TigressLily
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Frankly, I don't know how you can know for sure what you are until you've experienced both Topping and bottoming to one extent or another. quote:
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt From my experiences online I'd say there is some prejudice against switches there, real time I've seen that much less. {Insert}.... it's my opinion that everyone has both a dom and sub side Now I'm realizing I am, after all, a switch. I feel as though I met my bottoming quota in my past vanilla relationships and that was far more than enough, already. There are too many people who get stuck with a false mental picture of what being a Dominant or submissive is. I learned a long time ago, dealing with statistical data analysis that there is rarely ever 100% of anything. Even the purest solid gold is rated at 99.99% purity. I'm willing to concede I might possibly be at a 80/20 ratio, although my own mental picture is more like 90/10. I know I don't want to be tied up or restrained, no impact play unless it was a playful spanking, sparingly. Basically, other than my kinks, I don't know that I have any fetishes. I have preferences in my partner (some more fixed, others are negotiable) which don't exactly constitute a fetish. I hate doing oral unless it's for the purposes of Tease & Denial or Edging. If vanilla sex for a woman is considered by some to being Topped, then my ratio changes (my definition of which is more liberal than strictly vaginal copulation) insofar as others would define it. I've heard it said that being a switch is the equivalent of being bisexual, but I don't believe that's an appropriate comparison. I could see myself with a switch partner if we were compatible, whereas I would never in a million years want to have a bisexual partner. I would never want to put myself in the position of not being all that my partner wanted or needed in his partner; it's as simple as that. It may require maturity and experience to know for sure where you stand with yourself. IMO, the most important thing is to be honest and not feel ashamed one way or the other where the cards might fall.
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