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Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:31:38 AM   
UonBndedNee


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I have read numerous profile journal entries complaining about getting emails from members that were rude. These journals make statements like "Don't email me with 'Get on your knees and suck my cock you cum slut!'. That's rude!". Or, "Why do the guys on this site think they can command me and act like I'm their slave right off the bat?".

While I would probably not start off a communication like that, perhaps the profile owner should look at what they put in their profile. If the only thing that is in your profile description is a statement like "I want someone that knows how to treat a trailer trash whore right.", then those are the type of initial comment you are going to get. The only information that a reader has to go off of is the information you provide.

If a someone is a true DOM, they will be the first to admit that they can not read your mind. We learn what you are looking for from your profile and from open honest communication through email. If the profile gives no information on the desires and wants of the person posting, then you will get a response based on the information you've provided. If your profile only says that you want someone to bend you over a filthy toilet in the mens room of a strip club, then that's going to be the comment in the email you get. WHY? Because that's what everyone assumes you want. They have NO other information to go off of.

In order to get what you truly want out of a relationship, say it. If you are open and honest about the relationship you are looking for, you will be in a better position to get it.

So to all of the posters out there who's profiles simply say that they want to be shackled and chained unless they are needed for a use, to all that say want to be publicly humiliated, to all that think that they are nothing but what I say you are, to all that say that they want a prison arrangement, then get on you f***ing knees and prepare yourself for pain that you have never experienced. And NEVER ask what you have done to deserve your punishment.

If that is what you truly want, then that's what you will get. Why be picky? Pick a profile, send them an email, and tell your new Master that you are ready to serve. Tell your new master that you are ready to move in and serve as HE/SHE sees fit. As a matter of fact, send me that email. You will be in my service with in a few days. It will please me greatly to show you what it TRULY means to serve.

I am a giving MASTER. I also have enough self control to know which course to take. I can be a gracious, caring, considerate Master. I also have it in me to show you the deepest, darkest, most humiliating, painful way. If that is what you are needing in your life, then I say this to you....Send me an email. Tell your new Master that you desire nothing more than to be used as I see fit. That Masters command drives this ones action. That your only purpose is to serve. And in return, if I so see fit, will break your spirit. I will crush your soul. You will never be a First kajira. And I will use you until it it doesn't amuse me any longer. Hell, I will find my First kajira and have her destroy you.

So, now that I ranted a little, put in your profile what you are truly looking for from your potential Dom/Master. I know what I want from my First kajira and it is not to destroy her. It is to build her up and mold her into perfection. For those of you that really want to be treated like trash I say bring it on.
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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:36:54 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		OK - well this strikes me more as a covert personal ad than anything else, but I will add a few observations.

I get emails to the effect of 'suck my cock' and my profile is very clear than I am married, monogamous, not looking. So it's not always that simple.

The people here chatting are a tiny fraction of the collarme population and almost none of them are the ones who have profiles about being kept shackled or treated like a trailer-trash whore. Since we mostly have discussions about D/s relationships, BDSM techniques and real-life relationship issues, it's a fairly self-selecting group with most people having at least one foot in reality. So, your rant isn't reaching your target audience.

Congratulations on being a real and truly true dom. You don't necessarily meet my conditions for 'true' domliness, and so telling us what a true dom will and won't do is somewhat meaningless.

Welcome to the discussion forums.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:41:47 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Wow... one week to vent. Impressive. One wayism, telling people how to do it according to onewayism and a vent in a wonderful master that lashes out in a personal ad.

What else could a slave girl want?

< Message edited by Rawni -- 7/21/2013 10:42:46 AM >

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:46:09 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


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From: Moosecrotch, Va
Status: offline 		My profile pretty much says, "You cant win your way into my pants by thinking with your cock". I still get those emails. So, Oh Great Enlightened One That Seems To Have It All Figured Out, what about those of us that STILL get those shitty messages? Because you bet your sweet ass, I get them. I got them when I had an empty profile (at least 3-4 times over the last 8 or so years), and by empty I mean no photos, no words. Just a name to go with the account. I get them now that I have a written profile and photos up. So yea. Stow the bs.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:49:35 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		1) Your logic is flawed. My profile has five words, "Just here for the forums" and it even has a photo of Master. I still get emails that tell me to get on my knees and suck their cocks. Your logic only works if the men here actually read the profile and RESPECT what the women are looking for, which they don't.

