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tellmeastory -> Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 11:09:38 AM)

I'm a female sub and i am very new to real life BDSM but I'd say that I have a lot of anecdotal or book knowledge on the subject. I am in the early stages of a relationship with a Dom and He has decided (and I agree) that my clit is too important to me and I spend too much time playing with it. He has also explained to me that it's no my fault because it is what I know. I know the pleasure that a clit brings and I have yet to experience that His cock will be better and bring more pleasure both physically and mentally. Anyways, this was a longwinded way of saying that that He wants me in a chastity belt so I can have help not touching myself and while I agree and like the concept the implementation makes me nervous. I worry about cleanliness and showering and going to the bathroom and I also worry about comfort and safety in the longterm. So what I'm asking is have any of you had this experience and how did it work out? Did it hurt? Did you enjoy it? Do you have any advice for me?

Thank You!




DarkSteven -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 11:21:15 AM)

Wait a sec. Your profile states that you're looking for online only. Is this an online Dom that wants you in chastity?




tellmeastory -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 11:25:11 AM)

No. This profile is for online only but I haven't been using it much lately because of this real life Dom.




UllrsIshtar -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 11:55:07 AM)

Get a steel Y-shaped one, with a front shield and back chains. Like this one: http://www.wholesale-bdsm.com/adjustable-modely-stainless-steel-female-chastity-belt-p-1778.html

That way it's not really an issue for dedicating.

For urination there are going to be smell issues unless you shower every time you pee. At the very least plan on showering more often. Let water run liberally under the shield, and have your Dom take it of as often as possible for a more hygienic cleaning.

Get one in the right size, and be aware that lots of clothing will not be able to hide the metal, so you'll have to adapt your mode of dress when you go out in public.




DesFIP -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 2:20:43 PM)

So what you're saying is that if he asked you not to masturbate for the next couple of weeks, you wouldn't agree. Because that's going to be a lot easier on you than wearing an expensive item that can't be kept clean while at work. Or is this just for at home?

And I hope he's planning on buying it.




UllrsIshtar -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 3:25:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

So what you're saying is that if he asked you not to masturbate for the next couple of weeks, you wouldn't agree. Because that's going to be a lot easier on you than wearing an expensive item that can't be kept clean while at work. Or is this just for at home?

And I hope he's planning on buying it.


What would be the point in him telling her not to masturbate if they can afford a chastity belt and it practically works out for them.

Merely ordering her not to do it seems completely anticlimactic for the goal they're trying to achieve: him having physical control over her sexual arousal and being able to physically control her touching herself.

Wearing a chastity belt is intently sexually arousing to both the Dom and sub (if they're both into it, which seems painfully clear from the OPs post that they are), providing a setting in which she will be reminded 24/7 of his physical control over her, which will arouse her even more, and put her in the frustrating position of constant erotic stimulation, while being physically unable to relieve herself. For him it would be the same thing, having the constant reminder that he's got physical restraints on her keeping her aroused and wanting him, while being unable to relieve herself, would be intently sexually stimulating for him.

Not using a chastity belt, and instead merely ordering her not to touch herself, would be as pointless as a couple who gets fulfillment and sexual gratification from bondage and rope play not using any actual rope and instead merely ordering her to stand still. People use blindfold, rope, restraint, gags, whips, and chastity belts because they want the physical sensation of using that gear. If they don't care about the physical sensation of using the gear, then a mere command to do X will suffice. I'm sure that the OP and her Dom could have figured that out all on their own, and the fact that he's choosing not to merely command her is because he enjoys the idea of the physical restriction a chastity belt would provide.

Why are you having so much trouble specifically with the idea that people would use a chastity belt to prevent masturbation, implying that it means that the user doesn't have self-control, but you don't have any issues with a Top using handcuffs, or seeing the use of them as an implication that the bottom doesn't have the self-control not to move?

