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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:29:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I have seen your profile. BDSM dating is not as venilla dating, you can not search the same way.

Master and I met at a social. We became friends. Then he asked me out on a date. Then we dated for a month before having sex or playing. Then a few months later we got engaged. Then a year later we got married. We've been married for 13 years.

Yeah....that's tons different than vanilla dating.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:31:36 AM

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I hate watching people eat, or eating by them. But its really for allpeople lol, thin fat eck. And feet,hate feet. I love to sit st the foot of a master, but I neeed themto wear shoes

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:42:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissReddy

Hi All,
I have found this site a little odd. It is called Collar Me, but I have found that there are few boys on it who actually want to be collared in real life!
Most seem to be online players only or just up for occasional sex meets.
I have a set criteria, just as I would in vanilla dating; it is not too much of an ask to want an equally attractive partner in a relationship.
As a real lifestyle Domme I am finding it pretty useless to find anyone who takes it seriously :(

You might try a) putting up a picture of yourself so that potential partners can make a judgment about your own attractiveness to them as well as vice versa and b) contact them yourself, rather than waiting for them to contact you.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:58:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissReddy

... As a real lifestyle Domme I am finding it pretty useless to find anyone who takes it seriously :(

Has anyone else had a similar experience? or different?

Without getting into the whole profile thing (waves at Rawni and pointing out that *writers* pay attention to words

),
my experience on CM has been different. I've found multiple real-time submissives through the other side for multi-year relationships, so I'm a fan.

Not with every contact, of course, but both sides of the kneel have to work at separating the wheat from the chaff.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 11:02:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
both sides of the kneel have to work at separating the wheat from the chaff.

This is SO true!

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 3:46:23 PM

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Judging by the op's profile, I'm not surprised she's having so much trouble. It tells nothing about her as a person. So how could anyone decide that they like the way she thinks, or that she has a similar sense of humor when nothing of that sort is shown.

She needs to figure out what she wants in a person besides male and exercising. If she does know, then she needs to show it.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 7:12:49 PM

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But I do not understand why must your slave be in fit gym form? I think, if you are Mistress and he is a slave, can not you train him to go to the gym everyday and so he can be fit gym form, well it was just a thought

Its no different than a man looking for a blue-eyed blonde or a green-eyed red head.... its personal preference.

She hasnt put down overweight or underweight guys.. she has simply stated her preference, which I cannot find fault with.

There is no fault in that!
But if I had to search in the same way based on the real slave girl profiles I've seen, I would be chasing a fantasy! And the way i see it is when I'm looking at my BDSM criteria which are 24/7, Slave Girl, TPE, possibly LTR, Strong Mosochist or Discipiln slave between 18 and 29 years, within the EU and who are willing to relocate .
Then I have about 50 girl profiles that fit, and out of the 50 I has to find someone who will live in the BDSM world I have created for us, and if I put in, that I would only have a slave girl who is in good gym form, I would as I said chasing a fantasy slave girl.
And if a girl is underweight, overweight, out of shape, can not cook, can not clean, lazy, smoke, can not talk about things that Interest me, not submassive enough, not obedient enough.
All of these things is something that I can train with her, which will probably take years to train and make sure my collection of BDSM stuff will never collect dust.
This is just my way of doing things, and it need not be right for everyone!

But my advice is to look at BDSM criteria first and see what it brings, perhaps it is possible to find a slave who not only into online M / S or casual sex.

About online girls and one time sessions girls, it looks to me like they make it clear on their profiles, but as I said, I search only within my own BDSM criteria and do not look at profiles outside that

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 7:37:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I have seen your profile. BDSM dating is not as venilla dating, you can not search the same way.
But I do not understand why must your slave be in fit gym form? I think, if you are Mistress and he is a slave, can not you train him to go to the gym everyday and so he can be fit gym form, well it was just a thought

Yes you can and amazingly that's how I met Master...on here...over 7 years ago.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 7:41:29 PM

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Very nice.
Your brain deserves a pat on the back misskitty.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 8:32:13 PM

hrxxx

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I have seen your profile. BDSM dating is not as venilla dating, you can not search the same way.