2) Lose the word "true". What I consider true may not be what you consider true...it just makes you look Castlerealm-ish and puts you only half a step above the guys that tell women to get on their knees in the first email.

3) Most of the people on this side rarely go onto the personals side. In fact, most of us are in relationships, some of us for the very long term. Preaching to us will do absolutely nothing for you except make you look like you're advertising and spouting one true way-ism.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 7/21/2013 10:50:28 AM >

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 10:51:38 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		I agree to a certain extent. When you are on the "new user" list, many of the men don't even bother reading the profile before contacting you. My first couple of weeks I got a few of those but, honestly, I have been here a year and I don't get many of the "asshole" emails... I do think it is because my profile is pretty vanilla or because it is long and no one wants to read the whole thing :-). Despite those, I have had good luck here.


You know, now I think about it...I am a little insulted!

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:00:30 AM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
Status: offline 		The latest one I got was a guy that wanted me to be the meat in a mouth fuck gang bang.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:03:37 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Pretty much a combination of a personal ad mixed with one true wayism with a swish of author wanting to dictate how other people write their profiles.

Just a word of advice, OP. Any woman on this site, no matter what side of the slash, can tell you that the content of their profile doesn't guarantee people on the other side not sending nonsense. If you don't happen to like the way a profile is written, just move to the next. There are plenty of women out there who put a lot of time and consideration into the text on their page. I'd suggest that you focus on those.


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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:06:35 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Any woman on this site, no matter what side of the slash, can tell you that the content of their profile doesn't guarantee people on the other side not sending nonsense.

For the record, male dominants are not immune to the nonsense. I routinely get findommes and gay guys.

(PS: Hint for you findommes... you're a few years too late. Nowadays my "work" is volunteer so I'm too poor to be a good pay piggy)

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:08:14 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Funny how it's always the woman's fault for the rude mail they get. Anyone that thinks like that, isn't thinking of everything... not even close.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:12:43 AM   
UllrsIshtar


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Status: offline 		Soooo cupcake.... aside from all the other ways other posters have pointed out your flawed logic, it's also flawed on this:


quote:

ORIGINAL: UonBndedNee


So to all of the posters out there who's profiles simply say that they want to be shackled and chained unless they are needed for a use, to all that say want to be publicly humiliated, to all that think that they are nothing but what I say you are, to all that say that they want a prison arrangement, then get on you f***ing knees and prepare yourself for pain that you have never experienced. And NEVER ask what you have done to deserve your punishment.

If that is what you truly want, then that's what you will get. Why be picky? Pick a profile, send them an email, and tell your new Master that you are ready to serve. Tell your new master that you are ready to move in and serve as HE/SHE sees fit. As a matter of fact, send me that email. You will be in my service with in a few days. It will please me greatly to show you what it TRULY means to serve.




You're going from the assumption that the girls who claim to want this 'truly want to serve' which is wrong. They don't.

What they want is to live out their personal flavor of extreme fantasy, as close to perfectly, as they have it in their head it will be. That's why they're showing you glimpses of what the specifics are they're looking for: to see if you'll live up to their ideal dream vision of what a man should be.

It's those girls (especially the ones who really wish to go ahead with this instead of just dreaming about it online) who are going to be most picky about the man they end up with, in terms of selecting in excruciating detail for him to hit specific checkboxes.

Girls who actually desire to serve, because they're subservient in nature WONT have specifics lists of actions they want to see performed on them on their profile... it's not how their head works. Instead, they'll have a profile giving you a glimpse into who they are, and what type of man they're looking for. Once you got one of these girls, chances are you can do all kinds of fucked up and depraved things to her, she never even considered before falling for you, BUT it requires that you're actually the man of her -momentarily at least- dreams.

With the girls who have a checklist of the depraved things they want done to them, what YOU want doesn't matter.
They don't care about serving you, they don't care about pleasing you, they don't care how deserving a Master you are to use their body. All they care about is how well you're going to perform when you're servicing them by acting out the specific fantasies they have about what slavery is supposed to look like. If in mail contact it turns out that you've got some details wrong, or heaven forbid, want to live out some of your fantasies that aren't on their list of things they want, they'll drop you like a ton of bricks. They're not indiscriminately looking for the man who'll be cruelest to them, they're looking for the man who will most perfectly follow the script they have in their head.

