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rant - 8/8/2013 8:09:06 AM

pahunkboy

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So last week a casual friend invites me to a barbeque. He then has a sick brother has to cancel I am fine with that. he laments that his kids never contact him. I called a few times in the past week. He doesnt pick up- and he doesnt return my call- nor does he respond on fb.

He wanted to develop a friendship.

Ignoring somone is not a good way to do this.

I thought maybe something could have gone wrong with the sick brother- but he was posting jokes on his facebook wall.

Dont make me promises you have no intention on keeping.

There is another local guy- he does take my calls and loves our conversation. He also does not smoke. So we could easily hang out.

Both these guys are straight. It is not a hook up. Nor have I mentioned that I am gay.

I find it odd- to reach out to someone then avoid them... and at the same time bitch that your kids want nothing to do with you.

Thiis war veteran I think is fucked up.

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RE: rant - 8/8/2013 11:45:26 AM

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Although primarily intended to provide advise for romantic relationships, the answers you seek may be found in this book, which I was able to borrow from my library:

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love.

According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, one's adult romantic partnerships have patterns similar to those one has as a child with one's parents. Our individual attachment styles are thus, they conclude, hardwired into our brains. Focusing on three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), the authors explain the biological facts behind our relationship needs, teach readers how to identify their own and loved ones' attachment styles, and warn of the emotional price of connecting with someone with drastically different intimacy needs. Teaching readers communication skills to breach these differences, the authors stress that people have very different capacities for intimacy, and that partners must ensure each other's emotional well-being. Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.

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RE: rant - 8/8/2013 11:59:57 AM

stef

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Do you have any relationships that aren't all-out drama fests?

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