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HELP - 7/24/2013 5:28:32 PM

alana100

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So I have this, Well male sub that has been dying to serve me so after a month of him begging. What are some things I should do to this loser.
I would also like to know what you dommes/ doms do to your losers Thanks in advanced

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:38:43 PM

epiphiny43

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Send him to a real Domme who respects those who serve her? Just using the term "Loser" for a submissive is a mark of an abusive, narcissistic or hostile personality or a woman who has internalized the abuse male chauvinists direct at anyone not apeing their world view of who's in charge. Hopefully he wakes up and does this on his own?

Whatever the roles and dynamic, why play with anyone you don't respect and like? This is a test of how You are doing. It's not too late, you can recover with focused effort?

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:39:56 PM

SeekingTrinity

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~FRing it~

So essentially what you're saying is that you have no clue what you are doing?

And if you do in fact have no fucking clue what you're doing, do you honestly think you should be assuming control of something you don't know how to use? See, I myself don't know how to operate a freight train or fly a 777. So you know what? I don't hit the rail yard or runway at the airport, point to said freight train or 777, and say "gimme that."

Something to think about. You're welcome

P.S. you really shouldn't be charging people money to be led around by you until you actually get a clue as to what the hell you are doing. These are human beings, not pet rocks

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:40:20 PM

Rawni

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ROFL... I would block a loser, but really, if you are wearing the title... you might want to have your own game going.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:40:21 PM

evesgrden

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I have no interest in losers. Life is short, so I see no reason to spend time with someone I don't like or respect.

That said, your question is like telling us you're a painter, but could we please tell you what colors you like and what you should paint.

If you don't know then perhaps you're not a dominant.... er painter.

eta: It sounds like you think you're supposed to have a humliation dynamic and you're supposed to consider your submissive a loser. Well, some guys are into that. Are you? You don't have to be.. as you can see it's not a rule. But some folks like it. I just don't think you've had the opporunity or given this enough thought to consider what it is you do like and what you would want out of a d/s relationship. Do some reading, and get out into your community. Sounds more like you're acting the way you think a domme from a porno flick would act.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:49:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

So essentially what you're saying is that you have no clue what you are doing?

And if you do in fact have no fucking clue what you're doing, do you honestly think you should be assuming control of something you don't know how to use? See, I myself don't know how to operate a freight train or fly a 777. So you know what? I don't hit the rail yard or runway at the airport, point to said freight train or 777, and say "gimme that."

Something to think about. You're welcome

P.S. you really shouldn't be charging people money to be led around by you until you actually get a clue as to what the hell you are doing. These are human beings, not pet rocks

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:49:28 PM

MsLadySue

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In this case I don't think the loser is the sub. Time for you to get a clue before advertising to be what you aren't. There is a ton of good advice in past threads you can learn from if you have the time and patience to use the search button above

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 5:51:18 PM

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If I thought he was a loser I'd tell him I'm not interested in him and move on to someone else.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 6:26:02 PM

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I don't spend time with losers. Most dominants I know don't own losers. Can't help you here.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 6:32:15 PM

searching4mysir

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FR

So, are you Chelse or Alana or Samantha because you use all three names on various websites (found by merely googling your email address).

BTW: paypal is not your friend for findomme usage, and if you had read their TOS you would know why.

Just another example of you not knowing what the fuck you are doing. Time to go back to mummy's basement, child.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 6:34:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: alana100

So I have this, Well male sub that has been dying to serve me so after a month of him begging. What are some things I should do to this loser.
I would also like to know what you dommes/ doms do to your losers Thanks in advanced

Send him to a winner domina. Cuz ya know, like attracts like and if he's a loser....

Or, better yet, get a clue.
After that, then maybe go about trying to get a submissive.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 6:37:07 PM

LadyPact

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Thanks, but I'm not willing to do your job for you.

If you are making a profit, be that from fin, pro, or some chick who charges folks to read/join their website, I'm not willing to contribute.

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RE: HELP - 7/24/2013 8:11:15 PM

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Since I doubt you've cleaned your room lately, have him teach you how.

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 2:50:14 AM

crazyml

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You could get him to fix your profile.

I'm sure they're simply typos, but my honest first impression on reading it was that you're barely literate.

Oh, and it's "Thanks in advance", not "Thanks in advanced".

Hope this helps

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 7:57:43 AM

mnottertail

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LOLOLOLOFUCKINGL.

Just..........

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 8:02:51 AM

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First, if the best you can dominate is a loser, then you may want to hang up your flogger for a little self reflection.

Second, get an honest profile. It looks like tou stole pictures from two different girls, maybe windex on the bathroom mirror?

Third, if someone is dumb enough to pay the bills you are too lazy to get a job to pay, the least you can do is assume they are better then a loser. Also submissives are women AND men now.

Fourth, assume that as a dominatrix, you may actually be too young for some submissives. Submissives sometimes like someone with skills that you can only get with experience. Darling if you lived in missouri that gives you maybe two years because you have to be 21 to be in most private parties. Call me a snob, but my "crash test dummy" days are over and frankly I work too hard to hand my money over to a little girl who may not know how to dominate, may not know how to be an effective sadist, and you clearly haven't lived in this lifestyle long enough to know about respect or how to do much more then pan handle.

FYI - if you are worth being paid I wouldn't advertise that you will play for 10 dollars.

It doesn't speak well of you.

I would scrap your profile and admit you are new and trying to learn. Message some dominants and submissives and try to get to know them and ask questions.

Without respect for your submissive then he or she will leave you in the dirt. There is no loyalty towards someone who dosn't care about you. If you called me a loser I would disappear quickly because a dominant partner is much easier to find then a willing submissive. Think about it.

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 8:54:30 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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It's people like you who give legitimate pro and fin doms a bad rap.

Shame on you !

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 11:57:19 AM

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 12:36:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: alana100
So I have this, Well male sub that has been dying to serve me so after a month of him begging. What are some things I should do to this loser.

Have him write a series of fake threads, ostensibly asking for ideas but really only serving as personal advertising.

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RE: HELP - 7/25/2013 12:39:57 PM

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Since I doubt you've cleaned your room lately, have him teach you how.

There is now Diet Coke ALL over the keyboard.

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