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Is sex the death of romance

I am a /s Fem and sex kills romance

3% (2)

I am a D/ Fem and sex kills romance

0% (0)

I am a /s Male and sex kills romance

0% (0)

I am a D/ Male and sex kills romance

1% (1)

I am a /s Fem and sex doesn't kill romance

38% (20)

I am a /s Male and sex doesn't kill romance

5% (3)

I am a D/ Fem and sex doesn't kill romance

11% (6)

I am a D/ Male and sex doesn't kill romance

13% (7)

What the hell is sex?

1% (1)

What the hell is romance?

7% (4)

I am a D/s Fem and sex kills romance

1% (1)

I am a D/s Male and sex kills romance

0% (0)

I am a D/s Male and sex doesn't kill romance

1% (1)

I am a D/s Fem and sex doesn't kill romance

11% (6)

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 4:37:38 AM

LaTigresse

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What the hell is sex?!?!?!

But seriously, and probably the reason I answered as I did, if I wanted a quick fix I can do it myself. If I am going to be intimate with someone I want the whole meal. I love love and romance, sex without it is for me just empty. It leaves an icky feeling behind. I adore great sex but I do not think sex is necessary for ones survival, I can do quite well without. Never have been into the whole go out, get half snockered, drag some half snockered person home, lots of drunken groping and moaning, pass out, wake up looking at someone you barely know and think.......what the hell did I do?........and send em off with a styrofoam cuppa java. That was my lil sisters' bag. I am not a prude and thats your thing more power to you, I have often thought it might be alot easier. It's just not for me.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 5:52:45 AM

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Sex is not the end of romance. The lack of trying is the end of romance. It takes work to be romantic. Especially over long periods of time. I think people just fizzle with it after a long while.You can sorta feel like you've tried it all, done it all.

Im not sure if one can be romantic for 40 years straight with the same person. I havent seen it done for that long. 15 years is the longest Ive seen it happen so far.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 6:02:27 AM

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I want romance, I want to be wooed, just because I am a Dominant does not mean I do not want or seek to be romanced--

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 6:09:32 AM

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Romance does nothing for me, I actually do not understand it much :).

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 6:11:19 AM

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On second thoughts. If romance is the art of seduction and getting into someone's pants, it isn't dead but it is just a sugar coating that most people seem to require in order to engage sexually with someone.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 6:58:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

On second thoughts. If romance is the art of seduction and getting into someone's pants, it isn't dead but it is just a sugar coating that most people seem to require in order to engage sexually with someone.

Notice, I never mentioned sex.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 7:21:34 AM

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Sex doesn't have to be the death of romance. I think if anything is the death of romance, it's familiarity. However, I have a young friend whom I very much admire and which I could clone. He and his wife have the relationship many of us wish for. After seven years of marriage and two children, they are still muckin like fonkeys on a daily basis, he still plans romantic dinners and escapades for every birthday, anniversary, etc. They are absolutely besotted with each other. But, it takes the EFFORT. Most people get lazy and don't care about making the effort after awhile. It's really nothing to do with sex, I don't think.

Loki, ya left off none of the above.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 7:28:28 AM

CrappyDom

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It isn't sex that kills romance, it why people choose to have sex, and what they see romance as, that kills all of it. Some seek conquest so once they have sex they lose interest. Some people offer sex to lure a partner and then lose interest in it, again it isn't the sex that killed it, it is the motivation behind offering it that killed it.

Some seek a partner with whom they can build something magical, sex doesn't and can't kill that, it only enhances it regardless if it started as a zipless fuck (anyone old enough to remember THAT term?) or as the result of a long romantic seduction.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 7:49:56 AM

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Sex and romance can inspire eachother or quiet eachither- depending on the person and relationship.

FOr me what's important is the connection. And you can grow an intense connection no matter what action you are doing.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 7:52:24 AM

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The couple I am speaking of met on a plane and within 20 minutes were joining the Mile High club. The only time they've been separated since was when she flew home to pack up her stuff to move to be with him. He followed her a week later with a moving van.

I'm envious of them, but I adore them.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 7:56:47 AM

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Sex can raise the level of romance through intimacy, like little else. To be lost in another's arms, bodies moving in unison, soft moans escaping lips, fingers tracing curves and hips.... with someone that holds your heart, oh, it feeds romance to my mind.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 8:00:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I want romance, I want to be wooed, just because I am a Dominant does not mean I do not want or seek to be romanced--

Changing Dominant to submissive.... leaving the sex out too ... and yep... nothing wrong with a little.. oh hell ... alot of romance....

I think SOME ( a few too many i've run across in my years) think bdsm means not having to woo someone... court... date.... they seem to think... me dom ... you sub.. (thinking me tarzan you jane here...lol).. alot ... not all... but alot... forget.. or ignore romance... shame too... just one of the finer things in life that is slowly disappearing.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 8:00:54 AM

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Sex, in all its forms, completes the circle of romance. A touch becomes a promise. A spoken thought creates a mental image of what is to come.

Sex without romance is like BDSM without sex. We KNOW we'll get argument on that opinion. Not that either can be accomplished without the other, but from our experience, standing alone they don't achieve their full potential.

Edited to add: There is no place for us as a couple to answer the poll either.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 8:24:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

Sex can raise the level of romance through intimacy, like little else. To be lost in another's arms, bodies moving in unison, soft moans escaping lips, fingers tracing curves and hips.... with someone that holds your heart, oh, it feeds romance to my mind.

what he said

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 8:41:07 AM

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*grins and turns up the air conditioner*

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 8:57:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

*grins and turns up the air conditioner*

I believe that a relationship should be filled with passion:

Passion in, of and for romance

Passion manifested in the emotional, physical and hormonal sense

Passion for what he is, for what he lays at My feet, for his uncanny trust that the lash will always fall correctly

Passion for what She needs, seeks, desires and takes.

Passion makes the blood boil, the loins hot, the air thick and the tension unbearable.

Passion says, I am all that I am, take all that I am, I give all that I am.

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 10:35:11 AM

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Sex is the enhancement of romance..the ultimate intimacy..as close as two seperate beings can achieve...you can achieve such incredible highs through sex..so what can be more romantic that that?..to me the two can be and should be the goal..romance and sex...fabulous topic Loki...Tempting

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RE: Is sex the death of romance - 7/2/2006 10:55:54 AM

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No choice for me.

I am a Dominant genderqueer, and sex does not kill romance. :P

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