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journals - 6/14/2013 5:15:20 AM

goodgirlmary

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My dom hasnever asked for one,but i see it pops up on a lot of the sites.should i keep one?do you? Do you keep it generalized to your relationship or path fown the bdsm trsil,or does it include other things?

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RE: journals - 6/14/2013 5:29:20 AM

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Well, the question of whether or not to keep one, and what to do with it, is usually addressed by the person asking for it to be done. Since in this case that person is you, the purpose of your journal can be whatever you like.

In my life, I had a Dom (RL) who requested daily emails with a recap of my activities - this was his version of having me keep a journal. He would occasionally give me assignments to work on in the journal entries as personal things he wanted me to think and write about. Otherwise he had a few basic rules about the entries that I followed, and the rest was up to me.

People generally use journaling for self reflection, goal setting, record-keeping....it's really up to you how to use it. Try it out and see how you like it, or ask your Dom if it's something he'd be interested in and what approach he'd like you to take in doing it.

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RE: journals - 6/14/2013 5:36:27 AM

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I noticed when I ask him questions lately I dont really get answers.If he keeps our playdate Ill ask him, but he cancelled yesterdays snd hadnt responded to mytexts or anything since.i thought maybe subs kept the journal to keep track of things they did wrong or right

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RE: journals - 6/14/2013 5:50:23 AM

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This is kind of a multi-faceted answer.

I'm a writer. It's what I do. I keep several online journals that read kind of generally. A quick look at my journal here will show that I suffered some heartache, recently but it doesn't give a lot of detail. I almost never do.

While journaling gives me an opportunity to vent/heal, I am actually a fairly private person or, I respect others' right to privacy (ie; you'll never see a journal, here, that contains anything negative about a lady I met here. Forget about mentioning a name. In that situation, I'd write about it, elsewhere).

Now, my personal (not online) journal has all the dirt (I keep swearing I'm gonna publish it, some day). In it, I write about everything. The very essence of who I am at a very personal level.

I have never asked a lady to keep a journal and when I was involved with ladies that did, I always cautioned them about the public/private thing. I never wanted to see anyone's private journal unless they chose to share it with me. I would actually counsel against keeping the "private kind" of journal for a man unless you really, really trust him.

A private journal (like the one I described) would be a window into one's very soul and unless the guy is really deserving of your trust, it could be used to really fuck with your head. Sorry, I studied psychology in college.

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RE: journals - 6/14/2013 6:03:50 AM

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I would say I trust him most if the time, but sometimes his indifference is concerning. I cant tell if he is withholding or if Im not great at knowing what to do or say. Thats why I thought maybe there was something to the journaling.you are probably right, and since he didnt ask for one I guess I will keep one for only me

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