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RE: Third person talk - 10/20/2013 5:26:29 PM

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Only the mods can close a thread. This is just normal conversational drift. You gave birth to this thread, but it's taken on its own life now.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/20/2013 5:53:03 PM

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If it's not your kink...

I don't believe it is a kink. Neither is slashy S/speak. Neither is walking around talking like a pirate. It's an affectation. And people are allowed to express dislike of kinks...which is different than kink bashing.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/20/2013 6:06:13 PM

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All I know is in all my years of being involved in the kink community I have never ever seen this as an ongoing part of a dynamic.

And I think the OP is reading a whole lot into it, which for them if it makes them happy, whatever.

For me it is a red flag that people likely do not know what they're talking about.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/20/2013 7:17:44 PM

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Greetings,

I use it as a training tool, bringing the mindset of the female to a stage where she knows how she is to be treated and how that even her speech is to be ruled by my thoughts. It is simple in my eyes because I am a simple person. The major thing and it is utmost, for I do not have her speak at work in 3rd person, she speaks normally, for my private life is mine and no one elses.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/20/2013 8:11:49 PM

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Master will have me speak in 3rd person sometimes calling myself "it". It reminds me that is what I am for him. I am his property. He does this when he feels I'm getting too big for my britches or sometimes just because the mood hits him. It nothing to do with being insecure. But we also don't go around saying it to others because it's just not cool. It's rude to push yourself onto others. This is something between me and him. So if someone messages me, I just delete their emails and think to myself that they have read too many bdsm fiction stories. They are not in a relationship with me so I just see them as just being rude.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/21/2013 3:32:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I don't believe it is a kink. Neither is walking around talking like a pirate

*sadface*

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RE: Third person talk - 10/21/2013 1:19:53 PM

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If I ever receive a message in third person (Master has found your profile interesting, for example.) I reply for him to have his master contact me directly. This may go back and forth until he breaks down into ordinary conversation. Forcing people to communicate my way- perhaps that's my kink!

PS: For Halloween, I'll be a walking talking pirate wench. Aarr!

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RE: Third person talk - 10/22/2013 8:29:56 AM

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~fast reply~
My personal guess... people are complicated and they choose specific speech patterns for a wide variety of reasons. I'd be unwilling to generalize.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/23/2013 4:15:27 PM

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I come from a different angle... If it works in a relationship who am I to say... For the posters who've said it's typical of someone new to use 3rd person speak are just full of shit. It always amazes me that folks on here don't like something they immediately discredit "it". Whatever the "it" of the day is.

I've known plenty of folks with years and years of experience that use 3 rd speak. Case in point. Someone I've known for more years than I care to count... Her new partner/master required her to at times use 3rd person speak. She told me once she got the hang of it she liked doing it.

On a personal note ...Not a fan.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/23/2013 6:39:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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My personal guess... people are complicated and they choose specific speech patterns for a wide variety of reasons. I'd be unwilling to generalize.

Yeah this is pretty much my take on it.

I remember beth from Mercnbeth speaking very eloquently in 3rd person, because he preferred it and had his reasons, which were nobody's business but theirs.

Now, I do see others doing it far less eloquently and I find it difficult to read/comprehend, so I tend to skip past it.

So, like SailingBum, I'm personally not a fan but hey to each their own. It's just where they are in life right now and it works for them.

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RE: Third person talk - 10/23/2013 7:11:31 PM

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i think it might have to do with someone wanting to play a role, as obvious as it sounds. Someone wants their life to be this dramatic, theatrical and sensual thing. And yet, OP, you have the right idea i believe..Its a dodging thing, someone not willing to have a real conversation

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RE: Third person talk - 10/23/2013 7:21:51 PM

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Not a fan of third person speech either. I'll ask someone to please stop if they are communicating privately with me and begin utilizing it. But other than that, to each their own and do you...or him...or her...or it?