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RE: Would appreciate advice if anyone is willing to hel... - 9/2/2013 9:45:09 AM

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Okay I'm not even sure where to start with all of this except to say that I agree with a very large amount of what was said here.
Yes SomethingCatchy the final bit of your comment is exactly what I meant.
The agression I was talking about ties into my overall view of my mentality. If I had to put a different label I would probably say primal or animalistic. I function on the base instincts and emotions most of the time. Hmm not sure what else to say.

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RE: Would appreciate advice if anyone is willing to hel... - 9/2/2013 10:09:46 AM

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I am considered antisocial because I hate groups that I dont know very well.

Everyone starts off being uncomfortable in a group they don't know. It's how they handle it that shows who they are. At the end if you don't like it, you don't like it. But, letting fear hold you back from even trying it would lump you into the non-dominant category for me.

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So in the beginning many think that I just hate people because in school I was the guy in the back of the class in the black hoody with the hood pulled up staying quiet and according to my friends exuding an aura of f*ck off and die.

Hard to find a mate when you exude "Fuck and die". I would suggest some really deep introspection on that one, because exuding anger isn't a dominant trait, it's a domineering trait. Ultimately, you may was to talk to a counselor to find out where that anger is coming from.

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RE: Would appreciate advice if anyone is willing to hel... - 9/2/2013 10:10:33 PM

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Thank you Oside and at least partially I agree with you. As I saide that aire about me as some have called it is something that I have worked for many years to fix. It hasn't been easy but I have almost got it under control, as far as finding a mate that is precisely how I look at it and have been trying to fix. I have no idea where it comes from it has always just been there. For many years I was emotionally.... stunted because I had literally shut my emotions off to the point that the only things I felt were the emotions that I didnt thi k made me weak. It is only recently hat I have started to open up and understand what I was missing out on for so long.
I know that it is impossible to actually make yourself emotionless or to only block off certain emotions and I wasnt entirely successful but at the same time for the majority of my life I had to watch the people around me just so I would know how I was supposed to act in a given situation. I am getting better and my mom is helping me to break through those barriers but she also told me that it wouldn't be like flipping a switch and I still have to try hard from time to time so that I dont go back to the way I was. But like I have said in reference to trying to find a mate, nothing in life worth having is going to be easy, and the best things are worth fighting for.
So that is where I am at right now. Working to become a good man, working to find my mate and be worthy of her when and if I am that lucky, working to be a good and normal person.

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RE: Would appreciate advice if anyone is willing to hel... - 9/2/2013 10:38:25 PM

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So basically what you're not proud of is being extremely antisocial and psychotic, living in fear and anxiety constantly because everyone around you is either out to get you or you're out to get them?

I think it's cool to be different and not care.

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