As for the price, they're a mere $100-$250, that's rather cheap as far as quality gear goes, and most items bought in that price range would see nowhere near as much use as a proper chastity belt, which enables 'play' to keep going 24/7.




thishereboi -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/6/2013 9:46:07 PM)

My Mistress didn't want me playing with myself either. She said don't and I didn't. No worries about hygiene or comfort. I just did what I was told. If she had felt that I had to be restrained to behave I would not have enjoyed it. I would have felt she didn't trust me.




evesgrden -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 4:29:42 AM)

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I know the pleasure that a clit brings and I have yet to experience that His cock will be better and bring more pleasure both physically and mentally



Memo to your dominant: denying clitoral stimulation isn't going to make your cock a magical instrument of pleasure. It won't make her crazy for your cock per se. It may make her crazy for sex (or it may be a use it or lose phenomenon and she ultimately won't care). If she's horny from denial, when you release her from the belt she won't care if it's your cock, your hand or a vibrator. It won't make vaginal/cock sex better than clitoral stim. It'll just deny her a source of pleasure... which is fine thing to do to her if that's what you want in and of itself. If she can't do it herself, then yeah she may get hungrier for you.. but that's about denial, and has nothing to do with your cock being better than her clit. You may want spend some time boning up on physiology. Plenty of women can cum without clitoral stim, and plenty of women can cum ONLY if they have some clitoral stim. What if she's the latter? Do you know? Yeah you get to do what you want, but be responsible and make an informed decision about what you're doing and if there's even a remote chance that your goal is a possibility.





MissBlueangel -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 4:37:31 AM)

I like my clit too....a lot
But he just told me not to touch, and I dont...
But i guess the physical feel of not being able too is maybe stronger than the mental.




kalikshama -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 6:52:42 AM)

quote:

I know the pleasure that a clit brings and I have yet to experience that His cock will be better and bring more pleasure both physically and mentally.


Does this mean that you two have not yet had sex or that you don't orgasm from intercourse? My body is not wired to orgasm from intercourse and no amount of chastity is going to change that.




kalikshama -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 7:07:48 AM)

quote:

Anyways, this was a longwinded way of saying that that He wants me in a chastity belt so I can have help not touching myself and while I agree and like the concept the implementation makes me nervous. I worry about cleanliness and showering and going to the bathroom and I also worry about comfort and safety in the longterm.


I'm in the self control camp myself but can appreciate that some people would find a chastity belt hot. I'm generally willing to try things - why don't you try it for an hour, then a few hours, etc.? Discontinue if you have adverse effects such as irritation. Don't avoid urinating when you have the urge to go as this can lead to bladder infections.

When my man wants me to wear certain things in and out of the bedroom, he buys them for me, and in this case I'd want him to buy me a bidet as well. [:D]





kalikshama -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 7:19:57 AM)

Ish, have you used one of these yourself?

[image]http://www.wholesale-bdsm.com/images/Chastity-Belts/Model-Y%20Female%20Chastity%20Belt%20%20a.jpg[/image]

I don't see how the vulva would get dry after urinating or showering while wearing one of these. My vulva is currently a little irritated after being in a wet bathing suit for a few hours on Thursday and Friday.





orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 9:45:36 AM)

My experience is that chastity belts are impractical, unhygienic and ineffective. If it turns you and him on to wear one, then go for it. But if you actually expect to a) be able to wear it all the time and b) not be able to orgasm whilst wearing it, then you are going to be disappointed.

It's a much better idea to simply train you not to touch your clit. Once you are trained you will be able to resist touching it and you won't have any of the problems associated with chastity belts. Obedience always works best in the long run, imo.




UllrsIshtar -> RE: Chastity Belts? (7/7/2013 11:59:55 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Ish, have you used one of these yourself?

[image]http://www.wholesale-bdsm.com/images/Chastity-Belts/Model-Y%20Female%20Chastity%20Belt%20%20a.jpg[/image]

I don't see how the vulva would get dry after urinating or showering while wearing one of these. My vulva is currently a little irritated after being in a wet bathing suit for a few hours on Thursday and Friday.




Yeah if you've got a low threshold for moisture, it's really a bad idea, cause it's not only urine and shower water, but also sweat that will tend to pool. Personally, my vulva is always wet, no matter what I am doing, because I just naturally produce that much moisture, so keeping things dry has never really been a concern for me (especially not considering that here in CO it's usually dry enough that you don't even ever notice yourself sweating because it dries before you become aware of it).




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