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wilde6727 -> Pegging (7/8/2013 8:59:33 PM)

Are women into it? It seems impossible for me to find one that will explore with me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places?



AAkasha -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:03:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: wilde6727

Are women into it? It seems impossible for me to find one that will explore with me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places?



Sure there are. I was fantasizing about fucking a man in the ass before I even lost my virginity - just rough housing, making him get on all fours and rubbing my crotch against his jeans, pretending to "hump." It just felt good and little did I know one day I'd be wearing a strap on and doing it.

But like a lot of women, dominance is a sort of lust / affection / sensuality / chemistry thing. I have to connect on some level with the man before any desire exists, and if there's no desire then nah, not really interested. Just like I don't fantasize about dominating EVERY man I meet.

Chin up!

Akasha



lizi -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:06:33 PM)

I've seen women around that say they're into it, within their relationships. If you're trying to find someone who is a stranger to satisfy you sexually by performing an act for you, then no....I don't see that. Most women have better offers of things to do with their time.



wilde6727 -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:07:12 PM)

I guess my question would be, how could I ever possibly develop that on a website like this?



wilde6727 -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:10:15 PM)

fair enough, thanks a bunch! that seems to answer my question



UllrsIshtar -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:13:30 PM)

First of all, cross posting (posting the same topic in multiple sections) isn't allowed on this board.

Secondly, the same way you get a vanilla woman who likes vanilla sex to have sex with you. You treat her as a woman whom you're interested in for reasons other than sex, and once the relationship is established, the sexual acts she's into will follow on their own.

The only difference is you need a woman who has an interest in strap-ons, but considering CMs kink search ability, that really shouldn't be an issue.

Dude, you have an empty profile, and no pictures and are focussed on nothing but sex on your first post here while you signed up just today, exactly what kind of positive did you expect?

Kinky women aren't really all that different than vanilla women. The main difference is that they've got different sexual desires, but they still aren't going to look favorable on a guy treating them as if they are a mere fetish delivery system.

How much success would you expect to have in a vanilla singles bar, walking up to women with your opening line being "hi, do you like blow jobs?" and if you're reasonable and grounded enough to understand that doing that wouldn't work well, why the fuck would you expect this site to be any different just because the woman on here happen to like different things than vanilla women do?



wilde6727 -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:19:34 PM)

Hey man, not trying to start any fights on here. I'm just trying to get into the swing of things. Yes cross posting was little much, and I tried deleting or altering the others posts, so I apologize for that if I offended you. I've gotten more in depth on other sites and things haven't paned out, so I guess it was just frustration was all. I hope that's understandable. Thank you very much for your words of wisdom though, it all makes a ton of sense. I've definitely got some changes to make before things go my warm. Best wishes to you.



UllrsIshtar -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 9:35:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: wilde6727

Hey man, not trying to start any fights on here. I'm just trying to get into the swing of things. Yes cross posting was little much, and I tried deleting or altering the others posts, so I apologize for that if I offended you. I've gotten more in depth on other sites and things haven't paned out, so I guess it was just frustration was all. I hope that's understandable. Thank you very much for your words of wisdom though, it all makes a ton of sense. I've definitely got some changes to make before things go my warm. Best wishes to you.


I'm not a man.

And what on Earth gave you the impression I'm trying to start a fight?

You asked a question, and I answered it.

As far as being offended, if I was so easily offended that somebody not knowing the rules on a message board they posted on offended me, I might as well dig a hole and hide in it forever, because I don't think I could manage to face the world with such delicately sensitive sensibilities.

I gave you advice, because it seemed like you needed it... glad to read that apparently some of it hit home and made sense.



LadyPact -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 11:44:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: wilde6727
Are women into it? It seems impossible for me to find one that will explore with me. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places?

Some women are and some women aren't. For some women, it's directly related to intimacy. This type of sex is seen by a lot of women as they would view any other type of sex. That runs the range from sport fucking, to friends with benefits, to only those in a relationship.

quote:

ORIGINAL: wilde6727
I guess my question would be, how could I ever possibly develop that on a website like this?

Well, there's a few different ways. One would be to utilize the services of a pro who happens to offer that particular activity as a part of paid sessions. Another would be to try meeting a woman who you would want to have a relationship with who is interested and enjoys engaging in that type of sex with her partner. You could try finding somebody who is interested in casual sex who is looking for a FWB situation.

Any of those is going to require some investment on your part.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Pegging (7/8/2013 11:52:07 PM)

What LP said. I happen to love pegging. When I saw the thread title, I just had to check it out. But I won't do it unless I have a relationship with the man because, for me anyway, it's very intimate.

