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Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 3:25:50 AM   
cumhometodaddy


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Status: offline 		I have found that there are a lot of people even on here that look upon the daddy/babygirl dynamic with contempt or disgust.
It amazes me the abuse that can spew from someone when after all they are on an adult site, where acceptance of others desires and kinks should be the norm.
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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 3:52:19 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		I haven't noticed that trend. I know a lot of people have a hard time understanding age-play as such (particularly adult babies) but I haven't noticed anyone being particularly contemptuous of it. Daddy-dynamics seem fairly popular.

As for accepting other's kinks being the norm.... yes and no. Just about everyone will say that certain things are unacceptable regardless of whether it's someone's kink or not. Not many people here will argue dismemberment is acceptable, even if both parties consent. I know you're not talking about anything so extreme, but I do think that people have the right to be disgusted by whatever they please. Now if they are contacting you out of the blue to make unpleasant comments about what you do in your private life, that's very rude. But that type of person will always find something to be rude about.

Welcome to the boards. Just FYI- the people on the profiles side are not really the same crowd as on the boards. I find the people on this side of the site tend to be more realistic, more likely to be in relationships, and less likely to be randomly sending abusive messages than the masses on the other side. So the people who are bothering you will likely not ever see this.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 3:58:38 AM   
cumhometodaddy


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your response and i have not actually been contacted out of the blue as such, it is more if you contact someone politely and ask if they are interested in this Dynamic they can be very vitriolic and unpleasant.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 5:03:50 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Well, your profile has a lot of babytalk on it. If you contact random women here with babytalk, you will get lots of negative responses.

Also, some people in and out of D/lg associate it with diapers.

Aside from that, in the States there seem to be a lot more babygirls seeking Daddies than Daddies seeking babygirls, so you should have no problem if the UK is similar.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 5:15:12 AM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Nothing at all wrong with Daddy/baby girl relationships. Hubby is a daddydom. He has a baby girl.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 5:18:33 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		Did you actually contact women who stated they were looking for this kind of dynamic?

If they hadn't put anything about wanting to be a 'little' in their profile, then from my own POV I'd have been totally squicked out by the last sentence in your profile. Maybe that would have been a factor?

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 5:55:47 AM   
dollenburg


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Status: offline 		Now you made me look up the last sentence!
... looking ... looking ... looking ... oooooooohhh .... yeas.... yikies .... aids!

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 5:58:00 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		aids? What made you think that?

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 6:08:47 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Status: offline 		I didn't get past the misspelling of receive.

I before e, except after c, OP ....

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 6:37:37 AM   
deliriuminabox


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Status: offline 		A lot of people associate not using condoms with the risk of AIDs. I was personally squicked out by the wording ... "Daddy's special gift" ... Kind of left me feeling like I'd been touched in the dark and not in a good way.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 6:44:31 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		I understand that unprotected sex carries a risk of disease, but I wondered what specifically made her think it was a reference to aids. Since he's looking for a long term (presumably monogamous) relationship I don't think sex without a condom is that unusual.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 6:49:37 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I agree with Athena.

My personal squick came from the wording of the last sentence. While not illegal it just made me feel uncomfortable based on my work with vulnerable young people. Nothing more.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 6:56:41 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		It wasn't my cup of tea either, but I imagine it's a line that would be very appealing to the sort of woman the OP is hoping to attract.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 7:01:35 AM   
TallullahHk


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Status: offline 		Weird how that isn't always the case :)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

I didn't get past the misspelling of receive.

I before e, except after c, OP ....


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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 7:01:56 AM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		Well, Athena, I was going to say, except that some littles either don't do sex or don't do sex in their little headspace, but then I realized you were right, because that would mean those little girls aren't the women he's looking for.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 7:09:53 AM   
cumhometodaddy


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Status: offline 		I am surprised that anyone would find unprotected consensual sex unusual between two people in an exclusive committed relationship.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 7:19:07 AM   
MASTERLIX


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Status: offline 		Well, you have to be careful not to confuse Daddy/babygirl with DaddyDom/littlegirl.

Generally, Daddy/babygirl can apply to several dynamic types. Even Leather folks use that as well. But DaddyDom/littlegirl is somewhat specific to a dynamic type and a lifestyle of its own.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 7:19:50 AM   
deliriuminabox


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cumhometodaddy

I am surprised that anyone would find unprotected consensual sex unusual between two people in an exclusive committed relationship.


Its a generational thing, I've noticed. People from my generation and older tend not to find it that unusual. People from the generation after mine and younger are much more aware of the risk and potential for STDs. A lot of the "younger" people I've encountered have never had unprotected sex. Ever. To them, the idea is unheard of, foreign, waaaaay out there.

This, of course, doesn't apply to everyone and I think there are varying ideas of what entails an '"exclusive, committed relationship" ...

I agree that for some people the "Daddy's special gift" line would be really hot. Its not for me but I'm also probably not the sort of Daddy's girl you're seeking. I don't really live in "little space" and when I experience times of being "little", sex is the last thing on my mind.

As to your original comments, I can see how some people would react unpleasantly if they're not into your particular fetish or the way you choose to express your desires. I don't get nasty but I also tend not to respond to men who message me using babytalk simply because they identify as Daddy and I identify as a little girl. I'm a grown woman first and I expect a man to get to know that aspect of me before he moves into the realm of kink. Not having seen the emails you're sending out, I can only make guesses and assumptions though so I could be way off base. :)

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:02:16 AM   
searching4mysir


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Honestly, your username is probably at least a little off-putting. Combine that with how you may/may not be communicating in your introductory email and that could explain the vitriol.

Please look at it from our point of view: 1) we are women FIRST and submissives/littles/babygirls second. It's OK to assume that we already have at least some preference towards kink, so approach us in a 'nilla way; 2) guys come at us all day long with messages offering sex. Sex is easy to get and your username implies that is all you have to offer; 3) if you are copy/pasting basically the same email to everyone, it comes off as lazy and unimaginative.


Now, I'm not saying that you are coming at all women with "on your knees, bitch" but as kinky women we do get an awful lot of that from your brethren.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:06:10 AM   
cumhometodaddy


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Status: offline 		I would simply ask if they are open to a Daddy/littlegirl relationship and if so take a look at my profile and if they are interested then contact me.

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