
Prevents her from getting bored, taking me for granted, keeps her on her toes.
I'll shift in mid-meal.

And I've had it go the other way. Not with mouse. but I can clearly recall another gal post play asking me in this I have no clue where that came from little girl baby talk voice, "Can I go potty?"
It just totally turned me off.
Why? Not sure exactly.I can think of at least a few other gals who've said similar things and I haven't even noticed, much less blinked. But something about this gal saying it just hit something negative in me. It felt phony and really killed that post play glow.

So I hope that helps answer you

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RE: Flavors of D/s and specific activities - 6/14/2013 5:38:11 PM

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I think Bambi has the right idea. Eventually she'll get it.

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