NBMG



SwitchNSpanky -> RE: Pegging (7/9/2013 7:30:36 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


quote:

ORIGINAL: wilde6727

Hey man, not trying to start any fights on here. I'm just trying to get into the swing of things. Yes cross posting was little much, and I tried deleting or altering the others posts, so I apologize for that if I offended you. I've gotten more in depth on other sites and things haven't paned out, so I guess it was just frustration was all. I hope that's understandable. Thank you very much for your words of wisdom though, it all makes a ton of sense. I've definitely got some changes to make before things go my warm. Best wishes to you.


I'm not a man.

And what on Earth gave you the impression I'm trying to start a fight?

You asked a question, and I answered it.

As far as being offended, if I was so easily offended that somebody not knowing the rules on a message board they posted on offended me, I might as well dig a hole and hide in it forever, because I don't think I could manage to face the world with such delicately sensitive sensibilities.

I gave you advice, because it seemed like you needed it... glad to read that apparently some of it hit home and made sense.


Ishtar. He asked why your picking a fight because you come off on your informative poasts too strong. Your talking down to him. I don't think you do it on purpose. But when reading your poasts to him and others you can cut the condescension with a knife. Tone it down.


OP, Ishtar is a streight up gal. She does not pull punches but her advice is solid and she is not a newb. So take her advice and assume she means no harm.

Oh, and welcome!



DianeB269 -> RE: Pegging (7/9/2013 10:00:00 AM)

OP

Maybe you would have a better chance if you start a relationship with a woman first...
Then bring up the subject...

Good luck...



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Pegging (7/9/2013 10:28:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SwitchNSpanky
Ishtar. He asked why your picking a fight because you come off on your informative poasts too strong. Your talking down to him. I don't think you do it on purpose. But when reading your poasts to him and others you can cut the condescension with a knife. Tone it down.

I didn't find her tone or content condescending at all.
Blunt and factual, yes. But not condescending.

Oh, and by the way - it's "post", not "poast".
Once, is a typo. Twice is either uneducated or ignorant.
And perhaps you also need to grow a thicker skin too.


To Ishtar: Don't ever tone it down. If someone comes to a site and can't be assed to read the rules or the site ToS before opening their mouth, they deserve all the flack they get from anyone.


To the OP: Find the person you want/need as a person first, fetish afterwards, unless you want to dig deep into your pockets.
As others have said, BDSM is no different to vanilla dating. If anything, it's harder.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Pegging (7/9/2013 10:37:03 AM)

FR

I'm not into it, but if I was crazy about a guy who was into it, I'd be eager to help him explore and have fun. I think a lot of people are like me. If you are invested in each other's pleasure, even kinks you never had any interest in become more appealing. So - be awesome, find someone who recognizes how awesome you are, have lots of fun.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Pegging (7/9/2013 12:20:44 PM)

Pegging is something I often do with my partners. Keyword: partners. I don't just randomly stick it into the first person who asks. I have long-established relationships that are fully formed with all the vanilla stuff in place.

Have I pegged folks I'm not emotionally invested in? Yep, but not very often. The boys were hot as hell, and the stars and planets lined up just right that night, and they generally brought me the meal of my choice, did a few honey-do's around the house, and rubbed my feet for an hour before any play commenced.

The goal is to approach women as women first, get to know and love them, then nearly anything is possible. Best of luck to you, Wilde and welcome to the boards.




LadyPact -> RE: Pegging (7/10/2013 9:21:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
Have I pegged folks I'm not emotionally invested in? Yep, but not very often. The boys were hot as hell, and the stars and planets lined up just right that night, and ........

Yeah, I'll confess to this. Doesn't happen often, but I'm not going to say it never has.

In My own defense, it's kind of hard to see if the stars lined up just right when the sun is still up at 2:00 AM. [;)]




Rawni -> RE: Pegging (7/10/2013 9:28:16 PM)

[:D][:D][:D][:D]

Hey, that works for me LP. I find that so odd just thinking about it.



LadyPact -> RE: Pegging (7/10/2013 11:25:17 PM)

I can get that. It's not the norm.



hunter2470 -> RE: Pegging (7/12/2013 12:14:15 AM)

I am a fan and often browser of CM's message boards. I don't comment often, but tonight I felt inclined to do so. First of all the way you phrased your opening question wasn't in a sincere manor, but as if you we're some teen perv looking for a quick jerk. That being said,I recently read an article stating that "Pegging or Strapon play" has entered the mind of 1/3 guys, and 1 in 8 in someway or another fantasizes about it. With this taboo fantasy being this popular among men, apparently there just aren't enough women to participate. The serious question I have is how would a guy like myself who's straight, attractive, and masculine find a girl that maybe vanilla (developed relationships)who would be willing to experiment with "Pegging" without being freaked out or her labeling oneself "gay". I've tried with 3 women and have failed all 3 times. Yet when I do join a website like this to meet and get advice from experienced and like minds I seem to have no luck either. It's a kink site, but I mostly get negative feedback for having a "Kink" related question.



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