KnifeCandy
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Artimis, When I first read your question, it surprised me that you would doubt that you were dominant simply due to your polite choice of language. Now, I'll be the first to admit that I've never actually done a scene with anyone quite so polite, but I am drooling with anticipation because this thread has sooooo many good suggestions! A couple of my faves: quote:
ORIGINAL: Caretakr Oh, it's not really so hard to be elegant-yet nasty. I very seldom raise my voice, or bark like a doggie. While it fails to come across in this medium, the use of voice is very important to cultivate. For instance, if I simply take a firm grasp in the hair..You know the place,back of the head,just above the nape of the neck.......And just sort of sidle up, and growl into an ear........"Off with the panties and bend over..I'm going to hurt you,little bitch." But my voice is smiling...... See, I have made a polite request-no need to be crude! AMEN! Your "the use of voice is very important to cultivate" comment is so dead-on as to almost negate the remainder of the thread. Dominance isn't so much in *what* is said, as *how* it's spoken. Authority need not be loud and obnoxious. quote:
ORIGINAL: SCORPIOXXX In the D/s dynamic/BDSM relationship/ plain old Scene & Play, there are ways of being polite and still also be deliciously Dominant -- "Be good enough to (whatever)", implying that if the sub is not 'good enough' there will be severe consequences; or "Would you be good etc."; Might you consider...", and so on... A lot of it is in how you intone the question: at times matter of factly, other times sarcastically, perhaps in some accented manner (pick your region), or snidely, as if doubting the sub has the wits and capacity to do as asked; and then, there is always that wonderfully haughty and patronizing Oxford English! Mmmm, yup. Nothin' like an accent (in my case, even the annoying cockney of Monty Python works) to get your subbie worked up! Perhaps most importantly, though: quote:
ORIGINAL: WyrdRich Ask yourself this; what is your reaction when a polite request is ignored? I especially like the element that this gives to an interaction. Just as in any other aspect of life, you ask nicely. When that is not acted upon...let the fun begin! <VEG> So please, don't let your urbane instincts make you feel as though you must apply some arbitrary label to yourself...you sound like you've found your true nature as a dominant...don't let your inculcation with politeness stand in the way of making the most of it! Just my 2cents, KC
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