AthenaSurrenders
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ORIGINAL: nillabean11 I recently met a man I am very interested in..he tapped into something I had never explored before..my desire to be dominant and shared his very strong desire to be sub...since this is all new I am quite unsure if even basics of beginning requests while we are building trust and our relationship..another problem is we are currently long distance...we are both eager to try this tpe but are wondering how to begin with baby steps..please help... Can you please rephrase the bolded part, I don't understand it. I know this isn't what you are hoping for, but do what feels right. If you need more time to build trust and get to know each other, take it. I assume you have met in person to check there is chemistry? Because it will be hugely disappointing if you set up this deep exciting relationship and turn out not to like each other in the flesh. Happens all the time. TPE to me is 'marriage and a mortgage' level of commitment to a person, ie. it doesn't go with 'I recently met a man'. You don't need to start out TPE from day one, even if that's where you hope to get in the end. Take it slowly. Take charge of one thing at a time, discuss how it's going, be prepared to adapt it. Don't start out with tons of rules and understand that because this is a new relationship, and because you don't see each other every day, some of your rules will turn out to be unsuitable and need changing. You can change the rules, it's not undomly. As you learn more about each other's lives, personalities, schedules etc you will have to adapt your ideas about how D/s should look. Remember if you are in charge of every aspect of his life, you are also responsible for it. Think about that. His health, his employment, his bills, his home, his network of friends. Think hard about every new rule or project and whether it will strengthen or potentially damage these areas of his life. Pick rules that actually matter to you, not just things you think make you sound dominant. As long as you are both committed to working things out, you will get there. Just take your time and communicate constantly, and get rid of preconceived ideas of how this relationship 'should' look. If you are both feeling happy and secure, you are doing in right. If not, you're doing it wrong.
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