So aside from the fact that you're looking in the wrong category of girls to find the service orientated girl you're supposedly looking for, you're also absolutely delusional if you imagine that you'll find a single woman on here to whom you won't have to prove yourself as a man, a dominant, and a human being to make her desire to be with you, just because she's listed herself as a 'slave' for whatever reason.

After all, if there we're girls out there for whom truly 'any man would do' do you think they'd still be on this site for you to find? They'd be snagged up by the first guy mailing them. The fact that you're finding a woman's profile still on here proofs that not any man will do, and that if you want to convince her that you're the right guy, the ball is in your camp to court her -not the other way around- after all, she's already got your interest as is evident by the fact that you're writing her, from that point on, it's all on you to convince her that maybe you're worth giving a shot... think about it.

< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 7/21/2013 11:13:55 AM >

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:15:07 AM   
theshytype


Posts: 1600
Status: offline 		My profile says I'm married not looking, yet I receive plenty of emails calling me slut or whore, demanding things.
So, regardless of what is written in a profile, there are just some "Doms" out there wanting to write such messages.

I have a question. Why shouldn't a woman be "picky"? Ya know, not all women will pick the first man she sees and submits simply because he has something dangling between his legs. She kinda has to like him a little. And becoming her Master after a few days? I've owned clothes longer than that before deciding I didn't like them.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:16:29 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UonBndedNee
I am a giving MASTER.

As a general rule I figure anyone who needs to tell us all that they are a "master" probably isn't. I'm not even sure what to think of someone who needs to say it in all caps. Do you happen to have a jacked up pickup truck with monster tires and light on the top?

Thankfully, I am most definitely not a "true MASTER" or a "true DOM" so I can just go ahead be me. Also, even more thankfully, Carol is not a sub, slave, or kajira. So she can just be her also. We kind of like "us" so it all works out nicely.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:19:13 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rawni

Funny how it's always the woman's fault for the rude mail they get. Anyone that thinks like that, isn't thinking of everything... not even close.


I think with some people, they do kind of inspire it. If you have a picture of your pussy and the entire profile is about how you want to be used, you can't really be upset if someone approaches you in the manner which your profile portrayed.

The problem is that women here receive those emails regardless of what is in their profiles.




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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:23:17 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
For the record, male dominants are not immune to the nonsense. I routinely get findommes and gay guys.

(PS: Hint for you findommes... you're a few years too late. Nowadays my "work" is volunteer so I'm too poor to be a good pay piggy)

Saw that post before it was pulled, did you? Yeah. I wasn't fast enough in crafting a reply before that was locked.



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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:23:23 AM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		OP, you really need to stop reading Gor books and old cached copies of Castlerealm.com and get out and meet some flesh and blood people.
You'll find out that the phrases/words REAL MASTER and TRUE are giggled at as they are so frequently used to mask insecurity.

Join into some of the convos here and learn some stuff and meet people. I think you'll like it.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:24:34 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		LOL For sure... but and, and, how many of the female profiles that ask for the really nasty stuff are actually women?

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:27:06 AM   
UllrsIshtar


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rawni

LOL For sure... but and, and, how many of the female profiles that ask for the really nasty stuff are actually women?


Quite a few actually, from my experience, though most of them aren't interested in an actual relationship, and are instead looking for either the mental exploration of their fantasies online without a desire to ever take it into reality, OR for a man willing to follow the pornographic script they have in their head of what they envision kinky slavery to be in great detail, for long periods of time.

So far I haven't come across a single one who just wants some random guy to use and abuse them as an 'it' any way HE wants to.





< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 7/21/2013 11:28:02 AM >

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:37:57 AM   
UonBndedNee


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Status: offline 		It was not my intent to make it about gender. I gave my thoughts from my point of view. A man seeking a woman. I am sure that women do it to men, men do it to men, etc.

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RE: Women Getting Rude Emails - A Rant From Kansas - 7/21/2013 11:41:03 AM   
UonBndedNee


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Status: offline 		One week here does not mean no experience.

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