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MyWay1954 -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/8/2013 6:33:44 PM)
Anyone seeking needs to Put themselves out there, risks and all and yes it includes women and/or subs initiating contact. Think of it this way. You've just spotted the perfect match for you. Personality, body type, interests, education, everything, just perfect. And they're looking the other way! Do you tap on their shoulder and introduce yourself, or walk away?

DesFIP -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/8/2013 6:55:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SouthernSensual I just think it is the M/D responsibility to contact the sub....I would hope there was something about my profile that sounded like something he was looking for. And how's that working for you? Since you're not with anyone, I have to think it hasn't been such a successful strategy. But don't write saying you want to start a relationship. Ask about their dog if they have a picture of them. I started a friendly conversation once because I just couldn't figure out where their avatar pic was. Think of it as trying to make friends. Maybe a friend will become a lover and maybe not, but do you really want as a lover someone you aren't friends with?

garyFLR -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/10/2013 4:25:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BambiBoi When I log in and see NEW MESSAGES I get all giddy. Normally it's a lovely woman from far away that needs money. Men on this site receive an average of two unsolicited messages a month. So a "Hello, I liked X about your profile" is sufficient to start things up. It is not "unsubmissive" to open channels of communication. Submitting does not require being weak. When I take a submissive, I want it to be a tiger. But my tiger. Grawr! You've stated the case perfectly. I must admit that I feel too shy & embarrassed to send unsolicited messages to profiles, so if I can give a piece of advice that I don't take personally, politely message anyone who takes your fancy, see what happens, if nothing happens, your in cyberspace, you're nothing out. But, it could [:)].

TexasMaster66 -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/13/2013 10:48:12 PM)
Messages from subs show interest to a perspective Dom, Domme since for the most part subs are overwhelmed by Real Dom Dommes as well as the want to bes seeking subs. Therefore cutting down on the aggravation

sunshinemiss -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/13/2013 11:20:38 PM)
Hey there ~ (to the OP and anyone else) People are people. Folks like to be noticed for who they are. And frankly, I don't care what they consider themselves. If I like them, I like them. If I have something to say, I say it. None of these fellows or ladies is in a romantic relationship with me, and I'm a pretty strong willed gal. If a man CAN'T handle an email from me, he sure as heck can't handle me the person. Here's what I do - expect nothing. Say what I have to say. (I'm a fairly polite individual generally, so I don't get gobs of hate mail in return). I can't stop being who I am - a little sassy, somewhat intelligent, kind of silly, and all around loving. I show that. In my several years on CM, I've met quite a few of the fellows that are on here. (And the ladies too!) Sometimes I strike up a conversation, sometimes they do. Until we are busy getting busy, I'm totally gonna be in charge of my own interactions. Any man who doesn't want a strong willed, passionate, sometimes irrational, often expressive gal DOES NOT WANT ME. Again, I have to be who I am. I know that when we are new to something, we want to "fit in" and respect the social norms. But here are the social norms in a nutshell: Be yourself and have fun. best wishes, sunshine

FrankAr -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/14/2013 1:00:29 AM)
If you want to send messages...then go ahead, simple. Talk about anything and everything, it will show how mature you are and the topics that can generate your interests. I mean no male wants a female that says a few words and then nothing, it sucks. Have a great convo for a few hours, and then see how it felt. Remember being in this type of relationship means that you can't just paddle, cane, whip all the time, sometimes you just have to sit at the table and talk.....lololol.

Mstrofpatience -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/17/2013 12:26:05 PM)
I am always up for conversation, and rarely solicit those that do not message me first. I have grown tired of those that just post and run away. I want to KNOW that the person I am going to be communicating with really does have an interest in ME and has taken the time to read my profile. Good luck in your search.

crazyml -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/17/2013 12:37:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana Submissiveness is not a refuge for someone with an inferiority complex, and that's all I'm going to say. Kerbingo. To the OP... It's lovely to get a message from a sub.

JeffBC -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/17/2013 10:31:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eagertoplease88 I am curious to know how Dominants feel about receiving what I guess could be called solicitations from submissive females. I like getting messages from people in general. I LIKE people. This business of "un-submissive" confuses me. How can you either be submissive or not in the absence of any command? That's this BDSM-submission thing where there are, apparently, lots of rules and whatnot. I'm pretty sure that even under those rules you're allowed to write a dom if you dance in widdershins around your keyboard 3 times before typing.

garyFLR -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/17/2013 11:57:51 PM)
It seems to me that a genuine enquiry from anyone on CM, whether they be submissive or dominant is always worth getting [:)]. All initial messages, are by definition going to be vanilla based, unless it's from a loony or a scammer. It's always a pleasure to receive a polite interesting message, it can lead to a really good online friendship, perhaps more. I guess everyone's self esteem goes up a couple of notches, when someone takes notice of them. I know mine does [:D].

garyFLR -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/18/2013 12:16:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MyWay1954 Anyone seeking needs to Put themselves out there, risks and all and yes it includes women and/or subs initiating contact. Think of it this way. You've just spotted the perfect match for you. Personality, body type, interests, education, everything, just perfect. And they're looking the other way! Do you tap on their shoulder and introduce yourself, or walk away? I must admit, I have a problem initiating contact, not just because I'm submissive, Dominants probably get loads of messages from people like me, they probably just delete 90% of them, as they must get tired of the weird ones [:)]. They probably don't even get round to reading mine [:D]. Just by the by, has anyone ever read a profile & thought this is wonderful, we are made for each other, only to find out in the last sentence, that you're the last person on Earth that they would be interested in? Now that's a bit of a downer [:D]!

hrxxx -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (7/18/2013 1:01:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eagertoplease88 I am curious to know how Dominants feel about receiving what I guess could be called solicitations from submissive females. I feel that if I just wait around for someone to message me, I might not be able to find what I am looking for, but on the other hand it strikes me as kind of forward to send messages to Doms asking if they want to talk to me. To me, it feels kind of un-submissive, but I am also shy, so maybe that is just my excuse for not being more outgoing. I would love to hear some opinions on the matter from Doms. How do you feel about receiving messages from submissive women? What would you like to see in a message from a submissive female who wants to inquire about striking up some kind of relationship? You should not be afraid to send messages to Dominant if you just are polite and do not start by saying Sir / Master. Tell what you think of their profile, and tell about yourself and what you are looking for a Dominant Submissive relationship

JustAMas -> RE: How do you feel about getting messages from sub women? (8/4/2013 12:24:02 AM)
I would not feel un-submissive to me and you should generally contact people that you like.

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