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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/25/2013 11:00:10 PM

AthenaSurrenders

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne

I am just exploring submissiveness with a fellow domme who has a submissive side to her.
I offer personalised domination to all my slaves and make a concerted effort to know each and everyone one of them.
You assuming otherwise is

This should make things easier for you then. If she usually indentifies as domme I would think that she can identify what areas she would like to explore with you from the other side. She also (hopefully) will understand the importance of communicating with you and making sure you are both getting what you need.

She's approached you for a reason. Talk to her and see what the two of you come up with. You won't lose dom-points for talking things through. If fact, if I were in her position my respect for you as a dominant would go up because I'd see that you had common sense and were working with me.

Part of the problem is that the majority of people active on the forums have real time power exchange relationships, rather than cam relationships or just play. Not that there's anything wrong with what you guys are doing, but it's different. It seems illogical to folks who live with their subs/doms to have to invent tasks for the sake of it since most tasks for them arise naturally for the situation. If you are just experimenting with kink online, the rules are different. It sounds like you will be service topping as a favour to a friend, so only you guys can know what's going to be satisfying.

Also your profile - which is all we know about you - seems focused on a pay-for-play type service. I think a lot of people will think it reflects badly that you are asking for ideas because you don't have your own, but still charging. Yes, I know, this is not your usual client, but these are transferable skills. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want to be dominated by random internet forum users - she wants you, and the things that you think up.

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 8:27:55 AM

tommonymous

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For what it's worth: Since you and your prospective sub seem to have an online relationship, you might consider giving her research tasks. If you're online only she obviously can't perform any of the stereotypical domestic tasks that require physical presence. But, information is easily transmitted.

If you're interested in learning more about a specific topic, have her prepare a one-page executive summary, along with a list for further reading and a brief synopsis for each suggestion. If you've got a major purchase coming up, she can research the options, provide pros and cons for each, and provide a list of sources, pricing, and etc.

She has a focus for her desire to serve and be useful, and any reward that might come along with that (simple satisfaction or otherwise). You get some help with life, and the knowledge that your submissive is working hard for you. Obviously, you know much better than any of us whether she'd be a good person to give these sorts of assignments to.

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 12:06:31 PM

orgasmdenial12

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne
Online what keeps you engaged?

Really great conversation, in depth, exploratory, confessional, feeling that person's spirit through the printed words on the screen.

Knowing when to push me to do something, and when to ask rather than order.

Honesty, approachableness, being accessible and friendly.

Filth, when I want it.

Platonic company, when I want it.

Fun activities that don't involve me taking smutty pictures of myself and sending them to the Domly one.

Mentally holding my hand when you're hurting me, and talking about the experience.

Lots of attention.

Not an easy list, by any stretch of the imagination, but you did ask :-)

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 4:31:48 PM

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I think the meaning behind the original post has been lost.

As a sub in the past I have been giving tasks and assignments. I do not consider them to be a waste of time. For instance, I am living with my ex who was my dom at the time. To keep me interested and educated he would have me come up with lists of things I wanted to try and include reasons why they intrigued me. The assignment would need to be finished by the time he got home. These types of assignments were not meaningless or worthless. He was creating tasks for me while learning about my likes, dislikes and the way I think and see things in order to understand me. To me, there is nothing more important in this kind of relationship. Not to mention it would be the foundation for deeper conversations and experiments later down the road. For me to take it seriously and not brush it off, showed my respect for him and that I was serious that I wanted to submit to him. This would also be a way of bringing up things that I had thought about but never voiced. writing for me is a way to clarify my thoughts and feelings in a calm, logical manner. Regardless of gender, this could be an effective tool if assignments or tasks are being considered.

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 7:34:04 PM

littlewonder

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tasks:

Take my meds
Get to work on time
Make sure I stay healthy
Obey
Please him
be a responsible and sane person.
Take care of my daughter when need be
Take care of him
Make dinner
make his tea
wash the clothes
take out the garbage
wash the dishes
clean the house
buy him something that he needs at the store
go grocery shopping
pay the bills

I think I could go on and on and on.....do you get it yet?
And no we're not online and online does nothing really for each of us.

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 8:45:06 PM

graceadieu

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne

I so far have only dealt with men.
Wanted to know what female subs enjoy as tasks/assignments from their dommes.
Any fantasies you want played out?
Online what keeps you engaged?

Hmm, well, tomorrow I'm going to design a flyer, put together some business documents, clean, and cook breakfast and dinner. Those are the kind of "tasks" I do, though perhaps not what you were looking for.

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RE: Female Subs.What tasks/assignments have you been gi... - 10/28/2013 8:56:13 PM

sunshinemiss

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make a to do list every day.
track my expenditures
research PhD options
go for a bike ride when I'm sad
buy a couch (that one was WAY harder than it would seem - for pragmatic reasons)
get rid of any trigger foods in my home
learn how to do a traditional Korean tea ceremony
wear a scarf of a particular color
be kind to myself

that's about it... except for a couple of fairly private ones...

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