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ORIGINAL: ARIES83
LP,
Put some photos up dam you...
You "CompPhotoilliterate" dommes have me doing this>
Even if you don't know how to resize a pic, you do know how to tie someone up and flog them!
Why don't you tie someone to a computer chair, roll them over to the computer, and flog them until they get the photos up?!

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

No, I do not think of accident and death, when I sit in the back seat of a car, and I do not go with knife to cut seat belts over with.
And no I do not think of everything bad that can happen, but on the good things that are happened..
If you only want to think negatively in your life, and live in perpetual fear, then you will not be quite old.
If you are afraid all the time, then you nervous, and if you are nervous, then are you doing easy mistakes and when you make mistakes, and then accident happens.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

No, I do not think of accident and death, when I sit in the back seat of a car, and I do not go with knife to cut seat belts over with.
And no I do not think of everything bad that can happen, but on the good things that are happened..
If you only want to think negatively in your life, and live in perpetual fear, then you will not be quite old.
If you are afraid all the time, then you nervous, and if you are nervous, then are you doing easy mistakes and when you make mistakes, and then accident happens.

There is a HUGE difference between living a life in fear and realizing that the responsibility of assuming control of another means you plan for contingencies. Can every possible negative outcome be planned for? Fuck no. But to just bury your head in the sand like a fucking ostrich and pretend that bad shit can't happen is incredibly naive and highly foolish. I'd have figured an über-Dom such as yourself would recognize the difference in the many years you say you have done this.

For the record, I think the phone in RS's cage is brilliant. I thought it showed above all else the thought he put into the well being of the slaves who serve him. To me, that's a guy who recognizes responsibility and plans for contingencies that might happen.

You, on the other hand, not so much. At all actually. I see you seriously hurting someone if you go through life as blindly as you make it sound like you do.

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ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I'm sure that there would be more than a few people on here with nice collections of BDSM equipment and/or dedicated BDSM rooms/spaces.

Show off your BDSM handyman projects, dungeon decor and "furniture" or even just any gear your particularly proud of and maybe give some other people some inspiration!


If theres been threads along these lines already can someone post the links.

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I live in a culture where one calculates the most common risk´s and people live their lives by it.
You live in a culture where one calculates the risk´s for anything that may happen even when the chance is 1:10,000,000.
In Denmark, people don´t die of BDSM play, so it looks like our way of life is just fine

If you are constantly thinking of unlikely risk´s, then you unsure of what you're doing and when you are unsure, you make mistakes and when you make mistakes, then others will get injured.
So tell me which way is best?
If I'm looking for advice on playing in Denmark, and ask another Dane, he will say 1) ​​I'm inexperienced and can not help you! 2) Yes I have experience and there are some things you should be aware of.
Can you see the difference in culture?
How many die in your country by BDSM?
And the same thing which you has in BDSM, we have also
Do not expect that I will agree with you on something I consider to be paranoia and insanity

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

and Never used a safeword? Never broken a limit? How many Long term relationships have you had that have lasted more then a year? Long term Play partners?

Are you trying to imply that those who don't use safewords can't be in long term relationships?

I don't use safewords outside of casual play. I never use safewords with long term partners, my limits have never been broken, and I engage in more extreme edge play than what hrxxx has so far mentioned.
As far as the number of longterm relationships I've had under those conditions: 3.

While I think hrxxx is an absolute wannabe idiot for criticizing other people's choice to build in safety precautions during play, I'm equally rather annoyed at your implication that making the conscious and active choice to not build in those safety precautions means you would be unable to maintain a long time and healthy relationship.

I've frequently played with bondage, cages and chains that I am unable to get out of on my own, and leave me at risk of death by dehydration if the top would suffer a heart attack or something like that. Hell, I did it last night. It's a risk I'm aware of taking when I do it, and I don't diminish it, but it's a risk I'm nevertheless willing to take under certain circumstances.

Who are you to judge my capacity for long term relationships over that?

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx
No, I do not think of accident and death, when I sit in the back seat of a car, and I do not go with knife to cut seat belts over with.
And no I do not think of everything bad that can happen, but on the good things that are happened..
If you only want to think negatively in your life, and live in perpetual fear, then you will not be quite old.
If you are afraid all the time, then you nervous, and if you are nervous, then are you doing easy mistakes and when you make mistakes, and then accident happens.