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NiceAnimal -> RE: Hi, I am a Master... (9/13/2013 6:37:53 AM)
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It's probably entirely viable, if she had a certain kind of issue. But the vagueness makes commentary impossible, and such a thing would be an intuitive and logical art, not something to be explained on the internet.
Far more practical and common sense would be things that conventional wisdom says restores confidence - hypnosis/trance methods, therapy, peer support, mastering skills, achieving goals, talking over past issues.
Of course you don't say what kind of confidence or confusion, or what degree, and what exactly it comes from.
Ive heard it, and consider it _possible_ to overcome forms of abuse, by BDSM within a healthy and trusting environment. Intimacy and trust are generally higher, so that alone contributes....however..
Its not like this has been an area of scientific study, or that there is an established protocol. There's no way that BDSM can be legitimately treated as some kind of therapy at all, and if it is, (and only by the participants choice, not by seeing it as an established protocol), then it must be their choice knowing that its not.
Personally I think pain and sex are powerful and one should always be wary of any kind of mental unbalance, rather than seeing mental imbalance and thinking, yes BDSM, you should be thinking, mental balance first, or at minimum balancing during the process if there is any unbalance.
And now for something somewhat non-kink - one thing that increases trust, sense of wellbeing, and happiness is a hug, or intimate touch (and also of course, showing, feeling, expressing or receiving empathy). So, regardless of the other courses of action that might be recommended depending on the scale of the issue, and the persons own inclination (could be a good idea to field the persons own feelings about what may help, and how they feel, after all that is the subject/objective) - hugs and care, listening and other activities that show care are sure to help. That and the gentle and patient building of trust general, as well as in your sexual life, if indeed you both consider that wise.
You say your doing a daddy age play role thing. That would be kinda perfect for expressing the care/affection side yes? Either way, I think on a personal/relationship level, that last bit it the obvious go to for someone who has trust or confidence issues from past trauma - build trust up slow, use the natural biological carriers to boost that trust, ie caring touch and communication.
You'll do whatever you'll do, but thats my 2c.
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