sunshinemiss
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1. There is nothing wrong with diet pills. As a stop-gap method, they can be very helpful. They are prescribed in 2 month increments, and then you go off of them for 2 months or more. I know more than one person who uses them (including me!). When I first got my thyroid medications settled and was able to finally lose weight, I found it hard to figure out what to eat, how to make time to fix the food, where to go shopping, etc. Those two months helped me tremendously by giving me a break from the desperate "WHERE'S THE FOOD" feeling that I had lived with for years. It didn't stop the EMOTIONAL eating because all it did was take away my appetite. I found that it wasn't my appetite that was really the issue. After a couple of months on the meds I stopped using them. (By the way, this was all under a physician's watchful eye - those meds can cause serious medical issues!)
2. Instead of logging food, I would like to suggest taking a photograph. It's very different to see it in words than it is to see a photo. I'm a visual gal, and WOW the realizations I had when i was taking photos of my food. I did this for a year. (And it worked, by the way). I showed my photos to my personal trainer every time we met, and it became a deterrent. I didn't want to disappoint him.
3. It sounds like you want to help, but my bet is that you are too close to the situation. Anyone who thinks that sex after a loss of 200+ pounds is a perfectly acceptable reward is just ... how do I say this politely... lost in space. Every step along the way, I've had a goal dress or pair of pants or skirt. I had rewards like go horseback riding, run a marathon, take boxing lessons, get a new haircut, bungee jump, have a make-over, play dress up with a beautiful gown, see the Great Wall of China, etc. for my weight loss. (So far I've run a 10K, signed up for a long bike ride, and had old timey photos taken with a friend... and I bought a flirty new wardrobe.) 200+ pounds is insurmountable. Have a goal for walking a mile without stopping and the reward is a fun new pair of socks. have a goal for learning how to make a healthy meal and have it by candlelight as the reward. You see, a project - and that's what this is - a PROJECT - needs to be broken down into smaller, doable pieces... or it is just an exercise in frustration.
3. Get someone from the outside to help - a trainer would be ideal. This is someone who ASSISTS. That is probably available at a community center, a gym, or heck from a college student who is majoring in Exercise Physiology. By the same token, a nutritionist (or nutrition student) can do the same thing around food.
4. Get a full physical. Get full blood work (including having the thyroid checked). Get support from the medical staff.
5. As this person's partner, you can be a great help by cooking / preparing / buying yummy and healthy foods. You can help by asking for an after dinner walk. You can help by NOT getting cake, alcohol, cookies, chips, whatever and keeping them out of the house. No, it isn't your responsibility, but as the person who is in love with this man, it is (to my mind) your duty. I would certainly do it for someone I love. (this is in no means a judgment of how you are or are not conducting yourself in the relationship. It's a "you general" for all the folks reading this.). My family keeps a HUGE amount of sweets at the house, and it nearly killed me to visit there this summer. I had to make certain cabinets and portions of the pantry completely off limits to myself. (Personally, I imagined that they were bathed in rat poison).
6. Support group. Overeaters Anonymous is a good resource for support - whether he is a food addict or not. The folks there can help him express himself in non-food ways, and can help him with the nuts and bolts, day to day issues around food. They can help him get some good boundaries around food. (They have skype meetings, online meetings, and face to face meetings in most large city and many smaller ones).
7. Be prepared for YOUR relationship with him to change. When he loses a boatload of weight and other people start looking at him, there will be some shifts in your understanding of him in the world and how it reacts to him. You may even find yourself having some reaction. This is perfectly normal and can be handled with a goodly amount of that old stand-by, communication.
Good luck,
sunshine
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