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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/29/2006 4:55:46 PM

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I did approach it as what I had to offer as well as what I wanted. I found someone pretty quickly and we are presently exploring more... key to how much we enjoy each other... neither one of us have an "it's all about me" attitude, we have "it's all about us" attitude. I think that attitude gets one a lot further in the game of love than any other... just my view... etc

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/29/2006 7:54:51 PM

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I will attempt to answer the Op as sincerely as possible, but from a "what can I do for others" perspective...

I offer companionship, not only on your good days, but on your bad ones too. I have a hug, or a smile ready for those times when you might need them most.

I offer fun and a healthy sense of humor. I can keep you laughing until your sides split. I offer a sense of adventure and encourage you to step outside your everyday routine and do something new. I offer experiences that you might not have thought to try, or maybe were too timid to consider. I offer every tiny bit of information and education I have to give.

I offer trust and faith, and refuse to become jaded because you are not the people from my past who hurt me. I offer you freedom to be happy, even if it's not the happiness I might have chosen for you.

I will bathe you when you're so sick you cannot control your bodily functions, without complaint, and without allowing you to feel you have imposed. I will bandage and care for a wound that, when exposed causes me to sharply inhale at the horror of it. I will hold you close, and let you cry when you brought it on yourself a hundred times before, and always try to understand that your maturity may take longer to develop than Mine did. I will try desperately not to say "I told you so" - even when I did repeatedly.

I offer you my thoughts, warm wishes, and time (probably the most precious thing I have to give). I offer my heart, finances, efforts, and passions....

I offer these things whether you are a friend, lover, or soulmate... because if you offer the same to me, I am the richest person in the world...

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/29/2006 8:06:35 PM

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i offer home cooked meals, cleaning services (both domestic and personal), a friendly ear and a strong shoulder, ( i even do windows)

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/29/2006 8:10:13 PM

Calandra

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hey michael, you following me???? ~winks~

~dropping bread crumbs along the way as I peruse the forums~

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/29/2006 8:11:20 PM

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no, Ma'am...just thought i'd toss out some useless information...LOL

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 2:02:44 PM

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Thank you for answering the question, and doing so in a clear and concise way (which is more than I did in my post apparantly)..
You are a rarity, as you did not pre-judge me for my so called "rant" but actually answered the question. Thank you! You are a treasure!

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ORIGINAL: Calandra

I will attempt to answer the Op as sincerely as possible, but from a "what can I do for others" perspective...

I offer companionship, not only on your good days, but on your bad ones too. I have a hug, or a smile ready for those times when you might need them most.

I offer fun and a healthy sense of humor. I can keep you laughing until your sides split. I offer a sense of adventure and encourage you to step outside your everyday routine and do something new. I offer experiences that you might not have thought to try, or maybe were too timid to consider. I offer every tiny bit of information and education I have to give.

I offer trust and faith, and refuse to become jaded because you are not the people from my past who hurt me. I offer you freedom to be happy, even if it's not the happiness I might have chosen for you.

I will bathe you when you're so sick you cannot control your bodily functions, without complaint, and without allowing you to feel you have imposed. I will bandage and care for a wound that, when exposed causes me to sharply inhale at the horror of it. I will hold you close, and let you cry when you brought it on yourself a hundred times before, and always try to understand that your maturity may take longer to develop than Mine did. I will try desperately not to say "I told you so" - even when I did repeatedly.

I offer you my thoughts, warm wishes, and time (probably the most precious thing I have to give). I offer my heart, finances, efforts, and passions....

I offer these things whether you are a friend, lover, or soulmate... because if you offer the same to me, I am the richest person in the world...

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 5:26:02 PM

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Have you ever considered the fact that the profiles are specifically DESIGNED to solicit such informaton. Just look at the questions the profiles ask you to answer. They are about YOU, and what YOU WANT. It's up to the reader to figure out how that matches what they are looking for.

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 6:57:31 PM

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lol Yes of course, we all want something. Just like when you go to an interview for a job.. You show them what you can do for them, because you need what they have..

Which is the point of the post.. that in order to find what you seek, you must show what you have to offer. It was rhetorical of me to ask, what can you do for me... an attempt to make people THINK.. (as I have all I need, but do appreciate those who can relate to me, and I keep friends)

yeah I should have made it shorter for those who have the 2 second attention span.

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 7:09:27 PM

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LA-

I made no arguments.
And as someone who has made WELL over 5,000 posts, I am sure you have said something countless times.

What can you do for me, or anyone? You offer your wisdom and expertise on a daily basis- all free of charge, to the readers of these forums.
That is what you give. The question was broad, and not limited to BDSM, and really did not pertain to me, as I am not seeking any more than friends and a meeting of the minds, and someone who "gets" me on a deeper level.

For someone who is so sharp you sure as hell missed the target here.

Your arguments have been made and will be made countless times. Some people don't know what they want, or they do know but don't go about it in the right way.

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 7:25:24 PM

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ok I must be someone totally different . I believe if my profile is read I simply tell about me . not so much who I am looking for but it is done in such away that if you read deep you can see what I need to complete me ...... without getting into the you need to be this or that crap ...

I do agree that we are picky as a human being . and theres nothign wrong with being picky . as a human being we have certain qualities that complete who we are

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 6/30/2006 10:11:03 PM

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Decides he will hang it up on the day he gets ruled out, for not having a veeblefetzer fetish.

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 7/1/2006 2:30:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

i offer home cooked meals, cleaning services (both domestic and personal), a friendly ear and a strong shoulder, ( i even do windows)

I want you!

For a man who does windows, I'd switch.

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 7/1/2006 2:36:02 AM

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It's easy to say what we want. But as to what we have to offer - "I'm sweet and cute and have a great sense of humour and ...." Oh puh-lease! Anyone who starts listing their wonderful personal qualities probably doesn't have any. And even if you do, how can you sit there and write a list of how terrific you are.... it's either too much like an advertising spiel, or it's a bit wanky.

Unless, of course, it IS an advertising spiel... but that'd only be for people who are in this for the money...

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RE: WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME - 7/1/2006 10:48:03 AM

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I too have always had issues with listing details. They never seem to really say what's necessary and in the end, who we are to each other will be determined by how we "be" together. We are beings in the literal sense. We are not activity machines or appearance objects; these are just traits. They factor into the equation but are not the equation itself. It's for this reason I find myself feeling most profiles fall very short in describing the the person. It's almost as if it's easier to say who you are not than who you are. This phenomena applies to any profile on any board, BDSM or otherwise.

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