Master and I met at a social. We became friends. Then he asked me out on a date. Then we dated for a month before having sex or playing. Then a few months later we got engaged. Then a year later we got married. We've been married for 13 years.

Yeah....that's tons different than vanilla dating.

You've quite right.
On a venilla site you have100% of male profiles to search through, and it's hard enough to find a partner.

On a BDSM site you have 6 kinds of male profiles Dom / Master / Sadist / Sub / Slave / Masochist so here you have 16.6% of the male slave profiles to search through if you look for slave only. Do you divide the 16, 6% into age 18-30 years 30-40 years 40-50 years 50-60 years then you have 4.1% of the male profiles 30-40 years and when you list all your other BDSM criteria such as 24/7, TPE, LTR, Dicisplin, How many male profiles do you think that are back once you have made your BDSM criteria?

On a venilla site would your search criteria might be, romantic dinner, long walks by the water when you are done with all your venilla criteria, then you will probably sit with 5% of the male profiles that you can choose from and you can start browsing by looks, body and whatever else you can think of.

On a BDSM site, people are very precise about what they want and are looking for from a BDSM relationship / lifestyle and the more you put on the list, the lower chance you get to find that BDSM relationship you want.

My guess is that you and your master, did not write precise about your BDSM criteria and that your relationship just developed as it has. But I could be wrong.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 8:45:16 PM

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and some people wonder why they're still single.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 8:51:30 PM

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quote:

But if I had to search in the same way based on the real slave girl profiles I've seen, I would be chasing a fantasy! And the way i see it is when I'm looking at my BDSM criteria which are 24/7, Slave Girl, TPE, possibly LTR, Strong Mosochist or Discipiln slave between 18 and 29 years, within the EU and who are willing to relocate .

Why cant you teach a girl to be a masochist?

Why cant you teach them to love 24/7?

Surely you can teach a girl to be a slave.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 9:19:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

and some people wonder why they're still single.

Oddly enough, they're usually the only ones who are wondering.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 9:26:47 PM

hrxxx

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

Do you realize how potentially hard it is to take someone who's not in the kind of shape you wany and break all their bad habits or get them under control and then, after all that work, they may not even be able to have the kind of body you want and desire?

If you want a peak psychical fit specimen I see nothing wrong with not giving those who aren't but maybe could be one day a chance.

And I disagree that you can't hunt the same way for for bdsm as vanilla, because to some extent you can. The terminology might be a bit diferent than vanilla, but good picking skills are good picking skills vanilla, bdsm or purple alien.

quote:

ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I have seen your profile. BDSM dating is not as venilla dating, you can not search the same way.
But I do not understand why must your slave be in fit gym form? I think, if you are Mistress and he is a slave, can not you train him to go to the gym everyday and so he can be fit gym form, well it was just a thought

I disagree with you.

If you can not train away bad habits and figure in an M/S relationship then it is not a true M/S relationship in my eyes, or the trainer is too lazy or do not want a slave without bad habits.

It is right that all can not look like a underwear model, but all who eat right and exercise right can get a firm gym figure.

Of the slave girls I have written with in here, none of dem to have seen it as groundbreaking limit that I demand they eat right and exercise every day, but maybe it different with male slaves.

It is up to each trainer how he or she trains their slave, I'm not saying that my way is the right one. But it is the only way for me!

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:27:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

quote:

But if I had to search in the same way based on the real slave girl profiles I've seen, I would be chasing a fantasy! And the way i see it is when I'm looking at my BDSM criteria which are 24/7, Slave Girl, TPE, possibly LTR, Strong Mosochist or Discipiln slave between 18 and 29 years, within the EU and who are willing to relocate .

Why cant you teach a girl to be a masochist?

Why cant you teach them to love 24/7?

Surely you can teach a girl to be a slave.

If I were looking for a girl on a venilla site, and found a girl I could tell her about BDSM and maybe she'd see the same thing in BDSM as I see BDSM and get fantasies in her head, and start to dream about, being af helpless littel slave girl, then it is possible to make her slave., By first plant an idea of BDSM and start to mold her brain, and later mold her as a slave, yes it is a good option, but it takes very long time. and the biggest problem is willing to relocate.

