BecomingV
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The NCSF - National Coalition for Sexual Freedom has issued its "Consent Statement." https://www.ncsfreedom.org/ On page 3, under the heading, "Consent is given by an adult with a sound mind," the section ends with this sentence: "Finally, in order to give consent, you must be in a clear-headed state of mind, not impaired by alcohol, prescription medicine or recreational drugs." Considering that the NCSF exists to fight for rights in the criminal justice system, and this ^^^ is the stance on ethical responsibility, it appears that regardless of laws, the majority of the BDSM community would not support the people involved in this situation. IMO, injury and/or death, caused by an intoxicated person, should be met with the harshest of consequences, whether vanilla or BDSM related. Drunk drivers, for instance, are overwhelmingly charged with manslaughter. If I ruled the world, this would not be! Why? It's an avoidable crime, based on selfish, egotistical and sometimes, greedy motives. If heading out to drink, have a few less and pay for the cab. Arrange for a designated driver. Or, sleep over at the host's home. There are choices present. In BDSM, accidents can, and do, happen. I do not give support, sympathy or understanding to those who flaunt the risks. I'm not a lawyer but I feel competent to judge reckless disregard for human life, which is how I see this incident. We all know that juries don't get the full story anyway - facts are manipulated, hidden and discarded on technicalities, so I reject the notion that only a jury can know what really happened. The article states that the male top talked about his difficulty getting to his knife because he chose to tie himself up, too, out of reach of the knife. If the article mis-quoted him, well, that's another story. As stated, I hold the top responsible. The main reason I prefer the company of the rope crowd, above all other segments of the BDSM community, is because the risks are so high, there is an understanding that responsibility for caring for human life is more than a sentiment. Caring means getting educated, getting trained (practice while a mentor gives feedback) and accepting responsibility for the rope bottom. The rope bottoms take responsibility for communicating honestly about what they are experiencing, about the physical condition of their bodies and about their mental state during any point of play. It's not blind trust... it's earned trust in action. And, it's very, very fun. This is a very different scenario than the one presented in the articles. What he calls BDSM gone wrong - I call BS! ETA - I hit reply to MariaB but this comment is meant as a general, fast reply.
< Message edited by BecomingV -- 11/26/2013 5:17:38 AM >
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