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No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:02:40 AM

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To all the dommes who say or complain
there are time wasters
out there.
AND MANY DO COMPLAIN..
AND IT'S WRONG..

IF YOU DO COMPLAIN AND ALWAYS BITCH TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT
ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS FIRST..

NO ONE CAN WASTE YOUR TIME
UNLESS YOU LET THEM
OR ALLOW THEM TO DO IT..

IF YOUR TIME IS WASTED IT'S YOUR FAULT.
NOT THE ONE WHO SUPPOSEDLY WASTED YOUR TIME.
EVERYONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN TIME.

EVERYONE IS THE KING OR QUEEN OF THEIR OWN TIME.

NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BLAME SOMEONE ELSE
FOR WASTING THEIR TIME
CUZ YOU ALLOWED IT TO HAPPEN.

IF YOU FEEL YOUR TIME HAS BEEN WASTED
DON'T WASTE MORE TIME BY BITCHING.
JUST LEAVE.
BUT MANY DOMMES DON'T.
AND THAT IS REALLY DUMB..
THANK YOU
I FELT THIS HAD TO BE SAID..
AND THIS IS 100 PERCENT TRUE EVERYTIME..

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 8:11:21 AM >

RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:12:46 AM

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Boundary violations do occur. Consider the bigger deal of a woman walking in a dark alley wearing a short skirt. She gets raped. It's not her fault -- 100% the rapist's fault -- but it's also true that she engaged in behavior that was not risk-avoiding. It doesn't mean her perpetrator has an excuse, nor should he receive a reduced sentence, but if she continues to engage in risky behavior, she might have issues.

Same thing with online interactions, though on a much smaller scale. Let's take genders out of it. Person A chats with Person B. Person B says a bunch of stuff that is not true, for example promising the moon or otherwise writing checks that can never be cashed. Person A gets excited about the prospect of something nice, and ends up empty handed. Person B's behavior is at least immature, and probably unethical. Not Person A's fault, but on the other hand, if Person A doesn't learn to detect bullshit, and improve filters, then the whole situation will probably repeat itself.

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:15:51 AM

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I appreciate what you said..
100 percent agree
it is the rapist fault absolutely..

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 8:19:52 AM >

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:36:10 AM

NiceButMeanGirl

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Wow, john1001,

Your post here is a very aggressive rant. It's sure not making a good impression. And all caps in online correspondence normally means you are yelling, which is pretty aggressive in itself. Also, I checked out your profile and the entire essay portion where you talk about yourself is all kinks and pretty much nothing else. Considering all that, if you want to be taken seriously, you're going about it all the wrong way.....

NBMG

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:39:26 AM

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I have some aggressive dommes who are after me
with posting evil blogs about me
Just defending myself my dear..
What I said is 100 percent true
that is all that matters
and needed to be said..

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:40:36 AM

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caps are for emphasis and passion not yelling
you would not be happy either
if some people said untruths about you either
and also made false profiles on here about you..
Character assassination is not allowed on here
and some dommes are doing just that
toward me and should be kicked off this site..

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 8:44:23 AM >

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:48:36 AM

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Did you report them for their misbehaviour?

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 8:53:00 AM

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Absolutely I did..
but I don't think anything will come of it..
because they put these evil blogs about me
on another domme site not this one
The domes on that other site
are on this one to
and they are spreading a bad word about me on here..
They know they would be kicked off..
but they did create a phony profile of me with my pic
on here..
Now that should be a ticket for dismissal on here..
but they never were..

I know that because of these blogs
I don't get as many responses on here..

They told me they will not tell me where the blogs are..

They are mad and vicious toward me cuz
I would not give them money on here.
CM says specifically
NOT TO GIVE MONEY TO ANYONE ON HERE
FOR ANY REASON..
I was only following the rules on CM.

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 8:58:25 AM >

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:03:06 AM

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With all due respect mistress
I do state I am a karaoke singer and host
and I sing over 4000 songs in karaoke on stage..
That is a big something
Music is my life
and I am a professional worker
Those are just fetishes that come and go in my mind
I don't live the lifestyle..

Take care mistress

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:11:21 AM

MAINEiacMISTRESS

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For the record, time wasters are those who PLEDGE themselves to a Domme, swear they want to commit, spend days/weeks building a relationship and saying they want to meet...but when it comes time to bring the relationship to real life they POOF or make some excuse (i.e. "my friend's dad died and I need to be there for her"). I have known several very nice Dommes who've grown attached to a sub but were actually stood up at restaurants etc. because the guys chickened out. I've even had a couple Myself change their tune after I offered to meet them for a friendly lunch. Many men are on here just to lead others on so they can have their fantasies, with no intention of meeting face to face.

The only way to AVOID it (if, as you say, it's the Domme's fault for ALLOWING Her time to be wasted), is to REQUIRE TRIBUTE UP FRONT to prove true intent before allowing communications....but then you all whine if She does THAT.

I respond to your complaint of "aggressive Dommes are after me" by saying, NO ONE CAN ABUSE YOU UNLESS YOU LET THEM. CollarMe has a 'REPORT' feature for profiles that have slanderous comments, as well as 'BLOCK' and 'HIDE PROFILE'. They are there for a REASON. I suggest you get familiar with them.

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:15:26 AM

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The way I see things is pretty much this.

Q: Why did that man waste my time?
A: He was probably lying, either to you or to himself.

Q: Why do all the men I talk to waste my time and treat me like an object?
A: You have poor social skills.

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and then, for the bonus round...

Q: Why do I have to defend myself from those horrible women with their evil blogs?
A: Calm the fuck down and think about how you got into this situation in the first place.

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Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:16:36 AM

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Many Dommes have told me they
want me then leave and break my heart
or hurt me
It works both ways..
Women do it also to men on here..
that is life..

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:18:42 AM

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They are posting evil blogs about me character assassinating me
on other websites
to dommes to make me look bad
on here..
My dear that is being abused without my control..
That is being abused and you can't control that..

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 9:31:05 AM >

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:21:36 AM

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My dear
you can control your own time
but you can't control
if someone wants to abuse you online..
That is a fact..
so you are very wrong when you say
no one can abuse you unless you allow it..

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:25:25 AM

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I say to all you dommes
calm down if someone wastes your time
which they don't
you do all by yourself.

I may say I have had many dommes
waste my time based on your logic
by saying they will stick around they do
then they go away for no reason
That is a domme wasting a sub's time? right?

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:26:32 AM

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The more you type, the more it seems as though the ladies might have a point.

First rule when in a hole? Stop digging.

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Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:27:07 AM

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with all due respect mistress
tribute is not legal on CM
It says never give money to anyone on CM
for any reason..
That is CM's rules..

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:33:06 AM

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What I have typed is right on 100 percent
I can't see how anyone with a brain
cannot agree or understand what I am saying..
Makes perfect sense..

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:37:31 AM

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FWIW, this poster has been here many times before and every thread he starts or hijacks blows up into a tantrum on his part. He also will carry on a campaign with selected women of writing them and being completely obnoxious. His posting history stands for itself.

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RE: No one can waste your time unless you let them - 9/7/2013 9:39:20 AM

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What I said is a very smart thread and
is true..
I am calm
but you wouldn't be
if this was happening to you..

Character assassination is not allowed on here my dear.
Be careful
I am not attacking anyone 's reputation but you are..

This is a discussion not an argument
Thank You..

< Message edited by john1001 -- 9/7/2013 9:40:30 AM >

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