But now I'm not on a venilla site, but on a BDSM site and looking out from my BDSM criteria, and they are as I said before 24/7, Slave Girl, TPE, possibly LTR, Strong Mosochist or Discipiln slave between18 and 29 years, within EU and som are willing to relocate

Strong Mosochist or Discipiln side
So if she's masochist is fine and if she has a strong discipline side can learn to be a masochist, I thought it was logical when I wrote Mosochist or Discipiln.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 10:38:43 PM

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My point, which you obviously missed, is that not everyone is a slave. You cant take someone and make them become what you want.

A laundry list of things youa re looking for makes the search far easier in some respects.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 11:02:28 PM

sexyred1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissReddy

Hi All,
I have found this site a little odd. It is called Collar Me, but I have found that there are few boys on it who actually want to be collared in real life!
Most seem to be online players only or just up for occasional sex meets.
I have a set criteria, just as I would in vanilla dating; it is not too much of an ask to want an equally attractive partner in a relationship.
As a real lifestyle Domme I am finding it pretty useless to find anyone who takes it seriously :(

You might try a) putting up a picture of yourself so that potential partners can make a judgment about your own attractiveness to them as well as vice versa and b) contact them yourself, rather than waiting for them to contact you.

That would require more effort, easier to just make demands.

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RE: Online only? - 6/28/2013 11:56:46 PM

hrxxx

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

My point, which you obviously missed, is that not everyone is a slave. You cant take someone and make them become what you want.

A laundry list of things youa re looking for makes the search far easier in some respects.

And my point is that if you list all your BDSM criteria first and begins to list more criteria on top of that, then you have the same chance of finding what you are looking as a snowball in hell.

If I wrote on my BDSM profile that I was looking for a masochist girl or a submassive girl or a slave girl, it would not be particularly serious, and if I were to find a masochist or submassive girl, and want to begin mold her as a slave, ther is the same chance of success as failure.

As a starting point I can only assume that a slave who seeks a trainer and a trainer who seek a slave best fit together and have a good chance for a successful relationship.

This is just my logic, and it is not necessarily true, but just as I see it

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RE: Online only? - 6/29/2013 4:50:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rawni

my head started spinning, my eyes started doing something weird and I thought... I better diagnose these symptoms. It was kind of funny.

I've seen that before. It usually occurs when a naturally submissive woman tries to be a Domme. Perhaps you could come over here and I'll see what I can do about those symptoms.

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RE: Online only? - 6/29/2013 4:58:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I have seen your profile. BDSM dating is not as venilla dating, you can not search the same way.

Master and I met at a social. We became friends. Then he asked me out on a date. Then we dated for a month before having sex or playing. Then a few months later we got engaged. Then a year later we got married. We've been married for 13 years.

Yeah....that's tons different than vanilla dating.

You've quite right.
On a venilla site you have100% of male profiles to search through, and it's hard enough to find a partner.

On a BDSM site you have 6 kinds of male profiles Dom / Master / Sadist / Sub / Slave / Masochist so here you have 16.6% of the male slave profiles to search through if you look for slave only. Do you divide the 16, 6% into age 18-30 years 30-40 years 40-50 years 50-60 years then you have 4.1% of the male profiles 30-40 years and when you list all your other BDSM criteria such as 24/7, TPE, LTR, Dicisplin, How many male profiles do you think that are back once you have made your BDSM criteria?

On a venilla site would your search criteria might be, romantic dinner, long walks by the water when you are done with all your venilla criteria, then you will probably sit with 5% of the male profiles that you can choose from and you can start browsing by looks, body and whatever else you can think of.

On a BDSM site, people are very precise about what they want and are looking for from a BDSM relationship / lifestyle and the more you put on the list, the lower chance you get to find that BDSM relationship you want.

My guess is that you and your master, did not write precise about your BDSM criteria and that your relationship just developed as it has. But I could be wrong.

And my guess is that OsideGirl and her Master met offline, no Internet site involved at all, just like she said in her post.

I'm one of several people that frequently advise going to local events if the idea is to meet compatible life partners.

Similar thing happened to me. I met Tasha at a play party. I talked with her, played with her, talked some more, and then we exchanged profile names and contact info.

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