LadiesBladewing
Posts: 944
Joined: 8/31/2005 Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: zenofeller Another thread here suggested this question. In the age honored traditions here at CM, let's start with personal experience. These may apply to dom's and various styles of tops too, maybe to a lesser degree. I consider the Master to be responsible for any and all developments in the slave's health and physical integrity. If she cuts herself, it's the Master's failure at teaching her to pay attention. If she develops breast cancer, it's the Master's failure at making her go take the tests as she was supposed to. If she gets hit by a meteor, it's the Master's failure at protecting his property from meteors. I understand this may seem to many an extreme stand. I'd be more than happy to hear any discussion above that simple statement. However, I would also like to distinguish the question of responsibility, as such, from the question of coping. Arguments like "x can't be the Master's responsibility because I/anyone could never cope with that" are false by default. Things are what they are, and if you can't cope you probably don't belong there. So, separately, I'd be also more than happy to hear any discussion about coping with the responsibility. As long as it's kept more or less clearly separated from actual discussion of responsibility. An owner's responsibilities are what they are. As I said in another post, at the point where a servant has yielded hirself completely, the responsibility upon the owner is profound. However, no-one can be "responsible" for that which is unanticipateable. From my experience in working in clinical cancer research, I can tell you that cancer is not something one can plan for or against. Even regular mammograms and good BSE will not always prevent breast cancer -- and there -are- no "warning" tests for other types of cancer, or other health issues. I believe that situations do not always fall under the category of "preventable situation", and "accidents" happen for reasons that have nothing to do with, say, whether or not a given servant is paying attention as instructed. I do not believe that an owner is always responsible for the -cause- of a situation. What an owner -is- responsible for is how the situation is managed once it becomes apparent. In a situation where we are the power in a relationship, it must also be recongized that we will be the one to be looked towards when things go wrong, and we must have a plan in place to deal with both the common and the uncommon crises of life, both for ourselves, and for those whom we are responsible. In terms of coping -- we cope with what we must. Unless one wishes to abdicate ownership, life, or both, even when it seems that there is -no- solution, we -must- remain open, and flexible. Sometimes, the best we will be able to do is handle this moment, and so we must do so. Sometimes, it is valuable to look far ahead, to see what options are open -- and it is wise to search out the hows and whys. ZWD
_____________________________
"Should have", "could have", "would have" and "can't" may be the most dangerous phrases in the English language. Bladewing Enclave
|