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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 3:57:11 AM

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I'm glad you got back to us. I'm sure you've found some comments cruel, they were not meant to be. They are intended to get you to open your eyes about your situation.

Asking to be 'released' in a respectful way in this situation shows how out of touch with reality you are. Master/slave relationships are still relationships, you don't toss out the entire rule book. Someone lying to you and attempting to recruit another 'slave' without telling you are both reasons to break trust in the relationship. I seriously doubt it can be rebuilt.

Eight months is not long enough to know someone well. It's just about long enough to have an idea of who they are. Your 'master' is a liar who loves bringing drama and insecurity to the relationship. Is that what you want?

You are all caught up in the slave fantasy and not seeing the reality of what has occurred.

Please attempt to get your head out of your ass long enough to realize if you want to be a slave, then you need to set some firm boundaries for yourself so you don't get hurt by liars like your 'master.'

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 5:12:10 AM

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I never understood. A relationship is a relationship no matter what kind of relationship it is...and once your gut tells you something isn't right...you should always follow it. Being a slave doesn't mean being brainwashed and so mind-controlled (unless that is what it is) that you cannot think for yourself. Obviously you CAN THINK for yourself or your ass would not have come here to ask questions. If you would like to make the whole ending dramatic and cinematic...drop to your knees with your ass in the air and tell him, "I am fucken leaving you master. It tears me apart." And then stand your ass up and put on some clothes with some nice heels and walk the hec out. There you got your fantasy ending.

Or stay with him. It is your life.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 6:02:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1

Please help!! I have been with my Master for 8 months. When we started our relationship he told me I had to close me collarme account, so I did no questions asked. He has continued to remain on the site and has on two occasions attempted to engage in a new relationship with new slaves on here. I only know this because one of the slaves saw Master and I together and sent me several emails telling me he was a player and cheating on me. I told him I was getting emails from a slave on collarme and what she said. He denied everything, I believed him. She then sent me all the emails between them and told me they were soulmates and she hoped I died. I told him again and sent him all the emails. She then sent a Dom/Master pictures of me and gave him my email address. He then stared contacting me and said he was going to take what belongs to him and he had visions of me crawling in a wedding dress with a collar and leash to him...my rightful owner. I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him. His actions put me in danger. He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again? I feel do open and raw, he broke my heart and slave spirit, what do I do? I love him

If you closed the account...how did you get emails?
Secondly you say you love him; can I ask do you love yourself? Because for me, I have lived in the same house as my partner for a year now and I do love him very much but if he pulled that kind of shit....no matter my feelings for him he would be out the door because obviously he has no regards for the feelings of someone he says he loves and I for one care about myself and my feelings and I refuse to be demeaned in that way.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 7:08:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I'm glad you got back to us. I'm sure you've found some comments cruel, they were not meant to be. They are intended to get you to open your eyes about your situation.

Asking to be 'released' in a respectful way in this situation shows how out of touch with reality you are. Master/slave relationships are still relationships, you don't toss out the entire rule book. Someone lying to you and attempting to recruit another 'slave' without telling you are both reasons to break trust in the relationship. I seriously doubt it can be rebuilt.

Eight months is not long enough to know someone well. It's just about long enough to have an idea of who they are. Your 'master' is a liar who loves bringing drama and insecurity to the relationship. Is that what you want?

You are all caught up in the slave fantasy and not seeing the reality of what has occurred.

Please attempt to get your head out of your ass long enough to realize if you want to be a slave, then you need to set some firm boundaries for yourself so you don't get hurt by liars like your 'master.'

To the OP:
If you don't have the ability to say a strong "No!" does saying yes really mean anything?
Being a slave does not mean being a doormat or a repository for abuse.

What kind of slave do you want to be?

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 9:51:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1
I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.

Well, how convenient. You must have the world's fastest police department. Report made, the aggressor found and arrested in 1.5 hours. (Time between the OP and when this was posted)

I'm calling sock or troll or something.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 12:47:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: theshytype

How did the other slave get your email address? I don't understand how she would have contacted you if your collarme account was closed. Or how she got pictures of you to forward to another Master. I'm so lost.

Hey, stop spoiling a good thread with logic and common sense!

I take pleasure in ruining a perfectly good party with my over-thinking.
Maybe I'm a sadist after all.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 10:52:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1
If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful

Does he have you locked up somewhere? If yes, call the police. If no, fuck "asking to be released", just leave his sorry ass.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 11:12:22 PM

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Holy Jebus on a bleeding bunny surrounded by freshly violated virgins. Is the OP a joke or an advert for therapy?

"I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him." OK, you love people that betray you. What does that say?
" His actions put me in danger." You put yourself in this position and were certainly forewarned.

Seriously, it's not him, it's you. The only questions I see is, are you just desperate or stupid?

He is crushing the life out of me . . . but I love him.
He isolated me from my friends . . . . . . but I love him.
Someone says he is cheating on me . . . but I love him.
People proved he is lying and cheating by sending me evidence . . . but I love him.
Reality is in conflict with the fantasy like pitter patter of my fluffy wuffy bleeding bunny heart . . . but I love him.
Some strange man said aggressive things to me in an email . . . now I blame my master and little bunnies are scared of email !

Seriously, get some therapy.

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 1:23:23 AM

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No I'm not a child. Master/slave should be built on trust.
Yes it should.

Part of me still trust him.
Then you are choosing to be a fool. I respect your choice.

I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.
Good.

I want to believe in my current Master.
Sure you WANT TO. He has chosen to show that he is not worthy of being trusted. I respect that choice too.

If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful
Like this: Walk out the door. He released you when he broke your trust. You don't need to ask. You are simply listening to his actions.

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 4:18:19 AM

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Hey!!!!

Stop hatin' on da bunnies!

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 5:36:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1

No I'm not a child. Master/slave should be built on trust. Part of me still trust him. I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.

I want to believe in my current Master. If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful

You say....with all due respect Sir, you are a lying asshat and this relationship is over. Buh bye.

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 6:21:59 AM

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OP , sweetie, just because you love someone doesn't mean that you have to trust them, respect them or let them stay in your life.

Decide if your life is better with or without him, and act accordingly.

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 8:18:08 AM

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You say....with all due respect Sir

ROFL, one of my favorite lines because it leaves open the question of how much respect is due. The listener inevitably assumes quite a bit more respect than I do when I say that :)

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 1:39:28 PM

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How did the other slave get your email address? I don't understand how she would have contacted you if your collarme account was closed. Or how she got pictures of you to forward to another Master. I'm so lost.

Exactly. Besides, it's just as and more likely the other girl has set the OP up. If you know women then you know this is even more likely the case given all the info presented here and not "your master is a lying bastard" but rather "you were lied to by this girl".

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RE: Help please - 9/8/2013 1:52:45 PM

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OP , sweetie, just because you love someone doesn't mean that you have to trust them, respect them or let them stay in your life.

Decide if your life is better with or without him, and act accordingly.

Most concise and clear post. OP, love is not enough, everything else needs to be in balance. Needlepoint that on a pillow and hold it close.

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RE: Help please - 9/10/2013 4:16:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1
I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.

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Well, how convenient. You must have the world's fastest police department. Report made, the aggressor found and arrested in 1.5 hours. (Time between the OP and when this was posted)

I'm calling sock or troll or something.

It does sound a little suspicious. Account opened in Aug, no profile, and drama.

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RE: Help please - 9/10/2013 4:40:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: LisaAlways

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1
I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.

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Well, how convenient. You must have the world's fastest police department. Report made, the aggressor found and arrested in 1.5 hours. (Time between the OP and when this was posted)

I'm calling sock or troll or something.

It does sound a little suspicious. Account opened in Aug, no profile, and drama.

I'd put money on her having more than one account.

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